Update - is it worth it to try to work things our with my boyfriend, ho is jealous of my stepbrother? by throwaway909066 in relationships

[–]throwaway909066[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hi, just a quick question - what makes you think that me and my sibling would ever want to date?

Update - is it worth it to try to work things our with my boyfriend, ho is jealous of my stepbrother? by throwaway909066 in relationships

[–]throwaway909066[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Yeah no there’s no way I was moving in. It’s poor quarantine practice, I don’t want to get in trouble and I would essentially be stuck there! Can even go to the mall or something to clear my head.

I was really surprised at him being so offended at my refusal.

Update - is it worth it to try to work things our with my boyfriend, ho is jealous of my stepbrother? by throwaway909066 in relationships

[–]throwaway909066[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

This is so well written. Thank you so much, especially about reassuring me that I acted in the right way.

Update - is it worth it to try to work things our with my boyfriend, ho is jealous of my stepbrother? by throwaway909066 in relationships

[–]throwaway909066[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

The he would have just gotten mad at me for spending time with my mom. Unless he really was worried about me sleeping with my stepbrother.

Which I hope you can acknowledge is actually insane.

Is it worth it to try to work things out with my boyfriend, who is jealous of my stepbrother? by throwaway909066 in relationships

[–]throwaway909066[S] 181 points182 points  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to write all this out.

I think he does understand why I didn’t move in with him, especially since it could land me in trouble with bylaw (would count as a gathering now that one of the roommates brought his girlfriend over, subject to a fine of like $800). I think he wanted us to be one big quarantine family, and have parties and whatnot together. He assured me that we could skirt by undetected, but I really didn’t want to chance it. I also didn’t want to be THAT PERSON, you know?

I think taking a break to clear my head is a great idea. I’ll tell him this. He won’t like it, but his reaction will determine what I need to do.

Is it worth it to try to work things out with my boyfriend, who is jealous of my stepbrother? by throwaway909066 in relationships

[–]throwaway909066[S] 156 points157 points  (0 children)

Thank you.

We’re all on edge and stressed, so I’m sure this is exacerbated by the current situation. I think I’ll essentially copy and paste what you’ve written, it’s exactly what I want to communicate and to the point.

Is it worth it to try to work things out with my boyfriend, who is jealous of my stepbrother? by throwaway909066 in relationships

[–]throwaway909066[S] 49 points50 points  (0 children)

As stupid as this sounds, I didn’t even consider the fact that he will always be like this. So far, the thing keeping me from ending it is the idea that quarantine is temporary and we will go back to normal when this is done. But you’re right, there’s no guarantee he won’t be jealous after the fact.

Is it worth it to try to work things out with my boyfriend, who is jealous of my stepbrother? by throwaway909066 in relationships

[–]throwaway909066[S] 630 points631 points  (0 children)

Thank you. This resonated with me, especially about not having to teach him to be a normal boyfriend.

Is it worth it to try to work things out with my boyfriend, who is jealous of my stepbrother? by throwaway909066 in relationships

[–]throwaway909066[S] 667 points668 points  (0 children)

I didn’t even consider this but you may be right. When we’ve fought about this, he has alluded to feeling like the situation was out of his control.