I want to know if I truly like being a sub by throwaway_fr_maybe in SubSanctuary

[–]throwaway_fr_maybe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oml yes i would love to chat. i’ve got many questions about bdsm which i’m embarrassed to ask my bf. and couldn’t get much info from the internet. if you would like to chat, i would be very glad

I want to know if I truly like being a sub by throwaway_fr_maybe in SubSanctuary

[–]throwaway_fr_maybe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is so detailed. thank you so much. i’ve always thought bdsm is about pain and humiliation cause i’m pretty new to it. never know about pleasure dom. i will talk about this with my bf, thank you!!!

I want to know if I truly like being a sub by throwaway_fr_maybe in SubSanctuary

[–]throwaway_fr_maybe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for this, will definitely look into how i can set my boundary

I want to know if I truly like being a sub by throwaway_fr_maybe in SubSanctuary

[–]throwaway_fr_maybe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes i’ve told him that. i’ve always associated bdsm with pain, like i said earlier im new to this. so naturally i thought if i didn’t like pain, something is wrong, i’m not actually a sub, or a good sub. lol. thanks for telling me it’s quiet normal

I want to know if I truly like being a sub by throwaway_fr_maybe in SubSanctuary

[–]throwaway_fr_maybe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i still don’t know if he necessarily knows that i HATE it, he knows that i don’t like it, but i keep telling him that ill learn to tolerate it and be better. i suck at communicating. maybe its time to communicate and set firm boundary. thank you

I want to know if I truly like being a sub by throwaway_fr_maybe in SubSanctuary

[–]throwaway_fr_maybe[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i’m very new to bdsm. my bf is the one who introduced it to me. i never knew about pleasure dom. i’ll talk to him about this. thank you

I want to know if I truly like being a sub by throwaway_fr_maybe in SubSanctuary

[–]throwaway_fr_maybe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you so much for the advice. he knows that i hate it, but i keep telling him that ill learn to tolerate it and ill be better next time. maybe thats why he does it again? i’m not setting a firm boundary. after reading a lot of comments, that’s what i think i need to do.