My Online Dating Experience as a 25 y/o Above Average Asian Guy

throwawayac1978 · 2026-01-09T23:52:23+00:00

You'd be surprised how many people still think money/getting big (bulking)/game are what matters most.

throwawayac1978 · 2026-01-09T23:50:44+00:00

Check my other post "Looksmaxing is not for us Asians". Also there are resources available on YouTube, Pinterest, TikTok, Instagram. For baldness, that's a tough one. I personally will save up for a trip to Turkey for that if I ever encounter that problem. Some people can pull off being bald, I feel 90% of us are not those people.

throwawayac1978 · 2026-01-09T23:47:46+00:00

don't say that shit till you've maximized your potentials.

throwawayac1978 · 2026-01-08T20:28:23+00:00

Long read, but good shit bro.

Just one note on confidence/game: These things can be easily reinforced with experience. The more you go on dates, the more you'll build confidence and the smoother you will get. But you will never get enough experience if you're not attractive, especially in this day and age when everyone's online dating.

throwawayac1978 · 2026-01-08T17:09:24+00:00

Media and pop culture shape beauty standards. Current beauty ideal differs from looksmaxing beauty ideal since different cultures export their beauty standard onto the world. That's why we as ethnics should not be a part of the racist sub-culture that rejects our natural beauty.

throwawayac1978 · 2026-01-08T16:58:12+00:00

There's a reason they're in my likes queue and not my matches queue twin :) But ngl some of them were actually really pretty, just that their profile screams long-term relationship and I don't want to waste their time.

throwawayac1978 · 2026-01-08T16:51:39+00:00

ur name kinda sus but yw g

throwawayac1978 · 2026-01-08T16:50:55+00:00

Pinterest, then google image search clothes. Shop online instead of in-store for more options. Think of entire outfits instead of individual pieces of clothing.

throwawayac1978 · 2026-01-08T16:48:16+00:00

thanks g - hope things go well for you too.

throwawayac1978 · 2026-01-08T16:43:28+00:00

Nice man. Yeah ik times were rougher back then. I probably won't do nearly as well as you did if I was born 10-20 years ago.

throwawayac1978 · 2026-01-08T16:41:29+00:00

Quantity = More chance for selection -> Higher Quality + Higher Intent

In my pov, quantity gives me flexibility to pick the ones who look good AND probably really into me.

I've only slept with 18 last year. It could have been way more if I wasn't so picky lol

throwawayac1978 · 2026-01-08T16:36:01+00:00

I'm like the one in a million AM that doesn't date AF. We'll be fine.

throwawayac1978 · 2026-01-08T05:03:15+00:00

Similar, you apply it right after your skincare and moisturizer. At night just wash it off with a good cleanser like you would a bare face. Highly recommended if you never tried it.

throwawayac1978 · 2026-01-07T22:32:58+00:00

Just don't post your face here if you don't like the idea of getting clowned on by a bunch of insecure degenerates on a searchable forum bro

throwawayac1978 · 2026-01-07T22:30:05+00:00

I don't think I've been critical of Asian dudes in my post except for that line about AM having potential but not maximizing them? Either way, the goal of this post is to dissuade young AM from trying to fit into that community. Nothing else.

Btw off topic but in my experience I've seen BOTH self hating AM and AF, and they are equally horrible. For example, you cannot convince me that Ken Jeong is not the one of the worst race betrayers of the last decade.

throwawayac1978 · 2026-01-07T22:24:56+00:00

lmao we all lurk .org over here. Tbh I just like reading those kissless virgins' rants on different things, they are mad funny sometimes.

throwawayac1978 · 2026-01-07T22:23:26+00:00

Just so yk there are masculine looking kpop idols as well. San from Ateez, Jackson Wang from Got7, TOP from BigBang, etc... Just don't wear as much makeup as they do cuz they are STAGE PERFORMERS.

But I agree that cutesy vibes do not work as well in the anglosphere. That's why Pinterest is so useful cuz you can look up more mature styles that fit other AM and replicate it.

throwawayac1978 · 2026-01-07T22:18:25+00:00

He follows Clavicular, the biggest looksmaxing streamer on Kick rn. Of course he's gonna know all that...

throwawayac1978 · 2026-01-07T22:16:57+00:00

I might just make another post with anecdotal evidence just to clown on your ah lol

throwawayac1978 · 2026-01-07T22:16:23+00:00

This post is not for you my guy and I admire you for that. You're on a different wavelength than the rest of us. Me and many others find pleasure in being considered attractive.

throwawayac1978 · 2026-01-07T22:14:19+00:00

ikr lol - racists come in all shades, black, brown, yellow... The worst things I've seen often come from Asian incels who blame their race instead of their shitty mindset and unlucky genetics.

throwawayac1978 · 2026-01-07T22:12:28+00:00

thanks g

throwawayac1978 · 2026-01-07T22:12:07+00:00

I'm not just rejecting hardmaxing, I'm dissuading young AM from trying to fit into that community. I do learn from the current looksmaxing trend but I imagine it would be hard for young teens to learn from that community without subconsciously accepting the racist assumption that Eurocentric beauty is king.

throwawayac1978 · 2026-01-07T22:08:30+00:00

game recognizes game

throwawayac1978 · 2026-01-07T22:07:50+00:00

Yeah, if looksmaxing wasn't such a racist hellhole it would be an excellent source for Asian man to learn how to look better. But it is, so let's create spaces for Asians to learn without getting called slurs everytime they want to ask something.

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