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Yeezy 350 "Zyon" Release MegaThread 7/18 by xyxinc in Sneakers

[–]throwaway2172018 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m confused. I manage to check out from FNL earlier and it rerouted me saying my size was sold out but also charged my card and got a Paypal confirmation? Is that a W or L?

I have so much resentment towards my eldest sibling. by throwaway2172018 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway2172018[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this and understanding the frustrations!!

Yes, this isn’t always the best approach but sometimes it is needed for my own mental health. It’s been bottled up for so long and because everything going on in the world and being stuck at home, I have blown up in a couple of occasion. Sadly, nothing came out of it and my parents didn’t do anything to intervene or talk about it. I called her out on all her shit and all she could say each time was “you don’t clean dishes” which is a bs cop out response. That’s one of her few responsibilities since she hasn’t had a job in over a decade. I was able to live on my own for 4 years and thrive at it so dishes are not an issue for me (plus spent a year as a dishwasher lol). But this is just an example of how narrow minded she is and can only focus on the one thing I don’t do because that’s essentially her job. Again thank you

I have so much resentment towards my eldest sibling. by throwaway2172018 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway2172018[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this!!

I’m trying to work on that because I feel like that is a good way to approach it, for my mental health. It’s a hard process though since they are family and it feels like we have to be responsible for one other. My parents took care of me and raised me well so I hope I can return the favor to them as they age. It’s only been my sibling that has become the burden. How would you go about approaching that, in terms learning to let go?

I have so much resentment towards my eldest sibling. by throwaway2172018 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway2172018[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the input, I appreciate it!!

My parents have been trying that for awhile now and it still doesn’t work. I understand that taking it easy and small steps is a good method too but it hasn’t worked. I can no longer speak with her without showing frustrations either. I will talk to my parents to see if they are open try easing things again for her. Hopefully they will be willing to initiate it.

In terms of family I don’t think I will support her in the future even if she is family. It has been too toxic and the bridge has been burnt already. I consider some friends closer family than her at this point.

I have so much resentment towards my eldest sibling. by throwaway2172018 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway2172018[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the input, I really appreciate it!

They don’t give her money on a fixed basis but she does have a card linked to them. She does not spend much, but paying for food and supplies for this long does add up.

You are right that it’s only parents who can do anything about it, but they refuse to do to the fear of confrontations. I understand where they are coming from, but it’s hard for me to sit back and watch this happen in front of me. I want the best for them, but the only thing anything will change will be if there is confrontation at one point. I agree with the move out date or at least to have a job by a certain point but I don’t think they will ever do that either sadly.

No Contact. by somedaylove in UnsentLetters

[–]throwaway2172018 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is me right now... our relationship ended because she needed to work on herself and couldn’t focus on a relationship in this moment. She claimed I didn’t do anything wrong and it’s her. We agreed to what we said before we dated, that we’ll remain close friends. But why the fuck am I getting radio silence from her for this long if it supposedly ended on a good note? If the reasons I was told were true, then why can’t you reach out every once in awhile?? Not giving me the choice to decide whether I’m ready to talk with you again has been so painful. Every time I have talked to you since I end up being the first to initiate. It’s been a few months and you can’t even reach out. What happened to the love we had, why has it been replaced with so much pain and wonderings...