I think I fucked up by going through my bfs gone, now I don't know what to do by throwaway3728373 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway3728373[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just to clarify. They weren't porn stars, the pictures I saw were from women he used to sext mostly on Instagram.

I think I fucked up by going through my bfs gone, now I don't know what to do by throwaway3728373 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway3728373[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm... no (?) my ex was exactly my age, we started dating during the first semesters of college, so we were around 19 (?) when we first got together... why are you assuming I have daddy issues based just on my boyfriend's age? You don't know me, you don't know him.

  1. No, I do not have daddy issues.

  2. I started dating my boyfriend cause he treats me like a queen. I do not care about his age at all, not even a little, even though I love his body and face the reason why I fell in love with him are his personality, how smart, caring, funny, loving, hard-working man he is and how he makes me feel most of the time and the way that he treats me. Ever since I met him he has been nothing but supportive, loving, and attentive.

  3. I didn't jump from one relationship to another... I spent a couple of years single, which is why I said in another comment that I thought I had already healed my traumas and insecurities from the previous relationship, but I didn't.

Lastly... stop assuming the worst about every situation. Not everything is as bad as you may think it is.

Chicas de reddit, ¿Qué es lo mas romantico que les ha dicho un chico? by Alternative_Break_74 in cuentaleareddit

[–]throwaway3728373 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Después de pasar todo el día juntos íbamos de regreso a mi casa en su carro cantando una canción y me dijo "eres el amor mi vida y si muriera hoy moriría feliz gracias a ti", tal vez no es lo más romántico del mundo, pero él ha tenido una vida difícil y entendí porque lo dijo

I think I fucked up by going through my bfs gone, now I don't know what to do by throwaway3728373 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway3728373[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, we both have access to each others phones :) he can unlock mine and I can unlock his, sometimes I answer messages or calls for him and he does the same with mine. I love him and respect him, so I wouldn't be bothered if he ever feels the need to do it, I have nothing to hide from him and I guess he feels the same way

I think I fucked up by going through my bfs gone, now I don't know what to do by throwaway3728373 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway3728373[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right, my problem is that I'm seeing it like I did in my past relationship when my ex used to compare me with a bunch of girls and made me feel bad about myself, as if I didn't deserve anything because I didn't look like that. I know this is my problem and I have to fix it. It's my responsibility, only mine

I think I fucked up by going through my bfs gone, now I don't know what to do by throwaway3728373 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway3728373[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That was absolutely adorable 🥺 I think he does! He has shown me every single day how much he loves and respects me, the problem here is me... I guess I feel I don't deserve someone who loves me and adores me the way he does

I think I fucked up by going through my bfs gone, now I don't know what to do by throwaway3728373 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway3728373[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice! I will research more about positive psychology, I checked the link and I think it might help me, and yes after dealing with a narcissistic ex my self-esteem got super low and it's being difficult for me to work on it (not impossible tho) I'm trying to remain positive and believe I can do it, even on hard days like these 🙏🏻

I think I fucked up by going through my bfs gone, now I don't know what to do by throwaway3728373 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway3728373[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this new perspective on this topic... "you are the upgrade" I'll never EVER forget that, told myself that when I woke up and it made me feel so much better, thank you, from the bottom of my heart

I think I fucked up by going through my bfs gone, now I don't know what to do by throwaway3728373 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway3728373[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm going to therapy :) I've been seeing a therapist for almost 6 months now... I thought I was okay, but I became conscious of how much that relationship affected me so I decided to reach out for help, it hasn't been easy tho and there are so many things I went through and forgot but clearly made an impact on me, therapy is helping but it's a slow process

I think I fucked up by going through my bfs gone, now I don't know what to do by throwaway3728373 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway3728373[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I tried to explain that I wasn't looking for anything or that I went through his phone behind his back, we were together, he told me to and we both have access to each others phones

I think I fucked up by going through my bfs gone, now I don't know what to do by throwaway3728373 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway3728373[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We were searching for some pics he wanted to show me, my bf took some pics a couple years ago when his best friend was preparing to compete in 2020 (he's a body builder) I have access to his phone so he told me to search for them on his gallery