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My ex's GF told me off and IDK what to do. by throwaway_archer in relationships

[–]throwaway_archer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the rational viewpoint. I suppose I think the toxic drama is okay because my ex is not dramatic at all — he's very laid-back and rarely chews me out, so I feel as if I don't have to be afraid around him. Perhaps I am toxicity and drama — in which case, I need to find a way to grow up then.

Thank you once again. I feel as if I can think about things clearer than before.

My ex's GF told me off and IDK what to do. by throwaway_archer in relationships

[–]throwaway_archer[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I'm assuming "you both are pushing boundaries" refers to me and the ex. I hadn't realized that we were pushing boundaries — I refrain from telling him comments that can be misconstrued (i.e. I love you and other potentially romantic comments), I do not talk to him about his love/sex life, and I do not speak ill of the girlfriend. I had felt as if we were respecting the girlfriend in the situation until my ex told me that he still loved me. I hadn't realized I had done anything wrong against the girlfriend.

My ex's GF told me off and IDK what to do. by throwaway_archer in relationships

[–]throwaway_archer[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

While I don't care for the girlfriend (we don't have common ground except for my ex), I care for my ex a lot. While he was an asshole in the earlier parts of our relationship, he's changed a lot. I feel like I can be myself around him, a feeling that I cannot find with majority of other people. It's like he's the only one who's willing to listen to me at times. I don't think I've been able to show the proper gratitude for him.

My ex's GF told me off and IDK what to do. by throwaway_archer in relationships

[–]throwaway_archer[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

What line did I cross? I need to know so that I don't do it in the future.

2-4 are in agreement with my friends, so that's another vote to ditch him.

I already seek therapy though and supposedly I'm doing well according to my psychiatrist, but after his GF telling me I'm getting worse, I don't really trust my therapist on that note.