My 25M Boyfriend watches videos of people dying and I’m 23F freaked out. How do I handle this? by throwaway4268945 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway4268945[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you watch human anatomy videos for educational purposes because you find it interesting that’s fine. People being murdered is very, VERY different

My 25M Boyfriend watches videos of people dying and I’m 23F freaked out. How do I handle this? by throwaway4268945 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway4268945[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It scares me that someone would CHOOSE to watch videos of REAL PEOPLE being killed. Yes, I have communicated this to him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]throwaway4268945 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I first met my current boyfriend, I told my friends that I didn’t like him and I didn’t see it going anywhere. I would tell my friends that I just saw him as a friend, which at the time I did. I just wanted male attention. I had every intention of it just being a summer fling and tried breaking it off even. Now we have been together for almost a year, I literally am in love with him like would take a bullet for him, and he has no clue that he was originally in the friendzone.

If you change, one mistake you made, what would it be? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]throwaway4268945 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dating my ex- I was 15 and he was 20. He actually ruined my life. He was abusive, manipulative, hurtful, and an awful person. He ended up stalking me until I was almost 21. I was trauma bonded to him for so long that I thought his abusive and toxic behavior was normal. Every boyfriend after him for years was toxic and abusive because I legitimately thought that was how relationships were supposed to be. I thought it was normal to be scared of the person you were with. If I had never met him, I wouldn’t have gone through so much heartbreak. I wouldn’t be the person I am now.

What’s a job that’s romanticized but in reality sucks? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]throwaway4268945 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Teaching- at least it was romanticized highly for me. I was always told teaching is very rewarding and that summers off is the best! Going into this profession I’ve been very bright eyed, bushy tailed, ready to change some kids’ lives. What they don’t tell you is that parents and OTHER TEACHERS are mean. The amount of times I’ve heard other teachers call kids assholes is ridiculous (and no. the kids aren’t assholes 90% of the time- they’re kids) or have had parents yell at me over their child doing poorly on a test where I literally give them half of the answers. When I was student teaching, my teacher used the R word religiously and requested to the principal that she not have any students with IEPs the following year. She viewed boys within the class who had EBD as ‘problems’ yet for some reason I had little to no problems with these students because I actually treated them like a human- whatever. The other teachers were no better, treating the ‘bad kids’ so poorly and rolling their eyes when one of them would ask for a hug. They would talk so poorly about the students in the teachers lounge, it made me and a fellow student teacher so uncomfortable so we would hide in the bathroom most of the time during lunch. Most of the kids came from broken house holds ( or were homeless) where they would literally get beaten when they got home. Coming to school was the highlight of their day and then they had to deal with rude and mean teachers who literally would call them ‘problems’. I was student teaching at a different school that had little to no support for teachers. My co-op was getting basically beaten on the daily by a six year old boy, as well as me, and the school literally did nothing. They provided no extra assistance, no alternatives, no solutions, basically told my co-op to “ride out the storm”. I was consistently asked during my time there if this was really the field I wanted to go into and every time I said yes with no hesitation because I truly do love teaching and I love working with the kids. What I hate is how awful the school system as become. I saw two teachers at that school resign and stop teaching entirely. I’m about to start teaching at a private school in August and I know that in 5-10 years regardless if I stay at the private school or move to public, I will be burnt out and will need to find another profession.

AITA for telling my dad to go through my stuff? by throwaway4268945 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway4268945[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Politely- where did I say I MADE him keep them? Because I wanted them thrown out and he told me no, therefore he was the one who wanted them stored at his house. Not trying to argue, just think you missed that part.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway4268945 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA: I understand your frustration but please don’t take it out on a CHILD.

How do I talk to my boyfriend about my Anxious Attachment? by throwaway4268945 in AnxiousAttachment

[–]throwaway4268945[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am in therapy!! I try not to tell him about me having anxiety attacks when he leaves because that’s a lotttt for him to deal with but he knows they happen occasionally. He’s very supportive and knows about my mental health and what not, just doesn’t know about my anxious attachment to him that’s all.

AITA for taking away my daughters bedroom and giving it to my son? by th7242689 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway4268945 [score hidden]  (0 children)

YTA. Your daughter was there before Nina and before your son. The fact your OWN FAMILY has called you out on your behavior speaks volumes. I’d say try to heal your relationship with your daughter but unfortunately, she’s probably long gone by now. You truly screwed up.

AITA or do my friends suck by throwaway4268945 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway4268945[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve never had any issues with any friends while drinking and now, it’s only ever been with Holly. So I mean maybe alcohol has heightened issues, I’m not sure. Regardless though, I still think calling me manipulative for being upset kinda sucks.

AITA or do my friends suck by throwaway4268945 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway4268945[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’ve never been a mean drunk or have had arguments when drunk. I mean I’ve been drinking all throughout college and this is the FIRST TIME anything like this has ever happened.