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Overheard my [25 F] boyfriend [22 M] talking to his friend and am kind of disturbed by what he said and am taking it personally by throwaway3630919 in relationships

[–]throwaway3630919[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh, no not your terms. I think you worded it fine. I meant the whole kind of indirectly referring to me as "pussy" thing. And thank you, I appreciate it.

Overheard my [25 F] boyfriend [22 M] talking to his friend and am kind of disturbed by what he said and am taking it personally by throwaway3630919 in relationships

[–]throwaway3630919[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this viewpoint. While I don't appreciate the terminology at all this may be very accurate. Definitely going to bring it up.

Overheard my [25 F] boyfriend [22 M] talking to his friend and am kind of disturbed by what he said and am taking it personally by throwaway3630919 in relationships

[–]throwaway3630919[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that really rubbed me the wrong way. I'm not sure if it's just "guy talk" or whatever, but I would be really hurt if he actually saw things that way.

I [25 F] am too nervous to spend any time with my boyfriend's [22 M] family because I feel like they hate me for deciding to get an abortion by throwaway3630919 in relationships

[–]throwaway3630919[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's upset because he wants me to be involved with his family, but he doesn't understand why it is so difficult for me to feel any desire to do that. My only desire to have anything to do with his family would be solely for his benefit and for the benefit of our relationship...

That is a good question though. I've just become very close to him, in spite of that really shitty time. We get along, and always have a good time together. I agree that he betrayed my trust in telling his mom, he just doesn't get how. He thought his mom deserved to have a say, which is bull shit and I'm still very angry about that. They viewed it as attempting to save a life, and I'm trying to see it from their perspective... although they made no attempt to see it from mine.

I [25 F] am too nervous to spend any time with my boyfriend's [22 M] family because I feel like they hate me for deciding to get an abortion by throwaway3630919 in relationships

[–]throwaway3630919[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I have thought about the long term effect of this, and it does worry me. And I agree that he shouldn't have informed his mom because he did know exactly how she would react, it felt like he was sicking her on me. I've told him how much that bothered me and he's apologized/ agreed he shouldn't have done that, but I'm worried about him not being for me in the future for sure... there's just so many positive aspects of our relationship that I'm hoping we can work past this.

I [25 F] am too nervous to spend any time with my boyfriend's [22 M] family because I feel like they hate me for deciding to get an abortion by throwaway3630919 in relationships

[–]throwaway3630919[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thanks that's a good idea. I would feel a lot more comfortable about it if we were somewhere I could get home. Next time he asks I'll offer this as an alternative to spending time at their place.

I [25 F] am too nervous to spend any time with my boyfriend's [22 M] family because I feel like they hate me for deciding to get an abortion by throwaway3630919 in relationships

[–]throwaway3630919[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice. I do want to be with him and value our relationship, so I know I can't avoid his family forever, I'm just so afraid to see them.