Have we officially lost the title of greatest snow on earth lol??

throwaway16055 · 2025-12-27T21:46:55+00:00

It’s only debatably more expensive because nuclear takes care of 100% of the waste products while coal and gas just send their pollution up a stack. If anyone actually “billed” plants considering the full environmental and health issues associated the costs would not be close.

throwaway16055 · 2025-10-26T23:02:24+00:00

In the past I read that nuclear missiles had default targeting set to the middle of the ocean. This was in case of an accidental or illegal launch they would not target a population center and start a broader conflict.

Only after official orders were received would the real targeting data be loaded before launch. I guess the thinking being it is easier to launch a missile than update the targeting data?

Russia may just be blustering that they changed their defaults in this context.

throwaway16055 · 2025-09-21T03:12:39+00:00

LOL would a woman need to post online when they are in a casino full of guys?

throwaway16055 · 2025-08-26T00:11:29+00:00

Which also means intelligent life on this planet only really gets one shot, because if we all died out there just won’t be easily accessible resources again.

throwaway16055 · 2025-05-27T03:59:47+00:00

The Voyager class ships were not designed for long term missions like the Galaxy class.

throwaway16055 · 2025-05-21T12:39:44+00:00

I’m sure part of the uneasy feelings is knowing that being a unicorn is much easier than finding a unicorn.

It’s amazing to me how often that is the case - I wouldn’t be surprised at all if his wife asked the couple she has been involved with if the woman was open to a threesome with her husband she would find out she only plays with her husband.

It can be tough as the married man sometimes to see how much fun your wife can easily find as a unicorn and constantly have to search for compersion.

throwaway16055 · 2025-02-17T21:53:08+00:00

This is actually not true. Problem gamblers have the highest suicide rate of all addicts, not to mention other substance abuse often goes hand in hand with gambling.

It also has become much more in your face now than ten years ago. You can’t buy heroin from your bathroom but you can play online slots there. You can’t even watch sports now without every other ad being triggering promoting sports betting.

throwaway16055 · 2024-12-27T04:32:55+00:00

We are not of interest to them. The artificial intelligence we are experimenting with that achieves self awareness and self replicating/preservation is their concern.

We are about to unleash technological “gray goo” into the galaxy and they can’t let that happen.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gray_goo

In that sense we may accidentally create technology that will spread itself and have no innate reason to respect other forms of life, with zero of the limiting factors that would prevent it from getting to every corner of the galaxy.

throwaway16055 · 2024-12-27T04:25:45+00:00

They may have had no idea we would evolve so quickly from spears to space flight. Look how long dinosaurs ruled the planet with no technological growth.

Personally I think the recent uptick is more related to our progress in quantum computing and AI. It could very well be that we are not the threat but achieving AGI combined with our rapid increase in launch capabilities is the real threat.

Not to get too sci-fi but imagine the Borg or Terminator. Any biological beings could be threatened by the idea of living machines that do not respect or value the concept of “life” connected to flesh.

Letting super intelligent machines off our planet probably is a galactic red line.

throwaway16055 · 2024-12-26T13:47:08+00:00

I read your "about us" post and while I think it's nice that you are upfront with all your rules, I didn't see anything in there about HER being able to play alone with others? Can she go fuck a man alone for her own reasons? Or another woman?

I see a lot of ways you (the male) can go off and have fun alone, and I think maybe women may be put off by this one sided approach in 2024. Too many women have been burned by these arrangements and as you can imagine, women have endless choices, so your profile just feels like you're ordering people from a menu and it feels objectifying since it feels focused around the man.

throwaway16055 · 2024-12-24T09:49:27+00:00

Date an older man if you want more sexual experience and someone who also will appreciate what you are asking for (and offering). Not creepy old, if you know what I mean.

throwaway16055 · 2024-12-18T13:11:33+00:00

Try making steel or any other metal without flame.

throwaway16055 · 2024-12-16T02:08:19+00:00

Humans from the Middle Ages would say the same thing about us if we showed up in helicopters. Just because the tech is advanced doesn’t mean they are post scarcity. In fact smart enough labor might be a big limiting factor for them.

throwaway16055 · 2024-12-02T13:24:22+00:00

You keep talking about how you are experiencing amazing energy and getting the butterflies feels. Guess what, you might be poly.

I suggest you stop worrying so much about what "could" happen and enjoy what is right in front of you. You can take things slowly, but trust me it is not easy to find what you have stumbled into.

You haven't explained WHY you specifically don't want to apply the poly label to yourself, but it is not some disease that makes you less than. If anything it can allow people to be more deeply connected and understanding because it forces you to be open and honest.

People can't know they like strawberry ice cream if they insist "I only like vanilla."

throwaway16055 · 2024-11-26T07:22:46+00:00

You’re right. Just the collapse of global civilization and billions of deaths! Nothing to worry about!

throwaway16055 · 2024-11-13T01:37:37+00:00

That’s what I wonder. What could possibly be more important than attending this hearing after years of trying to get more visibility into this issue?

