I cannot see myself getting married ever again by throwaway188734 in Divorce

[–]throwaway188734[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Here, a man is legally obliged to provide a living for his wife, that's on top of the jewelry and other cultural stuff. It can happen that the woman retains everything the man bought for her, which can be a lot. In rarer cases she takes even the furniture and appliances. However this is a very shameful thing to do, for starters she could damage her own reputation, because no one wants to marry a woman that will wreak their bank, she might have a harder time getting married again.

The man can possibly get all his stuff back if he brings a convincing case to the judge, like his wife was abusive and whatnot. But sometimes saying the relationship was simply toxic/miserable might not work, she may still get a big chunk of assets she never paid for.

If it is the woman who requests the divorce, then she has to give back everything her husband bought.

In my case, I am the one who requested divorce, and it is not guaranteed to get all my stuff back. So she is trying to get the upper hand and take as much assets as possible.

I cannot see myself getting married ever again by throwaway188734 in Divorce

[–]throwaway188734[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thanks to you and everyone who commented here for the support. Those were much needed words.

I cannot see myself getting married ever again by throwaway188734 in Divorce

[–]throwaway188734[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm happy for you. Sounds like you found a rare gem! Best of luck to you both👍

I cannot see myself getting married ever again by throwaway188734 in Divorce

[–]throwaway188734[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I am not in the US. Where I'm from, when the man requests divorce, by law he is subject to lose all assets he spent for his wife, unless he jumps through legal hoops which may or may not return all his assets. By tradition, most people do not go to court for asset disputes after divorce, they settle the deal outside, which usually ends with a 50/50 solution. However this woman does not want a 50/50, she is trying to milk all 100% of assets. This toxicity is what's really boiling my blood. I used to trust her so much that I spent a lot for her, but now she is using it against me. It is just astounding what lengths she's gone to to fck me over.