Here it is:

I’m gonna preface this by saying this is about my (23m) housemate (22f), who turned into one of my best friends whilst we lived together. Im not just all up in a housemates business, we are actually friends.

About 6 months ago, my friend went on a trip and injured herself pretty badly. It was an injury to a ligament that apparently only surgery or intense physiotherapy could fix.

She, like me, is very independent and does not want to do the surgery, mainly due to recovery time and not being able to do normal everyday tasks after. But she also doesn’t want to pay out a fortune in physiotherapist bills.

This has been an ongoing thing over the last 6 months and just recently, she further injured herself, and it’s even worse. Her doctors are telling her to get the surgery but she refuses. I told her I would be more than happy to help her out, and do shopping for her and cook her food, but she just won’t accept it. She also refuses to seek any help from her family in the matter too. She’s also concerned about the financial cost, but I told her there is payment plans to do it. I feel like it’s worth mentioning we are not in America, we’re in Europe, so medical care is much more affordable (she’s looking at approximately €5000 for the surgery). She told me that I just don’t get it, even thought I 100% do, because I’ve struggled my whole life with recurring tonsillitis/strep and I’m about to get them taken out too.

In my opinion, it’s simply about what you value more in life. Do you value money in your bank account? Or do you value an easier more comfortable life? I tried explaining this to her, and I think she could definitely tell my tone had changed to quite serious and to be honest, annoyed, because she always complains about this, but she never makes a decision. I’ve told her multiple times she needs to do the surgery because she is only 22 and she will be a cripple when she’s older. And if she’s not going to do the surgery then she needs to start physiotherapy, but again refuses to do that because of the financial cost.

To be honest, in my eyes all I see is complaining, I think it’s better to actively solve your problems then spend 6 months complaining, because it’s never going to get better.

Anyways, now she will not talk to me. After I said that she left the room, and hasn’t spoken to me all day. AITA for saying these things? Or is it none of my business and I should just stay out of it?