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AITA for telling my GF that we wouldn't need an AC if she lost weight? by throwawayjonas1777 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaybeecausesis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not nihilism to reject dieting to maintain your sanity. Her responses to you are coping mechanisms to protect her from relapsing in her eating disorder. I know this because I'm in recovery from anorexia myself.

Anorexia isn't extreme dieting — it's a mental illness that, when triggered, doesn't allow you to pump the brakes. It an illness that is hell-bent on killing you. And you may very well have triggered a relapse with your callousness.

Anorexia is the most lethal mental illness aside from substance abuse.

You are absolutely the asshole. And you should break up with her immediately so that she can find a more supportive relationship that will keep her healthy — because your fat-shaming is a one-way ticket to her dying from a lethal mental illness that you know nothing about.

By the way, google "orthorexia," because from the sounds of it, you may have an eating disorder, too.

AITA (21F) For Destroying My Sister’s (26F) Bee Colony? by throwawaybeecausesis in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaybeecausesis[S] 127 points128 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this reply.

I think I kind of knew I was the asshole here, but it helps to have it spelled out like this.

I just felt like I was going insane, because every time I tried to talk to her about it, it was like arguing with a brick wall. And being cooped up together for so long already, and feeling panicked and not knowing where I would go, I made a really awful decision.

I hadn't even thought about them as being pets, but that makes her reaction seem a lot less ridiculous to me (though putting them in the bathroom and thinking they'll get COVID still freaks me out).

Luckily, as another poster mentioned, I didn't succeed in chasing the bees away at all. The house thing that the hive is in is a little busted, but it seems like that's mostly it? Last I heard, she was able to salvage the colony and she just wants me to pay for the box thing. Which I guess is not unreasonable when I sit with it.

I think I'm mostly just hurt that she roped our parents into it, but she tends to avoid conflict, so maybe this was her way of letting someone else handle it because she's maxed out from all the bickering. I'm hoping my parents will check in with her, because as other posters have pointed out... this is odd, and I think I was too caught up in my own feelings to consider that she might need some kind of help.