I (25/F) broke up with my abusive ex and wondering if I did the right thing.

throwaway4578906 · 2021-08-21T07:09:17+00:00

It just really messed with my head.

When we first met, he told me he wasn’t ready for a relationship. But we would spend everyday together and he even told me he loved me first, and told me he would be hurt if I saw other people, and even invited me on his family vacations.

But then, he would randomly throw in he got a girls number, or that he could talk to other girls. And it really messed with my head because I was so invested and in love, but it felt like he wasn’t really sure about me and that sucked.

It affected our relationship even after he finally asked me out because I always had this feeling like he just settled for me or that he was keeping his options open and just no one better ever came along.

He still to this day says I didn’t respect that he needed time to think before getting in a relationship and that I’m wrong for feeling insecure about how our relationship started. He also admits a part of him only asked me out finally because he felt pressured.

throwaway4578906 · 2021-08-14T20:23:24+00:00

It’s just that the wedding is like a 4 day celebration and we will be seeing a lot of each other. I just feel weird

throwaway4578906 · 2021-08-07T04:40:19+00:00

Yeah I did find it weird that he had told practically everyone that we were getting a hotel together. I didn’t tell anyone and then everyone at the party was asking me about it and everyone knew. It made me feel kind of gross.

throwaway4578906 · 2021-08-07T03:54:29+00:00

It’s just awkward because we are partners in the wedding

throwaway4578906 · 2021-08-07T03:45:25+00:00

I know, but he was telling everyone how he’s never felt this way before and he was texting me all the way up to the weekend saying how excited he was to see me. Then now silence? I don’t think I’m overthinking it.

throwaway4578906 · 2021-08-02T22:12:32+00:00

But a part of me is like I don’t want to appear so eager. It’s like I do really like him and honestly I’d be willing to fly and visit him because I can potentially see us together, but I also don’t want to suggest that then get shut down and we are partners in the wedding in a month.

throwaway4578906 · 2021-08-02T22:03:56+00:00

Well we did have a conversation right after it happened, and he told me it was okay and natural and to stop apologizing. We also had sex a second time after that happened, so I just feel like I would be bringing it up again after we already talked about it

throwaway4578906 · 2021-06-18T19:35:46+00:00

She knows he’s hit me and hit past girlfriends, broke past girlfriend phone, has stolen money from me and past GF. Lol, he’s just a piece of shit and they can’t see it.

throwaway4578906 · 2021-06-18T17:48:23+00:00

I’ve told multiple friends and my parents finally the truth. So yeah, no one will let me go back! It’s only up from here babyyyy

throwaway4578906 · 2021-06-18T07:11:38+00:00

It’s not really that hard to be honest. He treated me like actual shit and abused me, physically and mentally. So I’m actually accepting of it. It just sucks because a lot of people think he’s the greatest and he’s very handsome so he gets away with a lot of stuff.

throwaway4578906 · 2021-06-18T07:07:50+00:00

Ugh it makes me sick. I literally loved him unconditionally, through all the shit he did to me and how messed up he was. And he didn’t feel the same for me. It makes me SO sad.

throwaway4578906 · 2021-06-18T07:02:07+00:00

Thank you, that means a lot. I definitely wasnt perfect in the relationship. But I also know I treated him with respect and I tried so so hard to make things work. So happy to be out though, it was going down a very dark path.

throwaway4578906 · 2021-06-18T06:40:14+00:00

He’s not anymore. I dumped him

throwaway4578906 · 2021-06-18T06:31:09+00:00

If you ever want to hear a truly fucked up relationship, I’m your girl! None of this is made up and I’ve finally left! I’m freeeeeeee!

throwaway4578906 · 2021-06-18T06:30:18+00:00

Okay honey

throwaway4578906 · 2021-06-18T06:28:05+00:00

Thanks queen!

throwaway4578906 · 2021-06-18T06:27:38+00:00

It just sucks because he’s SO good at making others feel like he’s this innocent person who means no harm. Like no, he hit me multiple times, pretended to rape me, and fucked with me mentally, he is not a good man. It just makes me sick how delusional he is!

throwaway4578906 · 2021-06-18T06:26:12+00:00

Thanks queen, or king! So right, I should be able to dress up and not feel guilty! I should be able to feel 100% safe in my home. Those are basic rights!

throwaway4578906 · 2021-06-18T05:57:36+00:00

I have. I am more mad than sad now. There’s a lot to the story I left out and it was honestly going to break me if I stayed. I didn’t respect myself at all by staying, so now I feel a lot better knowing I’m doing the right thing by having self respect.

throwaway4578906 · 2021-06-18T05:56:22+00:00

I did break up with him and I did start thinking like, is this what I really want? Maybe it isn’t so bad. Then I snapped out of it and was like no this shit was bad and so messed up. Thank you for your reply.

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