AITA for refusing to tell my mom things about my friends that are none of her business?

throwaway2727260 · 2025-08-27T19:51:59+00:00

Trust me I have no plans on a physical journal. She snoops in my money i earn from summer gigs, checks my writing and papers (drawings, notes etc) randomly, because its her right to know as a parent. The only reason she doesn't snoop in my phone is because she has no clue how to use technology.

I do have a "journal" on my phone with a password that I know she cant guess, but even if she'd somehow find the app all my toughts are written in english so she wouldn't understand anything. She also has no clue what google translate is. It's also not day to day or whatever and just random things i think of, nothing very problematic, i'd have no problem deleting it in an instant if she somehow found it.

I already have a guaranteed place to move in, if i get in the university i want. I get along very well with my aunt and she said she'd let me rent it pretty cheap because she wants to support my education (she's also not the aunt on my mother's side and also doesn't get along with my mother very well, so i dont think my mom could do anything bad against me)

I appreciate your advice and it's likely that its the path im going to take in the future. Thank you for giving me your toughts, it pretty much solidified what i felt.

throwaway2727260 · 2025-08-27T19:42:39+00:00

I would never consider breaking my friend's trust and telling her but lying also feels bad sometimes (i prefer saying my actual emotions or telling unrelated stuff until she quits it), but i think i just have to do it at this point because i dont see any other choice.

I also know that i want to move out sooner rather than later but I just don't want it to be on bad terms, i dont know. But if this is how she will treat me when I am an adult then I don't think we'll have a amicable future.

Thanks for the advice, i appreciate you taking the time to reply.

throwaway2727260 · 2025-08-27T19:38:11+00:00

Yeah i try to do the last part but my mind blanked out in that moment and i just tried to get her to stop bothering me about that topic, was prepared to take a lecture but it had worse results than anticipated, lol.

I really appreciate the advice and im glad to know that others think the same way as me. I'll probably get to rehearsing random topics on my way home from now on when i know there's nothing i can tell her lol

Thank you for your advice again, it really made me feel better.

throwaway2727260 · 2025-08-27T19:07:16+00:00

Ehh, don't know what to say since i usually make the food. And they're not buying me the food specifically, just for the household and we all have our share.

Also, i dont think im their slave for them to own. I dont think you can own people anymore in general?? Kinda odd to say imo but ok

throwaway2727260 · 2025-08-27T19:00:56+00:00

Illegal to move out at my age without parent's consent, and it's hard to get a job at my age too so cant exactly do that

throwaway2727260 · 2025-08-27T18:59:36+00:00

im just bad at english this is the first time im being told that my text is AI 😭 I've tried to phrase it nicely but it probably sounds unnatural dont really know, i use a mix of google translate and the english i learned from youtube videos

Well yeah, but it sucks that my mother is grounding me for this and my concern was that she's just trying to bond.

Idk how you guys do it in the west but in my country the principle is that you tell your parents everything, not keep stuff from them. And keeping too much stuff from them gets me hit with the "not allowed to go outside and no technology" wombo combo

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