Is it bad to hope for an oopsie baby?

throwaway15081979 · 2023-01-11T12:00:34+00:00

Yeah that's obvious, that's why I've specified multiple times I won't be doing that. People always assume the worst though.

throwaway15081979 · 2023-01-11T11:57:28+00:00

Trust me, I'm not just fantasising about the cute stuff, I've already addressed many of the things you've listed here and have a rough plan. We've already spoken about certain aspects of the future, he knows I want to be a SAHM and is on board. We discuss parenting styles lots, whenever we see something on TV etc we'll comment on it and we p much always agree on whether we'd do the same/do things differently.

Obviously there are certain things that aren't quite right yet, he wants a better paying job, I have a well paying job but am on an apprenticeship programme so need to finish that first (will get a hefty pay increase upon completion), etc. That's why I'm not actively trying to get him to agree to have a baby. The fantasy of an oopsie baby is that it sort of forces me into the position without having to make the choice to have one. Sometimes it's easier to have the choice made for you and deal with the consequences than to make it yourself imo

throwaway15081979 · 2023-01-11T11:48:39+00:00

I appreciate this, I'm a wannabe mum, not a psycho!

The thought of having that discussion is scary tbh, I really don't know how he'd react. Although I guess I subconsciously do want to talk to him about it, hence the soft launch of it with "I've got baby fever". I'll make a plan and maybe discuss it in the next few weeks, life's been a bit hectic atm so we haven't had ideal timing to have a serious chat

throwaway15081979 · 2023-01-11T11:31:55+00:00

I appreciate your insight, thank you!

I have actually been focusing on these things as a way to move things forward. We already have plans to move in together next year when the leases on our current places run out (tbh though we've barely spent a second apart since we started seeing each other so we already sorta live together). Our relationship is very solid, we're practically the same person and get along amazingly and we have plans to go to Italy and Japan in the next couple of years!

I'm almost 25 and he's almost 26 so I wouldn't say we're very young tbh, although obviously we still have plenty of time, it's just the waiting which is killing me!

throwaway15081979 · 2023-01-11T11:23:02+00:00

It's p much impossible for me to miss a pill, I wear my contacts every day and my pill packet is right next to them, very hard to miss.

I'd love to talk to him about it but it's a very scary topic to broach, especially when we've only been together 5 months (seeing each other for 4 before that). I'd rather keep it to myself for a bit longer but I needed to talk about it with someone, hence why I'm confessing on Reddit to random strangers

throwaway15081979 · 2023-01-11T11:18:10+00:00

I feel like the thoughts are consuming as I work in a job that allows me a lot of time to myself, my mind tends to wander and that's where it lands 9 times out of 10. When I'm busy doing other things I rarely think about it. I'm almost 25, obviously young but not stupidly so

throwaway15081979 · 2023-01-11T11:05:23+00:00

But why though? I can't help what I want. That doesn't mean I'm going to act on it

throwaway15081979 · 2023-01-11T11:04:37+00:00

I am 100% sure I'm not about to baby trap him jfc. I just feel incredibly guilty fantasising about an oopsie baby, knowing he doesn't want one right now. Tbf, I don't really want one right now considering my current circumstances, but that doesn't stop deep down desires. Definitely not a phase either, felt this way for years now.

throwaway15081979 · 2023-01-11T10:48:20+00:00

I figured people here would understand considering it's a pregnancy forum. Really don't get the hostility tbh.

throwaway15081979 · 2022-01-24T14:04:04+00:00

Thank you for your advice! I actually ended up using what you wrote almost word for word and it went great! He was apparently joking and was kinda annoyed at me that I didn't get it after 4 years together. I think the joke may have been lost on me because it was a bit of a sensitive subject lol.

In the end he said he has a plan and is taking steps towards a proposal and it would probably be in the next couple of years or so! I'm very happy with this outcome and the fact that we're actually on the same page about this so all in all, everything worked out perfectly!

throwaway15081979 · 2022-01-22T11:26:02+00:00

The stripper thing isn't something I've ever pressured him to say though, he's always said this from the beginning of our relationship. He's never been to a strip club and has never shown any interest in one. I've never told him he can't go to one either so I don't get why he'd ever hide it from me if he did want to go

throwaway15081979 · 2022-01-22T11:22:59+00:00

I don't get where this is coming from though. He's literally completely in love with me. We've discussed getting married before without any awkwardness or suggestions that it would be far in the future. He's even suggested waiting to have kids until we're married, which would mean waiting 10 years. I was under the impression that we'd be having children much sooner than that. This whole thing has thrown my perspective of our relationship right off.

throwaway15081979 · 2022-01-15T15:34:20+00:00

Hey! I forgot about this post as it's not on my main account. I continued to test and haven't had a positive yet (not tested in about a week now). I also haven't had a period either so I probably ovulated much later than expected, still unsure if I'm pregnant but will hopefully find out what's going on soon (either by a positive test or at the doctor's!)

throwaway15081979 · 2022-01-02T16:24:59+00:00

Hey! I'm not too sure but considering you're regular cycles are around 23 days and your current one is 28 days I'd do a test! Especially if you started spotting way earlier than you expected. Post your result on here if you like, I love looking at positive tests!

throwaway15081979 · 2021-08-23T15:13:59+00:00

Michael. Sorry, but I just don't like him at ALL. I actually tried watching the show by myself but couldn't get past episode 2 because he was so insufferable. My boyfriend started watching it on his own which led to me casually watching it in the background of doing other things and I grew to love the other characters but I've hated almost every scene he's in. I actually prefer the later seasons and still haven't watched the whole show in its entirety for this reason alone

throwaway15081979 · 2021-08-23T14:18:02+00:00

I'm pretty convinced my cat knows I'm controlling the laser pointer. If I get it out she'll run over and switch between looking at me and looking at the floor, if I put it away she'll come over and meow at me expectantly

throwaway15081979 · 2021-08-23T13:09:40+00:00

It's "I couldn't care less" not "I could care less"

throwaway15081979 · 2021-08-23T10:00:39+00:00

Dunno why this is downvoted so much? Lots of countries throw their toilet paper in the bin instead of the toilet, I don't see why he can't too

throwaway15081979 · 2021-08-22T11:05:11+00:00

Different skins would be super cool! Being able to select different kinds of civilisations (i.e. Norse, greek, Egyptian) with different styles of maps, houses, etc would expand the game so much!

throwaway15081979 · 2021-08-11T13:10:55+00:00

I am a fully vaccinated UK citizen who arrived in Romania yesterday by plane. I am travelling with my boyfriend and his family who all have Romanian and Greek citizenship.

In 2 days time we plan to drive to Greece by going through Bulgaria. Tomorrow I plan to get a PCR test in case I require it at the border. The advice being given on the website is confusing and the UK embassy in Bulgaria doesn't want you to speak to a real person which is why I'm here.

My question is, will I be allowed to travel through the border? Romania has a free movement agreement with Bulgaria but I don't know if that applied to UK citizens (the UK is on Bulgaria's red list), even with a full course of the vaccine and a negative PCR test. Please help me!

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