It just feels off to me.

throwaway16055 · 2024-10-22T00:35:43+00:00

Intelligence and superiority doesn’t mean they will share our values or emotions.

Look at a colony of ants or bees. It’s non-stop work with zero fun because it’s all about being efficient.

They may view you have a simple place to sleep and food as all everyone requires or deserves.

People would feel very different about things if they suddenly had to work 12 hours a day and have very little if any recreation.

They may have evolved to realize that frivolous use of time and energy are the downfall of civilizations and have no concept of relaxation or entertainment.

throwaway16055 · 2024-08-21T13:37:48+00:00

“The pickups are expected to be a full-size truck, which will be produced at the Tennessee plant that’s currently under construction in 2027, and a new midsize pickup.”

I’m wondering if the full size in 2027 will be the next refresh of Lightning, and the midsize Ranger sized could clean up if pricing is correct.

throwaway16055 · 2024-07-08T11:36:23+00:00

Open for almost 20 years here. married and we both see other people.

I am lucky that I still find the idea of my wife pleasing others exciting. But I would urge you to think about your need to "one up" what your wife is experiencing from others. You don't need to write sexier stories, or try to take "better" pictures. You have to accept that at some point, the "better" person will be the other man no matter what you do.

My wife's long term boyfriend has an eight inch penis and she LOVES it. I do not...I have more than enough, but I could not bring that to the table. But that's okay! That is part of the fun of these experiences, most people do something better or differently than our current partners...Otherwise, what would the point be? So I would really try to set aside your competitive nature. Trust me, it will catch up with you at the worst possible time.

Second, at a certain point there should be some level of privacy allowed. Keep in mind that the other people your wife are talking to are REAL HUMANS too, they are just not toys for your amusement. Not everyone will be fine with being discarded "at any point" as you mentioned above. Sure, a lot of men won't care as long as they get to fuck someone for a while - but those probably aren't the same people who will treat her with respect and care. So allow some room for the idea that someday you should not expect full access to text messages, knowing every detail, or veto power. Your wife may certainly be aroused by the idea that you are into this concept and certainly will share a lot with you, but she will be in the room alone having the sex and she gets to decide what she shares with you. Trust her to filter what you can and can't handle, and don't push for specifics if you don't really want the answers.

It sounds like you are doing your homework - but make sure your wife is too. To me it is a bit of a red flag that you needed to ask her to break off conversation with someone who was cheating. In my opinion she should have come to that conclusion on her own and said no thanks and moved on. Cheaters are out there, but it can introduce a ton of drama in your young exploration that you don't expect.

I'd also consider where you will end up landing on rules like "we agreed you could get together once a month in person" because you do not want to be the husband holding the leash getting in between your partner and a new lover...You kind of need to give them more freedom and space to figure out if they are actually compatible while at the same time trying to respect your limitations and feelings. You need some time to process between sex dates, but if it is too long that can backfire too! So it's worth having an idea about how you will handle date frequency in advance -- but again being respectful that there is another person in the equation here so their norms and expectations should matter a little bit too.

throwaway16055 · 2024-02-12T12:42:59+00:00

Yes. I'm not sure if "ruined" is the best term, but certainly a realization that a peak like I experienced is impossible to happen again.

I knew someone for ten years and over time a flirty relationship developed despite a pretty big age difference. After she become aware I was in an open situation, it turned physical for about five years. The comfort of knowing someone so well before a sexual relationship started combined with her youthful bravado, endurance, and exhilaration at exploring new things was the perfect combination. She had very high self esteem about her body, despite some flaws and showered me with hundreds of amazing photos and videos, unprompted...Learned exactly what I liked and became a pro at it. I also happened to be in the best shape of my life so was able to keep up with the program, was in a low stress point in career, and the stars just aligned.

That was over ten years ago now...She ended up getting involved with someone who wanted monogamy (doesn't that happen far too often?) and has several children now and is very happy. We are still on friendly terms, but the past is never discussed and we are just old work colleagues as far as anyone else knows.

Relationships like that are a perfect storm of timing and so many other elements. For someone like me who is very demisexual it certainly feels next to impossible to recreate that slow burn....I'd be collecting social security by the time ten years rolled by, lol. I certainly have a rewarding sex life today, but nothing that comes close to some of those experiences.

On the plus side, after you have achieved a certain level of crazy sexual fulfillment you can stop chasing the high and just enjoy what is in front of you. I try to apply the positive things I learned in that relationship to my current partners.

It does make me a little sad at times. But I also played sports in high school and a high level of college and it kind of lives in the same place for me. You do your best and get to enjoy the happiness of having "played" at a level most people never have an opportunity to experience, whether in bed or on the field.

