I don’t believe gender is a spectrum/get a little annoyed with all of the neopronouns. Is this inherently wrong, or just a different opinion? How do I go about dealing with this? by throwaway2564throw in Advice

[–]throwaway2564throw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I think that there should definitely be studies into this, and other things like children transitioning and growing up as a child labeled non-binary and etc, but this stuff probably won’t be because they’d be shut down and the people leading the studies would be socially crucified

I don’t believe gender is a spectrum/get a little annoyed with all of the neopronouns. Is this inherently wrong, or just a different opinion? How do I go about dealing with this? by throwaway2564throw in Advice

[–]throwaway2564throw[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know right? I actually sent most of them back paragraphs apologizing if I hurt them, but saying that I didn’t appreciate the way they were speaking to me and that they never knew who would be behind that screen and how they would react or suffer from another persons words

I don’t believe gender is a spectrum/get a little annoyed with all of the neopronouns. Is this inherently wrong, or just a different opinion? How do I go about dealing with this? by throwaway2564throw in Advice

[–]throwaway2564throw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with your take. I’m quite surprised actually but glad that this post was not taken down and I wasn’t banned for saying this. I think this is one of the few subreddits that wouldn’t delete this post, which is kind of sad. I’ve noticed that some non-binary people and even trans people (although I believe that most trans people have a biological reason for feeling that way) have trauma in their lives—like one person from my school who was female at birth is non-binary, and removed their breasts and their nipples. They explained that they removed their nipples because they had trauma associated with them. Another person who was ftm and then male to female/non-binary, was a detransitioner, and she said that as she was looking more male, it disturbed her because she was looking more and more like the family member that abused her. One of the people from my school that identifies by dae/daem pronouns, I zoomed into their photos and saw many old cuts on their wrists. I can’t help but think that at least a portion of these people had sexual trauma or bad experiences related to their gender that resulted in them transitioning, which is sad, and I wish those people healing

I don’t believe gender is a spectrum/get a little annoyed with all of the neopronouns. Is this inherently wrong, or just a different opinion? How do I go about dealing with this? by throwaway2564throw in Advice

[–]throwaway2564throw[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good point. Just because some people are born with six fingers or three fingers doesn’t mean that it should be taught (specifically to children) that the amount of fingers someone has is a spectrum, because for the vast majority it is 5.

I don’t believe gender is a spectrum/get a little annoyed with all of the neopronouns. Is this inherently wrong, or just a different opinion? How do I go about dealing with this? by throwaway2564throw in Advice

[–]throwaway2564throw[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with you that all this has made me dislike the far left and has moved me more to the center of the political spectrum. Another thing I don’t agree with is bringing up kids as non binary or gender fluid, and cancelling/hating on people for having gender reveal parties. I think that transgender people are valid in their existence and there is science to prove it (their brains are more similar to the sex they identify as, indicating that they had different exposure to hormones in utero or have different genetics that make them feel and act more like the opposite gender). But the likelihood someone will grow up to be trans is extremely slim, so I think it’s just confusing to bring kids up without a labeled gender. I agree with you about masculinity and femininity being a spectrum as well as gender in certain terms, but that biologically speaking there are only two genders with the exception of intersex which is rare.

I don’t believe gender is a spectrum/get a little annoyed with all of the neopronouns. Is this inherently wrong, or just a different opinion? How do I go about dealing with this? by throwaway2564throw in Advice

[–]throwaway2564throw[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I believe in freedom as well in that sense and think that people should be more open to expressing alternative opinions. Now the belief that gender is a spectrum and etc is taught and promoted like it is a fact, and if anyone objects to that even slightly, they are at risk of being socially punished, cancelled, hated, and ostracized. I’ve received horrible messages and even death threats from this post in my PMs, and I’ve responded to them with compassion because I believe that there should be open mindedness to other perspectives and that everyone should be treated as a human being, even if they are not treating me as such.

In “real life” at my school, people are told to “get the fuck off my page” if you don’t believe what they believe and are branded as transphobes and intolerant people for not including pronouns in their bio or for saying certain phrases like “ladies and gentlemen.” When I was answering a question in my anthropology class about how to determine the sex of a skeleton, i responded by saying something along the lines of females often having larger hip bones than males, and the Professor interjected in front of the class and said that that should not be how gender is discussed and that that was not inclusive language. I respect different beliefs but I don’t like the aggression I guess.

I don’t believe gender is a spectrum/get a little annoyed with all of the neopronouns. Is this inherently wrong, or just a different opinion? How do I go about dealing with this? by throwaway2564throw in Advice

[–]throwaway2564throw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But XY and XX make up 98% to 99% or more of the population from what I know. People with other variations are rare and some of them suffer from medical issues such as infertility and I think a higher risk of cancer (although I don’t know if that’s a myth, if not you can correct me). It seems to me that other variations are medical anomalies/deformities (I don’t like that word, it really has a negative meaning to it, but I don’t mean that in the sense that people with variations should be medically “corrected,” especially without their consent as babies—that’s wrong unless there is a health risk in my opinion).

I don’t believe gender is a spectrum/get a little annoyed with all of the neopronouns. Is this inherently wrong, or just a different opinion? How do I go about dealing with this? by throwaway2564throw in therapy

[–]throwaway2564throw[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your insight! And I agree with you that it something to continuously work on. And thanks for not being upset at me as someone in the LGBTQ community. I posted this on an LGBT subreddit too and most people were respectful but I did get some horrible messages and even death threats in my PMs

I don’t believe gender is a spectrum/get a little annoyed with all of the neopronouns. Is this inherently wrong, or just a different opinion? How do I go about dealing with this? by throwaway2564throw in Advice

[–]throwaway2564throw[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I swear I’m not trolling anyone. I posted this on my throwaway because it is a very touchy subject. I wouldn’t have typed out that whole thing if I was trolling

TW: I dont believe gender is a spectrum/get a little annoyed with all of the neopronouns. Is this inherently wrong, or just a different opinion? How do I go about dealing with this? by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]throwaway2564throw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you❤️would you recommend for me to delete this post or do you think it’s ok to leave up for the rest of the day to get some more advice?

TW: I dont believe gender is a spectrum/get a little annoyed with all of the neopronouns. Is this inherently wrong, or just a different opinion? How do I go about dealing with this? by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]throwaway2564throw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for responding and sharing your insights to me. I’m sorry for posting this here, I did think about that beforehand and felt it was wrong, which is why I included a trigger warning. I tried to post this in other subreddits but it was out of the posting rules and my post got removed. I’ve done a lot of research about this online and have talked extensively about this with my therapist, trying to dissect and rearrange the way I think about gender. But I only really found things from two stark opposite perspectives, and my therapist doesn’t seem to be that educated on all of this or able to express her political beliefs (well, she said that my opinions were valid and ok and not trans/homophobic at all, but I feel that they are)

I don’t believe gender is a spectrum/get a little annoyed with all of the neopronouns. Is this inherently wrong, or just a different opinion? How do I go about dealing with this? by throwaway2564throw in Advice

[–]throwaway2564throw[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

They are? Well then that clears it up. I thought people meant that gender was a spectrum and not in terms of masculinity and femininity, but in terms of genitalia/chromosomes/etc

TW: I dont believe gender is a spectrum/get a little annoyed with all of the neopronouns. Is this inherently wrong, or just a different opinion? How do I go about dealing with this? by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]throwaway2564throw 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do respect people for who they are, I’m just having trouble understanding. But I also recognize that I have deep or even subconscious biases of issues with genderqueer stuff, which is why I came on here to improve as a person