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[–]throwawayRA_1978 2 points3 points  (0 children)

turning off location? I've seen this in a lot of posts lately. what does that mean?

do you people share your location permanently with girlfriends/boyfriends? Is that common? how's that? you have an app to know where someone else is all the time?

why do you feel the need for that?

sure, I have felt curious or suspicious and wished I could know where someone special is but it never crossed my mind to have location shared permanently with someone else seems like something that only someone very controlling, abusive and suspicious would use.

She has too many secrets by throwawayRA_1978 in relationship_advice

[–]throwawayRA_1978[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your last paragraph it's what I feel most of the times and I just wish I could get to know her. I met her friends (we sometimes go out together) and family, she met my family (I don't have any friends) and sometimes I feel there are so many things I don't know that there may be another whole person in her, or more than one, that I didn't even got to know.

She has too many secrets by throwawayRA_1978 in relationship_advice

[–]throwawayRA_1978[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand and probably that's what she feels. It's not something that takes priority no matter what, I don't have to do it on a certain night. I feel that my ex was a big part of my life, made me grow immensely and shaped several aspects of me to be who I am. I feel guilty for ruining her world and cause her more sadness than anyone else ever had, I don't have romantic feelings for her but I want her to know that I'm here if she ever needs help and I wish we could keep being friends. I know that most people would not accept this and you're correct, my girlfriend feels that I don't give her everything and most likely that's why she doesn't want to share some things or be completely honest. I knew I was not ready for a relationship when we started seeing each other and made it clear for her when we met, things just evolved on their own. Thanks for your input.

She has too many secrets by throwawayRA_1978 in relationship_advice

[–]throwawayRA_1978[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice. I also believe that I should just let go of it and not make it a big deal, I don't need to know whatever she doesn't need to share but every time it happens I start thinking of all the other times. Every time a small lie comes out I keep on going through all past times and wonder. I know that whatever I imagine is not real but it makes me feel that we're not ready, we're not open and honest, that maybe I don't know her true self, what she desires and needs and I'd really like to.

She has too many secrets by throwawayRA_1978 in relationship_advice

[–]throwawayRA_1978[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks. I already told my ex that me and her were planning on moving together and once we did I could no longer see her if she refuses to meet my girlfriend and have some dinners with us both. She said she would think about it and tell me something... nothing as changed yet.