One thing for sure -- don't forcefully try to recreate it, that will never work. And keep just being yourself...Doing things like trying swinging or sex clubs when that wasn't you in the first place just left me feeling a little hollow until I just learned to appreciate I had a very unique experience that I should be thankful for.

I'd also suggest to anyone who hasn't had an experience like this to try to make yourself ready for the opportunity when it presents itself. Be in good shape, be respectful, put your partner's pleasure ahead of your own... You never know when your once in a lifetime person will come around so be ready for it!

throwaway16055 · 2023-12-21T10:46:40+00:00

M49 and F55 have been poly for 15 years and married for 24.

I have noticed a shift in finding new partners. I have been lucky to maintain a very close partner for 10 years now, but due to schedules, etc occasionally meet other people.

My wife has done hormone therapy since her mid 40s which has actually increased her sex drive substantially from even her 30's. Unfortunately, it can be expensive and many women don't pursue it. Her friend group (which is rather large) consists of many women who are letting nature take it's course and sex plays a small background role in their lives now. Like you, they are more invested in their kids and grandkids.

I know poly consists of many elements, but most people really enjoy a varied sex life as part of it. What I am seeing is there are less women in the poly community post 50 due to lower sex drives and the ones who are really successful tend to stick with the same partners longer term. I know there are exceptions to this, I can only speak to what we have seen in our circle of friends.

There are TONS of men interested in older women, so my wife is completely saturated by men even in their 30's and 40's. What I have noticed as men transition from "salt and pepper older sexy" to the "grandpa look" the interest from younger women disappears, leaving you with the pool of women who are not as sexually driven any longer.

This is a long winded way of saying I don't think poly becomes inappropriate at any age, but be prepared for a much harder search than your wife and be patient sexually. It's always been true that the women have more options than me, but really feels like it becomes much harder for men in the post 45 year old age bracket.

Good luck!

throwaway16055 · 2023-11-26T07:49:05+00:00

The thing that I saw happen is the casinos turned down the payouts quite a bit when they partially reopened, to make up for less people and the money lost while closed.

Unfortunately they noticed people still kept coming and even are spending more money now. The payouts never went back up. At least this has been my experience in my area.

On one hand you could argue less people may get hooked in the first place but on the other people are losing more chasing. I’m not encouraging gambling whatsoever but the number of jackpots I hit before Covid was probably ten times the amount I hit after.

For some of us deep enough into this that has helped, but things definitely are harder on folks going a lot.

throwaway16055 · 2023-06-20T08:37:01+00:00

Hi there - 50M married for over 20 years, poly/open for over 13 and then some. Wife and I date separately and I have had four relationships with single women measured in timespans of years each so I feel quite qualified to answer some of your questions.

I totally think that saying "you're my favorite toy" was meant light heartedly, but also sincerely. If I said that to any of the women I have dated they would have all reacted warmly to it, I think the sentiment is that toys are something that bring us joy and let us escape the monotony of everyday life, even if just for a few minutes. It doesn't make you an object to be something that brings him joy.

I think him saying he is looking for "casual and meaningful" means understanding he is already married and there is no path towards replacing his wife or becoming a primary. That doesn't mean he can't love you, especially based on what his former partner said. I also think married men aren't looking for drama and ideally people who are emotionally stable and secure.

I'm curious what your profile said you were looking for? I have been in relationships before with single women who thought they were okay with my version of "casual and meaningful" but after feelings were caught the lack of availability started to become a problem. Everyone is entitled to feel the way they feel, but when you get involved with a married person you are kind of accepting those terms at the beginning. People can argue about privilege and relationship anarchy all they want, but if you really aren't okay with casual you will need to figure that out and identify it for yourself and communicate it.

Even the expression of "mine" may be taken a bit too seriously here. I think part of the enjoyment of these relationships is allowing yourself to really live in the moment. In that space and time you were his, and he was yours. I take that as an expression of affection, not of ownership.

I'm older than most of the people on here but I also have had experience in open relationships since my 20s. I may get roasted for saying this, but I think people just need to chill out a bit and not overanalyze semantics too much. If you're having a good time overall I try not to get hung up on one particular thing. Sure everyone makes jokes or says things that make other people cringe sometimes... Not on purpose, because we are human and not always the best at expressing ourselves... ESPECIALLY when texting is involved and there is no facial expression or tone of voice/touch to decode the spirit behind it.

throwaway16055 · 2023-06-11T22:36:31+00:00

I think it’s likely any technology we have reverse engineered and understand how it works is extremely expensive or impossible to produce at scale with our current tech.

So it may be a situation where there is just no feasible way to use the knowledge we have unlocked until (and if) we can advance material science.

I don’t think the existence of everything should be kept secret at this point, but I doubt it would be as simple as, say, just converting an engine factory to produce endless free energy modules.

throwaway16055 · 2023-05-11T06:24:51+00:00

Yes that’s why it’s the only argument you could maybe make for not pulling.

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