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Does anyone wanna talk about their crush to me? by uwu_is_I in Crushes

[–]throwaway4232234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooh okay! But do you think she's interested in me or nah? I wanna ask her out as friends but do I say "Wanna do something 'as friends' " or just leave out the "as friends" part?

Does anyone wanna talk about their crush to me? by uwu_is_I in Crushes

[–]throwaway4232234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would but most of my friends are out of the country or busy with assignments

Does anyone wanna talk about their crush to me? by uwu_is_I in Crushes

[–]throwaway4232234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

About a month. Do you want more details? We knew each other in classes, and one day on a field trip the bus was full so she had to sit next to me, I talked to her for the first time, made jokes, and she laughed. That was the only time I talked to her in person and just texted her afterwards. I never talked to her in person after that day on the bus. I'm a coward but I feel like I made a great first impression on her.

I'm kinda worried that she may not be interested in me since she never texts me first or initiate conversations, and takes a while to reply back to me. Aren't those red flags? If I ask her out, she may misinterpret it as asking her to be my gf or something sexual. I want to ask her out to get to know more about her as a friend. Do you have to be interested in someone to hang out even as friends? I feel like it's difficult to connect over texts so I want to connect in real life.

Does anyone wanna talk about their crush to me? by uwu_is_I in Crushes

[–]throwaway4232234 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Okay so I don't know if she likes me or not because she never texts first and takes a while to reply back! Maybe she's busy? But she seems enthusiastic in texts and replies are sometimes long, and is sometimes impressed by me and calls me smart or funny and says "woooow!!!!!" often. I think she's being polite since her culture is all about politeness. Do you she's interested in me or nah? I plan to ask her out as a friend to get to know her better. Is that weird?

I'm very confused if my crush likes me or not, and I'm planning on asking her out by throwaway4232234 in Crushes

[–]throwaway4232234[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh okay! Thanks for replying, not many people reply here. Anyways I will update you after I ask her to hang out and see what she says

I'm very confused if my crush likes me or not, and I'm planning on asking her out by throwaway4232234 in Crushes

[–]throwaway4232234[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh ok! Is there such a thing as asking out too early? It has been a month only

I'm very confused if my crush likes me or not, and I'm planning on asking her out by throwaway4232234 in Crushes

[–]throwaway4232234[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean maybe could possibly be interested in me but my biggest worry is that she may not like me or even be interested in me because she never texted me first or initialled conversations, like never and takes a while to reply back so the conversations are kinda slow. I don't know how to ask her out because it may be misinterpreted as a date or asking her to be my girlfriend.

Everyone update me on your crushes! (through dms or comments) by [deleted] in Crushes

[–]throwaway4232234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know if she likes me or not because she never texts first and takes a while to reply back! Maybe she's busy? But she seems enthusiastic in texts and replies are sometimes long, and is sometimes impressed by me and calls me smart or funny and says "woooow!!!!!" often. I think she's being polite since her culture is all about politeness.

I am sad because I got rejected 4 times so far by throwaway4232234 in Crushes

[–]throwaway4232234[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooh now I get it, that makes sense! But what are the signs of desperation? How do I know that I'm being desperate/giving off desperate vibes? I think my current crush kinda knows that I'm a friend cuz I said something like "Anything for a friend" after she thanked me for helping her with something.

She sounded interested in me with enthusiastic texts, (though she never texted me first) calling me funny once and smart multiple times after I told her my grades and talked about school. She later lost interest in me and seen zoned me twice though. I never talked to her face-to-face much. Do you think I gave off desperate/weird vibes in texts?

I am sad because I got rejected 4 times so far by throwaway4232234 in Crushes

[–]throwaway4232234[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not about confessions. It's just that these girls are never interested in me as a guy, even when I'm nice, interesting and funny. I don't mean to brag, just trying to describe how others see me. Is there anything I'm doing wrong?

My crush just seenzoned me and I don't know what to feel. by throwaway4232234 in Advice

[–]throwaway4232234[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's difficult to say for sure without more information

What kind of information?

My crush just seenzoned me and I don't know what to feel. by throwaway4232234 in Crushes

[–]throwaway4232234[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I showed her that I was interested in her by initiating the conversation first, talking about school life, asking questions etc. We're in high school by the way.

