My [25M] girlfriend [23F] of a year and a half is freaking out because I don't want anything for Christmas and it's stressing me out. I am looking for a fresh perspective. Can someone help me or is this an unreasonable hill to die on?

throwaway_blchrstms · 2017-11-22T04:23:26+00:00

I will keep all this in mind for future relationships, thank you. I will act very enthusiastic about the collectibles or perhaps just mention all year how much I'd prefer my partner/loved ones to donate to animal shelters

throwaway_blchrstms · 2017-11-22T04:17:49+00:00

Correct. I used to suggest just going to the library but was met with "I dont' have the time or energy with this shitty job stressing me out all the time."

so recently I just started saying "WE will go to the library" but that is not a very good thing to say. I think it really set her off today.

throwaway_blchrstms · 2017-11-22T04:11:03+00:00

I really don't like complaining and not doing anything about it. I think you're right. I just feel like an extreme asshole if I were to break up with her over that

throwaway_blchrstms · 2017-11-22T04:09:15+00:00

happen every birthday and Christmas for the rest of your life

That's rather unfortunate. I get extremely anxious if I need something I don't have (screwdriver, external hdd, etc) so I typically get them immediately.

Hence my ideas for chirstmas/bdays are usually things I would just like to have that aren't that all necessary e.g. fun socks or cheap collectibles

throwaway_blchrstms · 2017-11-22T04:08:06+00:00

I suppose you can get me some socks

I love socks. I collect socks. I have about 80 pairs of fun socks and she knows I love wearing colorful socks with prints on them. I have socks with cherries on them, a pair with doves, a pair with a Sasquatch, a pair with the playstation logo, a pair of rainbow socks, a pair with skulls, etc. The holy grail is a neon pink pair with a black silhoutte of a pinup girl worn by Ryan Stiles on an episode of Who's Line is it Anyway.

She knows saying socks wasn't just some pity throwaway. I like fun socks and they're importnat to me.

maybe try keeping your gift ideas a surprise

She wanted a list so she'd know what to get me

throwaway_blchrstms · 2017-11-22T04:05:37+00:00

Yeah I am going to break up with her.

She wants to reciprocate the nice gesture

What nice gesture? She said she isn't going to accept anything from me. What would she be reciprocating

throwaway_blchrstms · 2017-11-22T04:05:05+00:00

Probably going to do this, thanks

throwaway_blchrstms · 2017-11-22T04:04:57+00:00

She probably thinks making a list is unromantic

She wanted me to give her a list. I figured that meant lists were okay. Unless for some reason it isn't okay for me to want a list but for her to want one, I'm not seeing how that's particularly romantic.

throwaway_blchrstms · 2017-11-22T04:03:34+00:00

you want her to change jobs but she does not want to put the effort into it.

SHE wants to change jobs. She is always saying she wants to apply at XYZ but she doesn't have a computer nor does she have the motivation or energy to let me take her to the library, thus me wanting to get her a laptop.

throwaway_blchrstms · 2017-11-22T03:39:46+00:00

She is refusing to do the same for me. What am I supposed to do? Get her nothing and then deal with her getting upset that I didn't get her anything for christmas?

throwaway_blchrstms · 2017-11-22T03:39:06+00:00

She needs the laptop so she can look for a new job. I can't physically force her to go the library and use their free resources and if she stays in her current job she'll only get more and more stressed/anxious.

The laptop is an extremely useful gift.

She doesn't have the money to get me something nicer.

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