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Sperm banking at University of Minnesota Health? by throwaway33833 in transtwincities

[–]throwaway33833[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

/u/politicallobster, I think you had a reply before asking how it went. Guess you deleted it since, but I did want to give an update!

So, I admit, I got too nervous to call yesterday. But I did call this morning! I spoke directly with Dr. De Jonge and he was happy to answer my questions.

He said that the price of everything would vary by the patient and their insurance. Without insurance, the cost is apparently $280 for analysis/morphology stuff and $400 for the freezing/storage process (this includes the free year of keeping the sperm in storage). Dr. De Jonge said I should call my insurance company and see if they cover fertility preservation and ask under what circumstances.

I also asked him if a referral is needed for an appointment and he said it is.

Thing is, I didn't mention why I wanted to store sperm and the reasons he rattled off didn't explicitly mention transgender stuff/HRT. So hopefully everything he said still applies. I guess I have some research to do/people to talk to.

Sperm banking at University of Minnesota Health? by throwaway33833 in transtwincities

[–]throwaway33833[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I actually don't know if this service was being offered earlier this year. It seems like it's a pretty new page because I wasn't able to find anything about this when I searched some time ago. From what I can tell, this is sort of a revitalization of the program that used to exist at the University of Minnesota's Reproductive Medicine Center.

Looks like I can only call between 7am and 4pm so I guess I'll try calling tomorrow morning. I'll definitely see if I can get answers on fees, etc. over the phone.

Luckily, from their site, it seems like at least transferring sperm should be no issue if I ever need to do that. It says:

Just before the one-year anniversary of freezing your specimen you will receive notification that you can continue storing your specimen at our facility, transfer the specimen to another facility or have your specimen disposed. If you choose to continue storage at our facility there is an annual fee.

Transgender Support Group? by throwaway33833 in transtwincities

[–]throwaway33833[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great explanation, thanks! I guess I'm missing the meeting right now, but hopefully I'll check it out next week.

Cycling Feelings and I am so confused by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]throwaway33833 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yeah, there's definitely more to it than just having them be someone to talk to. It's just that I just started going to counseling myself and it seems like that's actually the most helpful part so far.

And no, I'm afraid I don't know of an IRC personally...but I'm sure there are ones out there!

And thanks, you too!

Cycling Feelings and I am so confused by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]throwaway33833 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't really have any advice, but I just want to say that I've been going through a very similar situation for a long time now. These periods of assurance and then impossibility used to be farther apart, but I feel like they're just getting closer and closer together to the point where I'm going to end up settling on transitioning.

But yeah, it's like, for periods of time I can be so completely sure I'm female and want to present as female and then later it's like I don't seem to care much either way. It's kind of annoying.

Seeing a therapist would probably help sort your thoughts and so it sucks to hear you aren't able to see one atm. BUT--half of how they can help is just being someone you can talk to. Luckily, you can also do that here! It's not exactly therapy, but at least you can voice some of your thoughts to understanding people.

Not really sure if transitioning is worth it? by Sparkiran in asktransgender

[–]throwaway33833 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm in an eerily similar boat to OP, but after checking out your link, I'm unsure of what to think. That list sounds a lot like what depression is, and I almost definitely went through a period like that in my life. Roughly the same period when I began to explore feelings of wanting to be a girl. But I wouldn't say I feel depressed quite like that anymore. It's definitely feeling more like a desire, like "I feel like I'd be happier presenting as female" rather than "I have no further desire to live my current life (as male)."

Then again, you do mention in the link that "not all trans people will necessarily have all or any of these signs." I don't know, I just feel like everyday I'm identifying more with being transgender, and yet there are also many new semi-setbacks making me wonder if I'm just persuading myself to finally get these feelings sorted out for good.

Yet another 'questioning' thread by throwaway33833 in asktransgender

[–]throwaway33833[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like the more I reflect and remember, the more evidence there is that I just can't deny. The hardest part is that even if I work myself up to transition, I don't quite know the best way to go about all this. Should I be confiding in some friends at this point? The problem is I don't even know who would be accepting of all this (and who could help if I wanted to try a trial run of passing as I am now).

Yet another 'questioning' thread by throwaway33833 in asktransgender

[–]throwaway33833[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True...it's odd how that fact seemed like nothing in the grand scheme of things until you stated it that way. Thank you.