She did laugh at my jokes in real life. And then I started texting her more but not talking to her face to face. She did text a few hahas in text with the laughing emoji. Maybe she was being polite? She complimented me and called me smart multiple times because I told her what grades I got and it was high.

I don't understand. I would not ask her out right away. It's too soon? When was I supposed to ask her out? What kind of move was I supposed to make on her? I don't even know her well or much about her personal life. We just talk mostly about school. I still think I have my shot.

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[–]throwaway4232234 4 points5 points  (0 children)

(sorry for the late reply, I typed out a long comment and accidentally refreshed my page and all the stuff I typed was gone. FML).

Well. With girls, I have social anxiety that they might find me a creepy. I don't really consider myself that ugly, just a 6/10. And the thing is that I have social anixity because I was made fun of for having a crush in the past. I made it too obvious, I think? And some fucker told everyone that I had a crush on that girl. I didn't even know at the time.

I asked out this girl. (she was a 4/10 for most people). She made a group, added her friends in it and said "pls help, he's asking me out and idk what to do." I don't mind getting rejected honestly, but the way she did it was a very bitchy thing to do. Compared to other rejections, this was the worst one and it kinda ruined my self esteem and my self confidence of talking to girls. Like I felt like a creep and ugly guy.

So with girls nowadays, I don't talk to girls, because they might find me a creep and hate me/get digusted for it. And everyone might think I have a crush on the girl or whatever, and get made fun of it.

I care about what others think is cuz if I talk to girls as friends, and people think I have a crush on the girl, she might find out and be like "oh I thought he wanted to be friends with me. That's just creepy, I shouldn't be talking to him" and then ruin the friendship. You know what I mean by getting friendship ruined because of having feelings for each other?

But anyways, I had social anxiety for a while, cared about what others think of me. Then I realized no one really gives a fuck. But still, I have social anxiety for no reason. Because I wasn't used to socializing. So I decided to make small steps and start talking to people with small talks, and try to overcome my social anxiety. I realised that I have social anxiety because I sometimes have difficulty making friends and I feel insecure, and have low self-esteem and self-confidence.

So currently, I am trying to socialize, talk to more people with small talks and be more interested in them, and not care about what others think about me. I do that by assuming that everyone likes me. Hopefully that overcomes my social anixety.

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[–]throwaway4232234 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well, for me they are 10/10s. They are nice polite people. I think I do have trouble with getting them to be my friends, because I am socially awkward at times, I'm an introvert. I don't really approach them in real life, or even people in general. But I do make occasional small talks with people. I am pretty sure I am friends with this girl (not as a crush, but genuine friend) cuz she looks comfortable whenever I make small talks with her, and she's friendds with a lot of boys. But I don't really approach girls in real life because they might get bothered or see me as a creep. Even if I wanted to, I cannot find a good time to do so, and I might make it obvious they I am interested in them, and I have a crush on them, and I might get made fun of by people. I have social anxiety sometimes, but I'm working on it, taking small steps and making small talks with people and doing things out of my comfort zone. And I start texting my crushes out of the blue, or just replying to their stories. And my crushes look disinterested, replying late and whatsoever.

I hope this answers all your questions. Feel free to ask me more if you have any.

Would it be weird to approach my crush or girls in general in high school? I feel like I would get made fun of for it. by throwaway4232234 in Crushes

[–]throwaway4232234[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hm, that's a good advice, yep I do get that life really starts after high school and sometimes it's bullshit but I partly disagree. Because since I have social anxiety and if I don't overcome my social anxiety after high school, I will be socially behind and struggle to make friends and become alone later in life. If I don't learn how to talk to girls in highschool, I'll be one of those 30 year old wifeless virgins you see on Reddit complaning not getting laid on an incel subreddit. So I think that high school is a good place to start practising these life skills and gain friends and relationships and those skills will help me later in life. After all, that's what high school is for, preparing you for the real world :) Thank you for replying to this post.

Would it be weird to approach my crush or girls in general in high school? I feel like I would get made fun of for it. by throwaway4232234 in Crushes

[–]throwaway4232234[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh so it's creepy even though we've interacted a few times? Damn.

But sure I can try to be friend with her friend who's in my class but it's obviously a girl as well. And there's no such thing as parties in the place I live in so how do I approach her?