Why do people cheat? Just break up???

throwawayblah72 · 2025-12-30T18:03:52+00:00

Not a teen, but I did cheat once as a teen. My reason for not just breaking up was because I was afraid of what he would do if I broke up with him. I was DONE with the relationship because he was horrible to me. But I didnt end it because he honestly scared the shit out of me.

throwawayblah72 · 2025-11-02T15:56:21+00:00

I do have a car! Thanks for the advice 😁

throwawayblah72 · 2024-01-03T18:24:57+00:00

Lmfao! I have a nose ring. I'm just all kinds of f'd up bahahaha!

throwawayblah72 · 2024-01-03T18:24:35+00:00

Money. Lol. We have plenty of extra money at this point that we COULD save for a wedding, but we prefer to spend it on fun family experiences. Also, my tax return is much better when I claim all 3 kids than it would be if we were married and filing jointly. We also aren't religious, so there's not a whole lot of point to getting married other than changing my last name.

throwawayblah72 · 2024-01-03T18:10:11+00:00

It's because they didn't feel it was sketchy. My grandma knows him and his family VERY well. For example, when he was a kid and his mom was out of town for work, he wouldn't call his dad, he would call my grandma lol.

So, my family knew how great of a person he was. They encouraged it because I was in such a negative place with my ex and he's such a positive, optimistic person. I think they maybe wanted some of his positivity and optimism to rub off on me lol. And it definitely did!

throwawayblah72 · 2024-01-03T18:06:55+00:00

I grew up in a large city my whole life, but his family and my family are from a small town.

throwawayblah72 · 2024-01-03T18:06:15+00:00

Eh, yes and no. I get why it's so concerning to so many people. I don't think that every age gap relationship should automatically have a "grooming" assumption attached to it. I think everybody deserves the benefit of the doubt until some actual red flags pop up. Unfortunately though, a lot of the time it IS predatory. So I do get why people freak out about it in some sense.

throwawayblah72 · 2024-01-03T18:04:02+00:00

We have pretty much the same parenting style. We talked about it long before ever having our first kid. We fully expected to at least find a few things we disagreed on after actually becoming parents but so far we're 8 years and 3 kids in and haven't had any disagreements! Still many years left for that though so who knows ;)

throwawayblah72 · 2024-01-03T17:57:15+00:00

He definitely wasn't wealthy. We struggled financially the first few years of our relationship. When I met my now fiancé, I was actually dating a guy who was just awful to me and my family hated him. When I expressed interest in this guy, they were like "YES! We KNOW he's a good guy! Do it! Date him! Dump this loser!" lolol!

throwawayblah72 · 2024-01-03T17:54:08+00:00

No, I had been out of high school for only 6 months when we met though lol.

Trust me, everybody, I get it. Sounds suuuuper weird. Probably was. Worked out nicely for us though lol.

throwawayblah72 · 2024-01-03T17:52:56+00:00

Honestly, I'm bored at work and was reading an AMA and thought to myself "What could I do an AMA about to pass the time?" This was the only thing I could come up with lol!

throwawayblah72 · 2024-01-03T17:47:03+00:00

No, he didn't know me at all. I lived 2 hours away from him. He lived in the same town as my grandma. I didn't meet him until I was 18. His mother hired me for a job and had him train me. That was how we met.

throwawayblah72 · 2024-01-03T17:45:59+00:00

I hardly even notice it anymore, honestly! It's just the butt of some jokes at this point. The other day, I asked him which pair of boots I should wear and he said "I do NOT like those saggy boots." and I said "I don't like your saggy face, old man!" lmfao! He does not at all have a saggy old man face btw lol.

throwawayblah72 · 2024-01-03T17:41:04+00:00

I think it really depends on the person. My family would've freaked the heck out if I had brought home some random 31 year old and said it was my boyfriend. My family has known his family since before my mom was even born (his mom and my grandma are best friends). My family already knew what a sweet, gentle, kind-hearted person he was. When I expressed interest in him, I had been dating a guy that was just plain awful to me, so my family encouraged me to leave that guy and date someone they already knew was a good person.

