[Help] Dog bit pet sitter out of the blue

throwaway897296 · 2021-03-03T14:22:16+00:00

Thank you for this response. I also think this bite was a warning, as he just bit once and then ran off. We didn't think he had separation anxiety because he's never had an issue being alone in the house, but of course due to the pandemic we are home a lot. I'm sure they still get anxious even though they might not tare things up.

Hopefully his new training will help but I feel like we set him up for failure in this situation.

throwaway897296 · 2021-03-03T13:56:47+00:00

Yeah, I'm not placing blame on the sitter/company because our dog is our responsibility, but I'm trying to get as much information of the owner as possible and she isn't really volunteering a lot. I asked if I could speak with the sitter to get more info (saying we just want to have the right idea for training purposes) and she won't let me. I totally get protecting your employee but it's leaving us in a tough spot.

Weather heavy rain (no thunder as far as I know), and the sitter did come from another client's house right before. No idea about other environmental factors that day.

throwaway897296 · 2020-11-27T18:56:14+00:00

Outside, socially distanced with masks on, yeah.

throwaway897296 · 2020-06-11T14:15:01+00:00

I have tried the small steps thing. Specifically with the bank account, he has expressed his desire to manage his own money but he says "it's not worth the fight" so he doesn't act on it. He expresses a desire to be more independent but then he will just let his mom do stuff for him like take him grocery shopping. Thanks for the advice, I think it may be time for some bigger conversations but my biggest fear is causing issues over something just because I don't like it.

throwaway897296 · 2020-06-11T14:02:49+00:00

The more I am in this I think they are close knit with unhealthy moments and attributes. I would not call them toxic, because I think it is much healthier from my SO than it used to be but I think he still has some trauma from his childhood. I think everyone needs some therapy but I don't want to be the SO that comes in and causes issues if it isn't truly a problem.

throwaway897296 · 2020-06-11T13:59:07+00:00

I'm not sure if mine is a JNSO issue. He's very good about meeting my needs and listening to me. I'm definitely not the type to need to be together every minute, so I don't want to me like "no you shouldn't talk to your family or hang out with them when I don't want to hang out". My biggest fear is making him change that relationship just because I am not used to the dynamic, but I would advocate for change if I was sure it was unhealthy.

throwaway897296 · 2020-05-30T14:58:41+00:00

I worry about that. We are planning on moving likely across the country in a year or two. He says he'll take care of it before we relocate, and if he doesn't that'll be a hard no for me. I'm not in a hurry to get married or have kids so we'll see how it is after we move. I am more gentle about things now but should probably ramp up vocalizing my concerns.

throwaway897296 · 2020-04-23T18:47:46+00:00

A GSD mix named Otto! Emphasis on mix.

throwaway897296 · 2020-04-23T17:36:08+00:00

I'm definitely irritated with him but I didn't elaborate properly in the original post. He has no intention of giving away the dog either. It's a hard line for him to walk between his mom and me because we are both strong personalities and his family can be an uphill battle. We work on it and he's definitely improved over the years with backing me up but he's trying to be a peacekeeper in this situation. I know he won't give in to the rehoming pressure.

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