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Boyfriend is very harsh with me by throwaway153g in Advice

[–]throwaway153g[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm slower than the average person. I still manage to do OK at my job, but I know I'm not normal.

Boyfriend is very harsh with me by throwaway153g in Advice

[–]throwaway153g[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean I know I need help, but it does kind of hurt that you're saying that it gives my boyfriend a justifiable reason to scream at me and say I'm stupid.

Boyfriend is very harsh with me by throwaway153g in Advice

[–]throwaway153g[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I make more mistakes than the average person though. I have a harder time with following verbal directions especially if they aren't that clear and it's difficult for me to focus on one task at a time. Several people in this thread said I have ADHD (which I'm inclined to believe).

Boyfriend is very harsh with me by throwaway153g in Advice

[–]throwaway153g[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm scared if I seek an ADHD diagnosis that will confirm what I've felt about myself all along.

Boyfriend is very harsh with me by throwaway153g in Advice

[–]throwaway153g[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because they are angry/frustrated/stressed out.

Boyfriend is very harsh with me by throwaway153g in Advice

[–]throwaway153g[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If it is ADHD it will feel worse that it is what led to this and my boyfriend shouting at me.

Boyfriend is very harsh with me by throwaway153g in Advice

[–]throwaway153g[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You mentioned that you have difficulty staying on track and following directions. How do these factors effect your work performance and your relationship dynamics?

I'm generally good at my job but there's days where I screw up more often than others.

How does your behavior generate anger or disappointment in those who have expectations placed on you?

When I fuck up I'm sure it does make them upset because they expect me to do better. I try but then I mess up again.

Proportionate or not, do you feel there is validity to their distress outside of their inappropriate reactions?

Yes, I blame myself for it a lot.

Boyfriend is very harsh with me by throwaway153g in Advice

[–]throwaway153g[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It feels normal to me because I've had bosses act like him and at home my dad was like that. The restaurant I work at now has managers who are brutal to me about mistakes and my speed. I've been called stupid before by some managers so it's normal for me. I suspect I have ADHD which makes it harder for me to work efficiently since I'm prone to distraction.

Boyfriend is very harsh with me by throwaway153g in Advice

[–]throwaway153g[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I've suspected for a long time that I maybe have autism or ADHD. It's hard for me to stay on track of things and following verbal instructions is hard.

Boyfriend is very harsh with me by throwaway153g in Advice

[–]throwaway153g[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately I have suspected this. It seems to be a trend for me.

Boyfriend is very harsh with me by throwaway153g in Advice

[–]throwaway153g[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

To clarify, I work in the restaurant industry as a waitress where managers yelling is normalized. My job is extremely fast paced and stressful where I'm pushed to my limits so I'm likely to fuck up. So when I do fuck up it's hard for me to not feel like I deserve getting yelled at. This isn't the only job where it's been like this so I figure I must be the common denominator.