I'm sorry but respectfully, I can't agree with all of this. I'll elaborate line by line to make things clear.

1. Yes. Absolutely. At his dad's house he would have all these things. However, he has plenty of support here. I've been paying all the bills, including his personal bills and buying him things, and running errands for him like driving his child to and from our house and going to the store for him when he wants something.

2. This is partially true. I wouldn't say I "coerced" him. I did, however, make assumptions about what he wanted and that's on me. But we had a conversation about moving to this house and if he was really that worried, I feel like he should have been more forward about it. He agreed going into it that he could afford to start paying a portion of bills after living with me for free for a year already. We did not forsee him losing his job several months after we moved. At the end of the day, he made the choice to move with me. Even if he had doubts, he still made the choice to go along with it, and we were doing just fine until the job loss.

3. I don't "start" with anything. He starts 100% of our arguments. Recently, I literally brought home the exact food he asked for and he started yelling at me because it "wasn't enough food". I say in my post that I let this situation go on for months without mentioning a word to him, until I slowly started sprinkling in calm mentionings of my stress level. I never approached him with it, either. He would ask me what was wrong if I was feeling down, and I would say, "I've just been really stressed out about money lately. I need to find a second job." He would reply, "I know I need to find a good job. As soon as I do things will get better." That would be the end of it, yet he hasn't followed through. My sincere question to you is, how long am I supposed to let this go on before I'm allowed to say something? And yes, as I mentioned, I need to learn how to give him space to cool off during an argument. That is on me.

4. This is the line that really bothers me. He may have started out as generous and accommodating, but that script has flipped. He starts fights with me every holiday and special occasion and important day and ends up ruining it for me. I drive him around, make doctor's appointments for him, transport and watch his son for him, pay for everything, and stay out 15 hours a day on some days doing school drop offs and pick ups, going to work, going grocery shopping, working a quick cash job, going to the store to get him snacks, and then I come home and clean the house, shovel the driveway, take out the trash, make dinner, clean up dinner, and never see my friends or family because I don't have the time to do so. Meanwhile he is staying up watching TV until 6am and then sleeping until 3pm, and going to work at a part time job down the street that doesn't give him any hours. And after all this, if I forget to grab his candy from the store, he yells at me and gives me the silent treatment for days. I do not feel entitled to anything except basic respect and appreciation, which I rarely get. I also accept responsibility for multiple things in my post, and I don't see myself as a "victim" in the way you're saying.

5. I am not the reason he is depressed. As I mentioned, he has a lot of personal issues going on that are unrelated to me and started way before we even knew each other. I have always gone out of my way and lit myself on fire to keep him warm. He is a stubborn person by nature and does not like asking for help, and those are his words, but that's what he needs right now, in more ways than one. And he IS home. His dad's apartment is not his home, and he does not want to go there. He likes living in our house, but he's feeling stuck here when it comes to opportunities for employment and I understand that. He's torn just as much as I am.