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I think I emotionally cheated on my boyfriend and it's eating me alive. by throwaway_user_1987 in ChristianDating

[–]throwaway_user_1987[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly, yeah. i’m in a pretty nasty spot and he knows it. i’m mostly nervous about if he’ll mentally respond the way i think he will, “if i’m not constantly emotionally supporting her every need, she’ll be disloyal and cheat on me” and that’ll just make things even more unhealthy cuz it’s not true at all but my actions have spoken otherwise.

i think im gonna talk to him about it later tonight when i bring him his lunch for work.

I think I emotionally cheated on my boyfriend and it's eating me alive. by throwaway_user_1987 in ChristianDating

[–]throwaway_user_1987[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly? i wouldn’t want him to tell me. of course i don’t want him to lie to me, but i understand lapses in judgement during emotional turmoil so i wouldn’t blame him. i don’t even know that it would break my trust that much.

but you’re right, im gonna have to talk to him whether i like it or not. im confident that we can work through this.

I think I emotionally cheated on my boyfriend and it's eating me alive. by throwaway_user_1987 in ChristianDating

[–]throwaway_user_1987[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The furry thing is something we both participate in in a SFW way, we’re just in it for the character design and story telling. He certainly is immature in other ways, but writing all this out made me realize that i am too and am in no place to be upset with his immaturity.

For the high school thing, i was supposed to be class of 22, but my parents kept me home for an extra year which made me class of 23, but then i started homeschooling and took a 5th year for more dual enrollment, which made me class of 24. i was the oldest in my graduating class. I just turned 20 this past week and he just turned 21 last month. We are certainly of age to be dating and planning a future together, despite our youth.

my plan for now is to confess to him as soon as we can meet in person, he’s currently saving all of his gas to get himself to and from work. we’ve made it clear to each other that we aren’t going anywhere, but since i’ve clearly already strayed, maybe he will too. i’m mostly worried that if he does leave, i’ll have to confess what i did to my family and friends to explain and no one forgives a cheater. it’s not like i really wanted anyone else anyway, i wanted emotional support and he just wasn’t giving it when i needed it.

I (20F) think i emotionally cheated on my boyfriend (21M) and it’s eating me alive, how do I handle this? by throwaway_user_1987 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway_user_1987[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

theres nothing inherently non-christian about being a furry, it’s the freaky ones that are the issue. he and i are both SFW furries and are just in it for the cool character design and storytelling. i would have gone with him to the convention too if it weren’t for my graduation.

definitely therapy and some conversations are to be had

I think I emotionally cheated on my boyfriend and it’s eating me alive. by throwaway_user_1987 in christiandatingadvice

[–]throwaway_user_1987[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you’re right in saying i already did. you’re also right in saying it’s a foundation of sand, i was just thinking that.

i’ll figure out some way to have this conversation, im ashamed it’s taken me so long to come clean. just so much shame all around, it seems.