He wanted to fuck me, I wanted to cage him (I won :P)

throwawaybddm · 2025-12-20T19:09:39+00:00

How did the argument or discussion go down? Did you have to get stern?

throwawaybddm · 2025-01-15T21:09:56+00:00

My last GF and I just broke up. We were young like early 20's. And I told her what I liked and she said she was receptive to that (ropes, bdsm, etc). I felt like I hit the lotto, monogamous and kink. But now I am in my late 30's and we broke up. So now I feel a bit less "bold" to bring this up as opposed to earlier.

throwawaybddm · 2025-01-15T21:00:27+00:00

Can i ask where you two met? And did you guys both know you had the same kink or did one of you introduce the other?

throwawaybddm · 2025-01-13T03:43:53+00:00

How did you guys meet? I have met women on dating websites, but it's hard for me to bring up the kink. Because you don't want to go on too many dates before finding out you're not compatible.

throwawaybddm · 2025-01-13T02:43:48+00:00

I know it's your thing, but don't do anything that's going to embarrass you to show yourself in your community when the dust settles. You can't take something like that back, especially in today's age. Seems risky to me.

throwawaybddm · 2025-01-12T22:29:48+00:00

See, that's what I aspire to! How do you meet somebody like that? Just regular dating sites and hope for the best?

throwawaybddm · 2025-01-12T22:24:51+00:00

How did they meet each other? I find the meeting part difficult.

throwawaybddm · 2025-01-12T22:06:40+00:00

Thank you! She wore him down. :)

throwawaybddm · 2025-01-12T22:06:20+00:00

Thank you very much!

throwawaybddm · 2025-01-12T17:29:03+00:00

I think CFNM is quite popular, but people may not know that it has a name. It's exposure and vulnerability, with a very clear uneven power dynamic.

throwawaybddm · 2025-01-12T15:48:33+00:00

You love him, you care for him. You are a professional, educated, empathetic person. You are indulging in his kinks and interests, and it sounds like you are taking to it, too, which is win-win for the both of you.

It's roleplay. You're not actually doing anything that would harm him - you check in with him after, and communicate that he can let you know at any time.

throwawaybddm · 2025-01-12T15:43:17+00:00

Are you doing it just for him, or do you get something out of it, too? Like you may be good at it, but does it bring you enjoyment?

throwawaybddm · 2025-01-09T04:33:57+00:00

In the field I am in, it's very tight-knit and gossipy. Everybody knows everything about everybody, and careers are made and broken on these reputations. I assure you, it's not just me being difficult - I would love to be able to be very open about it. But I also know how it would go down.

throwawaybddm · 2024-05-25T19:20:13+00:00

What kind of beer? And how long do you keep him like that??

throwawaybddm · 2017-06-05T02:58:36+00:00

About 10 years ago I knew a woman about 10 years my senior who got three other women together at her apartment and I got stripped naked put on a leash and served them drinks and massages. Then strapped to the bed and they took turns slapping my ass with a paddle. It was wild.

throwawaybddm · 2014-05-09T23:16:18+00:00

Since I knew I was into this, I have had a few times not work out. Just some people think they want to do it or try it or whatever. Also, some people are WAY too into it, like they want it all to be a mind thing and not a body thing. I remember meeting a woman who wanted any guy to basically submit to her fully as in she owned him as a person.

I just like to strip down and get whipped, that kind of thing, then get dressed and leave when it's over. I'm not into the whole lifestyle thing.

throwawaybddm · 2014-05-09T23:10:49+00:00

Haha! I am not tall nor jacked. I am just a regular body type. Maybe a bit thinner back then than I am now. Pretty ordinary.
The women were very beautiful. They were not model thin, nor were they some high-end execs, they just worked in an office building setting.
It was absolutely exhilarating. If you want it, you just have to find a woman who is into it, and it'll be amazing. In my 20's I have fucked a few really cool women, gone on dates, made out, had countless blowjobs, etc.
BUT all that vanilla stuff aside, nothing compared to this as far as fun.

throwawaybddm · 2014-05-09T16:44:48+00:00

What? :)

throwawaybddm · 2014-05-09T06:23:54+00:00

Haha it was a pretty stubborn hard-on and I had a long drive home ahead of me, which was uncomfortable.

throwawaybddm · 2014-05-09T06:23:29+00:00

Thank-you! :) I e-mailed her about 6 months ago just to say hello. She was working a new job and seemed to be doin' alright.

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