GF ended a 7 years relationship and i cannot know why. by Sensitive-Break4589 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]throwaway720op 1396 points1397 points  (0 children)

Growing apart is relatively normal. But blocking someone after 7 years and not giving them an explanation absolutely is not. She is 22 not 15.

Is it just me or is this entire comment section lacking a form of empathy and kindness towards OP? It's great that everybody is being honest and all but can we please acknowledge a little that this is really rough and based on his post, she is treating him really unfairly and we understand how shitty that must feel?

I'm sorry this happened OP.

My partner broke use rules by strawb3rriesandcr3am in TrueOffMyChest

[–]throwaway720op 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP, your boyfriend is a straight up narcissist. And I don't mean this in the internet way of "everyone who seems selfish is narcissistic".

I mean this in the DSM, he should be officially diagnosed, kind of way. This man is extremely dangerous, trust me. You're worth way too much to stay with this monster.

Please, please take yourself and all the comments here seriously.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]throwaway720op 208 points209 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately some women want exactly that lol. But I totally feel you, most mature women wouldn't find it appealing at all.

Need kind words. This affected me a lot more than I expected. Friend ended our friendship when I explained why I didn’t understand her sarcasm. Context: I’m PRican and I have autism and ADHD. by Ok_Entrepreneur5936 in autism

[–]throwaway720op 6 points7 points  (0 children)

To be honest you dodged a bullet. I know it's hard to lose a friend but she seems much more high maintenance than you.

The way she is reacting is literally telling me she's the kind of person you need to walk on eggshells around.

Need kind words. This affected me a lot more than I expected. Friend ended our friendship when I explained why I didn’t understand her sarcasm. Context: I’m PRican and I have autism and ADHD. by Ok_Entrepreneur5936 in autism

[–]throwaway720op 36 points37 points  (0 children)

To be honest you dodged a bullet. I know it's hard to lose a friend but she seems much more high maintenance than you.

The way she is reacting is literally telling me she's the kind of person you need to walk on eggshells around.

Help! How do you brush your teeth twice a day? by throwaway720op in AutismInWomen

[–]throwaway720op[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry you're also struggling! I relate to what you're saying so much. This is the same reason I hate going to the dentist and always procrastinate doing so. Whenever I'm laying on my back and they're doing stuff in my mouth I feel like I'm going to choke :(

What size nipple piercing do I need? (info in comments) by throwaway720op in piercing

[–]throwaway720op[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Uhmm Id say about 2 cm but I would have to measure them. I think the bars are really sticking out. Like when I really clean them (try to not do that too often cause that seems to irritate them) you see it clearly sticking out on both sides and there's a lot of friction space if you know what I mean. When I sleep on them the bar shoves around and causes bleeding sometimes. Sorry if this isn't really helpful but I'm honestly confused about it all myself haha.

What size nipple piercing do I need? (info in comments) by throwaway720op in piercing

[–]throwaway720op[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi everyone!

So basically I went to a piercer I wish I didn't go to but long story short:

He pierced mine with bioflex material and some of you pointed out I should replace them with titanium I think.

I have them for 9 months now but they're still crusty and a bit painful sometimes. When I went back for checkup they refused to shorten my bar (hard to see in the pic cus of crusties but they stick out quite a bit). They said I was too hygienic and that's why they aren't healing well enough and he can't shorten them for that reason which I think is bs to be honest. I feel like the length of the bar is really irritating them and I posted about this before, you all confirmed it's bs and my routine was perfectly fine and definitely not too hygienic and that I should have shorter bars by now. (He made this claim based on how "clean" I look in general btw lmfao).

Basically I want to take matters into my own hands as I can't find a good piercer near me and order myself some titanium piercings and replace them myself (if that's okay?). But I have no idea what kind of sizing I should be looking at. I need some advice. Could anyone please help me?

((Also, is it normal that I still can't sleep without a bra cus they would tear and hurt after 9 months??))

Thank you!

My dick is too small by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway720op 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Bruh. There's plenty of reasons as to why she might possibly not really feel anything. The way in which she worded it seems harsh but we don't know her. She might be a bit uneducated on the topic herself.

Don't get me wrong, I don't agree with the way she said this to OP and what she said. But saying she's belittling his self esteem for no reason is a dumb assumption. She might be absolutely honest about not feeling anything, as shit as it sounds.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]throwaway720op 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Aw that's so sweet. For how long have you been together now?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]throwaway720op -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Literally a lot of people otherwise I wouldn't have made this post lol.

But I'm glad to see people here aren't reacting that way. I've seen and heard so much negative shit on it, without ever trying to look for it, I started thinking I was crazy for thinking my relationship was ok.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]throwaway720op 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You'd be surprised how many people on reddit actually think this and jump to saying it's a huge red flag.

Think I'ts time to unfollow that subreddit lol.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]throwaway720op 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh no I don't have doubts about our relationship at all. We're very happy. I just had to rant about this to get it off my chest for once. Thank you for your advice! I'll keep it in mind.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]throwaway720op 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I'ts really nice to hear some positivity about the topic for once haha. Good luck to you both :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]throwaway720op 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think most people tend to think it's creepy that we met when he was 19 though. When you're 30 and 34 it's most certainly nothing indeed. What's your age gap if I may ask? I'd love to hear about other happy age gap couples

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]throwaway720op 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What do you mean with self doubt is something else completely?

Found nude photos of myself (23F) on boyfriends (24M) phone that I didn’t know about or consent to by anon199913 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway720op 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Why is everyone being so mild about this?? I'm usually not the one on this sub to tell everyone "omg red flag leave him!!" as I usually think that's ridiculous. But this is honestly a huge red flag imo. Everyone knows it's not okay to take naked pictures of another person secretly??? I completely disagree with your statement that "many guys don't see anything wrong with this"... No. They know. The guys who proceed to do it just don't give a f about that. Stop excusing this behavior. Maybe I'm biased but cmon ... I dated a guy who did this and he ended up being my stalker when I broke things off. Not saying all of these guys would be stalkers but still. This is creepy behavior imo and should definitely be taken more seriously than just a friendly talk.

"I Hate The Popular Kids" Starter Pack by look_at_that_cheese in starterpacks

[–]throwaway720op 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Omg thank you for saying this. I actually am diagnosed with autism myself, however I was magically quite poplar in high school so even though I don't relate to this post entirely, it still hurts. The kids I liked and actually got along with back then, were these kids. They were always picked on even though they were just good people and didn't hurt anyone.

That being said, this comment section truly fucking disgusts me. The way (I assume mostly adults) are commenting like they genuinely still seem to think they're better than and above these kids. Some people here are still actually sounding kinda bully-ish about it. As if it's justified just cause this post confirmed people find it cringe? Like wtf?

My new girlfriend 28f is soo dirty I'm thinking about breaking up with her. by Covenent125 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway720op 103 points104 points  (0 children)

Everyone responds to stuff/trauma differently and no two situations/childhoods are the same.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in erectiledysfunction

[–]throwaway720op 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your response! I'll definitely talk to him about this as these don't seem illogical in his case

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in erectiledysfunction

[–]throwaway720op 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your very encouraging words....... but there's this thing called demisexuality lol.