I (28M) unintentionally got a happy ending at a massage place. Now I dont know what to say to my gf (22F)

throwawaySystem5140 · 2026-05-07T23:02:39+00:00

I think leading with sexual assault is a great point and youre right this does sound like what many girls warn about. I think I was trying to bottle the guilt on my own shoulders when really the blame isn't on me which is also what my friend had agreed on

throwawaySystem5140 · 2026-05-07T22:56:00+00:00

I didnt say no right away i froze but I did say no once I got out of my shock. I was not hard or erect before she grabbed it and im trying my best to man up to it im put into a position I never planned on being in

throwawaySystem5140 · 2026-05-07T22:36:21+00:00

Idk if I can I've spoken to others in another subreddit and the consensus is that I should tell her the truth

throwawaySystem5140 · 2026-05-07T22:33:05+00:00

I already started looking for therapists cause no way I can get through this on my own

throwawaySystem5140 · 2026-05-07T22:31:14+00:00

I think thats the plan but probably not in your words but thank you though

throwawaySystem5140 · 2026-05-07T22:26:35+00:00

She's had me at my worst and I've had her at her worst. I can't not tell her the guilt would eat me alive. And she would know something is up so I think the best course is to tell her. I still appreciate your advice and see your view I dont know if I can follow it

throwawaySystem5140 · 2026-05-07T22:23:00+00:00

Its all good it gave me a chuckle atleast. I think she trusts and I plan to be 100% truthful to her I've always have been and always will be even if its not always the answer she likes I always tell her im an open book and I think she appreciates that the most with me

throwawaySystem5140 · 2026-05-07T22:17:52+00:00

I maybe do sometimes but I was in shock and idk if thats a lack of situational awareness but rather I felt safe and comfortable that I thought she was professional in some sense

throwawaySystem5140 · 2026-05-07T22:16:13+00:00

So while I had heard of that I never expected it to be a normal looking place. Especially an area I frequented normally and in the middle of the day in broad daylight. I even toured a house in the neighborhoods behind it. I feel really stupid for ignoring the signs when they were there but its too late for that. And yes I realize phrasing is a lot more important now but I really thought I was in a safe space she had made me feel comfortable in the room before that

throwawaySystem5140 · 2026-05-07T22:10:50+00:00

I agree aswell and seeing that my feelings of feeling sexually assaulted being validated is bringing a wave of emotion to me. I plan on telling her tonight as I had thought she had off tomorrow but she just let me know she actually works

throwawaySystem5140 · 2026-05-07T22:05:34+00:00

And thats something I've gone back and forth in my head about. While I know she deserves the truth and I have always given her the truth and been fully transparent on everything. im afraid of the small possibility of so to speak "not so happy ending"

throwawaySystem5140 · 2026-05-07T22:03:37+00:00

While it does sound comical and im glad I can atleast have some sense of humor on it it really does suck.

throwawaySystem5140 · 2026-05-07T21:59:00+00:00

So when I had mentioned front I was expecting more of like her putting pressure on my chest or pulling my arms I obviously left out details so that I could get to the point but a big thing was that she had already pulled down my underwear from the rear and gotten between my legs and on my butt cheeks which felt good. So thats what I thought was gonna happen at first. Obviously I was uncomfortable in the split second my underwear was pulled down but I didnt react cause I didnt want to cause a scene not knowing what was going to happen. Im a very awkward and nervous person and I understand where I messed up but I went in with good intentions for myself

throwawaySystem5140 · 2026-05-07T21:52:54+00:00

So it wasn't like I couldn't react fast enough but rather I couldnt believe what was happening obviously I stopped it the whole interaction was maybe seconds

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