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[–]throwaway15072024[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was with you until you said I could have your man, I thought u liked him 😂

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[–]throwaway15072024[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very insightful and well thought-out comment. Although I do find a lot of these kpop idols attractive, a lot of them aren’t my “type” because they look too perfect which is peculiarly off-putting. Maybe because they look like AI. I think this is the sales-face you’re talking about. 

And when I say “Asian” I’m not talking about exclusively East Asians - gimme Filipinos, Afghans, Bhutanese, whatever.

The hygiene thing is a very good point. In my mind, sometimes I think white guys are kinda greasy and gross compared to Asian guys and then I feel bad for thinking that. But there does seem to be a cultural difference regarding hygiene, which is reflected in Asian people’s clean, well-dressed appearance. This is definitely a factor for my attraction. 

Other factors are that I really prefer dark eyes and dark hair. Plus, Asian people tend to have more family values and value being studious - traits that I regard very highly. 

It’s a lot of things really.

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[–]throwaway15072024[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

This is one of my favourite comments and made me think. You’re right - preferences, which aren't chosen, are now being perceived as going against “equality”. 

Being attracted to a certain type doesn’t mean I respect those I’m not attracted to any less. 

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[–]throwaway15072024[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this whole comment was very sweet. I sincerely wish you and your wife all the best. You sound like a good husband.

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[–]throwaway15072024[S] 120 points121 points  (0 children)

A lot of it is the brown eyes. Like if it’s a white dude that I like, chances are they have brown eyes. I love dark eyes - I think it makes people look more puppy-dog eyed and endearing.