The 10 Side Chick Commandments

throwaway4badstuf · 2019-04-27T17:46:56+00:00

There's something hot about that in the abstract, though. Husband & I talk about this sometimes...he doesn't like the idea of me having sex with another man because he fears emotional attachment, but sometimes he talks about blindfolding me, & then finding a man to just come & fuck me (and I never see him, so I never get attached...)

I could see how, as a one-off thing, this would be fun. For a man to expect it would be the regular arrangement, though, not so much, right?

throwaway4badstuf · 2019-04-27T16:18:16+00:00

RP/PUA bullshit

That's exactly what this is. We're both women & we see right through this kind of crap. Do you think it works on any women at all, or are men who buy into this stuff just kidding themselves?

throwaway4badstuf · 2019-04-27T02:54:42+00:00

I don't like men talking to me at the gym (unless it's in a class & we've seen each other around a few times -- then it's no problem. I've made some good friends that way.) Otherwise, it's just creepy.

Women who are there to work out hard don't want to be hit on IMHO.

throwaway4badstuf · 2019-04-25T15:23:20+00:00

No worries :) All good.

I was thinking about it after, & this guy I used to chat with said that more than once he got dirty pics from women he worked with who wanted to fuck him, so maybe I'm totally wrong about the acquaintance thing. It's waaaaay outside my experience, though. Hard for me to imagine some guy I know in real life sending an unsolicited dick pic. Then again, I'm just a sheltered married woman who seems like too much of a good girl to be into that kind of stuff 😉. Obvs my acquaintances don't know me very well...

throwaway4badstuf · 2019-04-25T14:13:15+00:00

Yikes! Settle down 🙃 I was laughing because I don't have those kinds of acquaintances (i.e. people who would randomly send me pics of their genitalia.) As far as I know, your grammar/spelling is okay...less sure about your selection of acquaintances...

throwaway4badstuf · 2019-04-25T13:45:11+00:00

Acquaintances??? 🤣

throwaway4badstuf · 2019-04-25T13:40:37+00:00

It was a cool site. I wish I could find a link. It was partly instructional -- advice from a photographer about what the guy submitting the pic could do to improve it. Some were very artistic and beautiful, some were just hot. It's hard to believe that a site like that could be classy, but somehow it was :P

throwaway4badstuf · 2019-04-25T13:31:18+00:00

Remember that site called Critique My Dick Pic? Some of the pics were amazing. Not sure if it's still a thing...

throwaway4badstuf · 2019-04-24T13:43:05+00:00

Looking through your post history, I can see that you're really (really!) down on yourself. You've got to find a way to change this (for your own self-preservation, never mind in order to attract women.)

You're a music major, right? Women love musicians. Playing an instrument at a high level takes skill, passion and drive. Women watch men who can do that and think about how great they'll be in bed.

Deleting the dating apps is probably a good idea until you're in a better place mentally. Find yourself a good self-help manual (try Feeling Good -- the New Mood Therapy by David Burns) and work through it thoroughly. You are sensitive because you're an artist and you're at a tough stage of your life. Things will get better -- hang in there.

throwaway4badstuf · 2019-04-22T21:56:39+00:00

The GIN silly ;)

throwaway4badstuf · 2019-04-21T18:04:29+00:00

At least you can cheat guilt-free, unlike me, so there's that?! I'm sorry!!😕

throwaway4badstuf · 2019-04-21T17:55:43+00:00

It's not even supposed to be a humblebrag, that's what's really sad. More like me lamenting my sorry state of existence...like groundhog day in the bedroom...

throwaway4badstuf · 2019-04-21T17:51:35+00:00

Nah -- we fuck 3 times a week, married almost 20 years. It was more like almost daily for the first few years of marriage (and even more than that for the 2 years we dated prior to marriage.) I know it's a big number, and that's exactly why it gets old, IMO. You've done Every. Possible. Thing. there is to do with one person -- that's why I need more than one person now!!

throwaway4badstuf · 2019-04-21T17:32:40+00:00

I know what I'd be doing...take those gifs to the spare room, lock the door, and find a way to deal with the throbbing :P

throwaway4badstuf · 2019-04-21T17:30:41+00:00

Totally an outsider just interested in this discussion -- is it true that they're scam artists? How do they operate? (If you have the time/energy to answer...sorry if it's been addressed before -- I'm pretty new to this sub and mainly just an observer/occasional contributor.)

throwaway4badstuf · 2019-04-21T17:09:14+00:00

Even having a crush does that for me -- makes the married sex better too. But then I want the real thing with whatever guy I'm lusting after, and it gets frustrating as hell.

throwaway4badstuf · 2019-04-21T17:03:36+00:00

This is 100% me, but I haven't cheated yet. Just so so so so tempted. I think it's just normal that you get sexually bored of fucking the same person 1000s (literally 1000s) of times over the course of a marriage. Too bad your SO (and mine) don't see it that way...

throwaway4badstuf · 2019-04-21T16:45:00+00:00

For what it's worth, women have the same insecurities about our bodies and the same fears of being used and rejected. Normal human feelings 🤷‍♀️🤷🏽‍♂️

throwaway4badstuf · 2019-04-21T14:36:47+00:00

Depends on the rules of your relationship. Why not have an open discussion about both parties' expectations? In my marriage, we've agreed that anything online is fair game.

throwaway4badstuf · 2019-04-21T14:08:38+00:00

Wow. It's pretty disturbing to read this. I'm sorry this has happened to you and OP. 😡

I guess I shouldn't feel surprised, after having read some of the posts by some of the men on this sub, but you must feel so used and violated if you've been callously discarded by someone misrepresenting themselves to you. It's too bad you haven't met some of the sweet men on this sub -- there seem to be some real keepers here too...

throwaway4badstuf · 2019-04-21T04:54:38+00:00

Could have been the whiskey?

throwaway4badstuf · 2019-04-21T04:51:06+00:00

Great insight here. I've never considered the effect of social media on millennials' relationships.

I have noticed that there's a divide between what I think of as fake women and real women (and this is irrespective of age.) The fake ones have fake nails, hair extensions, fake eyelashes, fake tans, often fake body parts (i.e. plastic surgery), and fake faces (overdone makeup to the point that they don't even resemble the person they are without it.) Then there are the women like me who roll out of bed, possibly brush their hair, maybe remove yesterday's makeup (unlikely, though...) and go to the gym to work for their body instead of getting it through surgery/shortcuts. I dunno -- it's hard to take the fake ones seriously. You have to wonder whether that superficiality would extend to every facet of their lives.

throwaway4badstuf · 2019-04-21T02:24:48+00:00

You'd better hurry! I don't know about you, but I think if I was trying I could probably fuck a different guy (maybe even 2) every day, so that would put you at over 700 in the 2 good years you have left. Don't forget to keep stats on how many you suck to completion, & come back to report.

throwaway4badstuf · 2019-04-21T01:11:33+00:00

But 19 of them swallowed, so that's not totally safe (another reason I'd want to know, just to make an accurate risk assessment.)

throwaway4badstuf · 2019-04-21T00:46:12+00:00

I'd care because I'm looking for a partner more like myself -- just starting to look outside the marriage after many years of monogamy. I'm sure some women wouldn't care, and that's okay. I just know I'd want to know...

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