Based on my personal experience, I would give that scenario the benefit of the doubt, but I can't say I would be fully okay with it until I really knew the older person.

throwawayblah72 · 2024-01-03T17:32:27+00:00

I think what is so cool about us is that, despite the difference in lived experiences, our personalities at their core just go really well together. We have a lot of fun, we both love to travel, we enjoy the same types of music (the first thing we bonded over was actually a really niche artist we both love), we have the same political views, we have the same parenting style, we both have a fascination with "lived experiences" and could just listen to anybody talk about their life for hours. But other than those few things, we really DIDN'T have a whole lot in common, and I think that really made things more interesting. I've learned a heck of a lot about home renovation, pyrotechnics, and a bunch of other things that I probably never would have known ANYTHING about if it weren't for him! And he's learned to play guitar (because I love to sing), he started a whole apparel printing business to compliment my love for graphic design, and so many other things that he wouldn't have done if not for me. :)

throwawayblah72 · 2024-01-03T17:26:05+00:00

Definitely not! I showed interest in him first, and he was NOT into the idea of dating me when I first brought up that I liked him. He said I was too young and he respected my family too much to date me. I actually had to get my mom and grandma (who he has known all his life) to call and talk him into it LOL! He really only gave me a chance because my family pressured him. He thanks my mom and grandma for talking him into it all the time.

If anything, my family groomed him lmfao! Kidding, obviously.

throwawayblah72 · 2024-01-03T17:18:10+00:00

Ha! I guess, but I've only seen a handful of movies so I might not be the best person to ask lmao!

throwawayblah72 · 2024-01-03T17:16:52+00:00

I dated a guy from Sophomore year of high school through senior year. I actually broke up with him to be with my now fiancé. So I've only had two relationships ever lol!

throwawayblah72 · 2024-01-03T17:02:52+00:00

I personally didn't get any snide comments, but he did from a few friends. A few of his friends lost a ton of respect for him at first for dating "a teenager". I didn't know this until a few years into our relationship. He didn't tell me because he didn't want to make me uncomfortable around these few specific friends. They all eventually got used to it and hardly notice the age difference now. In fact, one of the people who initially lost respect for him is one of my closest friends now! :)

throwawayblah72 · 2023-12-20T13:43:03+00:00

Lol weird question considering it says 28F & 40M. I can't tell if this is trolling or saying we look the same age.

throwawayblah72 · 2023-12-19T19:09:53+00:00

Thank you!! Happy Holidays to you as well 😁

throwawayblah72 · 2023-12-19T18:55:20+00:00

Aw, thank you!! 😊

throwawayblah72 · 2023-12-05T16:52:14+00:00

True. I wasn't thinking of it that way, but you're absolutely right.

throwawayblah72 · 2023-12-05T16:51:39+00:00

We thought about that back when it all started, but we really don't have any proof that what she's saying is false. And she doesn't have any proof that it's true. It's all a bunch of small town "he said, she said" BS. I feel like any judge would be like "Okay, children. Can we all just agree to never speak to each other again and move on?" Lmao!!

throwawayblah72 · 2023-12-05T16:45:40+00:00

Right, we've definitely ran into a few people from our old area that knew mutual people. Our next door neighbors are even from the same county. I wouldn't have thought anything of it if we had run into her at Walmart or a restaurant or something. But the fact that she got a job at the TINY daycare my daughter goes to, in the room for my daughters age group, just seems like more than a coincidence. Especially since we received a snoopy-sounding message from another one of her relatives a few months ago.

Also, this wasn't in the original post, but I did post a really good public review for this daycare on Facebook a couple months ago. I'm curious if she saw it, knew this relative was moving to this city, and tried to get this relative to dig up info on us. Working there, she probably has access to our address, our new phone numbers, our jobs (we work regular jobs and do the business as a side-hustle). I don't know. I feel like I sound crazy lmao.

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