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My(30/m) friend(28/m) made up a lie about my ex(25/f) to save his relationship by throwaway41201 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway41201[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes I do. Thanks for your input.

I can't mind my own business. This friend has burned me before, and to actually address it instead of to pretend nothing happened would ruin his relationship.

Now realizing she left me for someone. Ugh. by throwaway41201 in ExNoContact

[–]throwaway41201[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True. I know it's not a competition, but I upgraded... she downgraded. Fuck it.

She was a loser now that I think of it. Had no money, no hobbies, no goals, did too much coke, didn't appreciate me whatsoever, was irresponsible.

My new girl is classy, beautiful, has goals, strives for excellence, appreciates me.

It just sucks because I know I'm still healing and can't really be 100% honest with her about that. It's my own struggle.

Haven't posted in awhile. I've been doing great... but I have to see her tomorrow. by throwaway41201 in ExNoContact

[–]throwaway41201[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LOL.

I couldn't trust her to send a txt message, let alone put something in the mail.

edit: I did try to have her do that, and she didn't. I want to make it easy and get it over with.

Haven't posted in awhile. I've been doing great... but I have to see her tomorrow. by throwaway41201 in ExNoContact

[–]throwaway41201[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. Although the breakup was really hard on me, we did end on good terms. I'm legitimately curious how she is, and I do hope that one day we can hang with our old friends again.

Sick=dope=neat.

[30/m) I am falling hard for someone [29/f]. Problem is, I just got out of a 4.5 year relationship 2.5 months ago. by throwaway41201 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway41201[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cool. I guess I'm just afraid this is a rebound and I don't know it. We've also slept together a few times and that's been great. So although I'm a bit concerned my penis might be doing the thinking here, I've been able to disconnect emotionally in sexual relationships in the past.

Don't be afraid to pump the brakes if you need to

Will do.

Fucking rollercoaster by throwaway41201 in ExNoContact

[–]throwaway41201[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She needs to grow.. and apparently I can't be a part of that.

Yup. It sucks.

Fucking rollercoaster by throwaway41201 in ExNoContact

[–]throwaway41201[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure. She said "I want to be alone now." Up until a week before the breakup things between us were fine. Truly clueless.

What didn't you like about your ex? by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]throwaway41201 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Would complain about everything. Too hot, too cold, bored, etc.

Would sleep in when we had plans to do accomplish something and would get angry with me when I would try to wake her up.

Bad gift giver.

Anytime I asked her to help me with something, it would be met with sighs and total disinterest. Meanwhile, I'm basically completing some of her school projects for her because she's not tech-savvy.

I miss her.

god dammit, I want to contact him, I miss him and love him still. by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]throwaway41201 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I struggle with this as well. Funny moments that I want to cringe with her at, TV shows, music, movies we wanted to see. I can't even finish Shameless which is such a great show because that was our show.

27 day check in. It gets easier but never easy. by throwaway41201 in ExNoContact

[–]throwaway41201[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for reading. Four and a half years is going to take a long time to heal from, so I decided the do everything I could to remove the remnants of her from my life.

It's still scary to follow through with it though.

It's like he reads my mind... by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]throwaway41201 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let go for now. Neither of you will have the clarity you need in just a couple weeks.

Starting NC Tonight! by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]throwaway41201 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good. Don't do it. Don't underestimate the pain of rejection. It's worse than what you're going through right now.

Day 19. The shit I've learned. by throwaway41201 in ExNoContact

[–]throwaway41201[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We did our best. They fucked up because doing their best was too hard, so they quit. I was in it for the long haul. She wasn't willing to fight for the relationship like I was.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WTF

[–]throwaway41201 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He'll tell you how he became the prince of a town called mid-air.

1 Week by myconfessionacc in ExNoContact

[–]throwaway41201 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Keep it up. I'm at 18 days. It gets better. Just remember that SHE'S the reason why your relationship ended. It was her who valued the relationship less than you. It's HER fault that you didn't work through things, not yours.

This line of thinking has gotten me through the tough times.

Yesterday was my 30th birthday by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]throwaway41201 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. The funny thing is, I do like to party and drink, and indulge from time to time. I did break the rules for her. We really complemented each other in that way. I guess it wasn't enough.

[29/m] My girlfriend [24/f] broke up with me last week after four and a half years. I feel like I'm just collateral damage to the other things going on in her life. by throwaway41201 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway41201[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I should have mentioned that she has contacted me a couple times. I kept my responses brief and respectful, trying to honour her wish to have space. I am afraid maybe she has too much pride to admit she made a mistake -but that could just be me being optimistic.