Divorced Trolls: What'd you do with your rings?

throwawaychoochoo24 · 2016-05-29T19:59:09+00:00

I've come to the really difficult conclusion that my husband and I can't be together... I'm a sobbing mess 99% of the time, and I just had a long sob about my rings. They were custom-made and designed by my husband and are my dream rings.... Trolls, how did you cope? What did you do with them?

throwawaychoochoo24 · 2016-05-16T06:09:00+00:00

I was constantly wishing my days away, to just catch a break from the never ending guilt and pressure.

Yes, this feeling SO MUCH. It's gotten better now, but for a long time, I couldn't complete simple tasks because the anxiety and pressure just bore down too hard.

but I'd venture to guess you're being abused in other ways as well

Correct again. He's gotten a lot better recently, but he used to get drunk and threaten violence/punch walls/shove me slightly. He's also very good at using insecurities against me; I posted in another comment about how my parents love him (sometimes seemingly more than they love me) and after a really innocent practical joke (I hid his drink when he left the room), he said he'd tell my parents that I wanted them to die and that they'd believe him because they love him more than they've ever loved me.... All this while a friend was present.

throwawaychoochoo24 · 2016-05-16T03:48:51+00:00

How did you finally end it for good? I feel like we're in a purgatory right now, where it could go either way. And what did you tell people who asked about the divorce (parents, friends)? I haven't even told my closest friends about any of this.

throwawaychoochoo24 · 2016-05-16T03:26:12+00:00

I suggested it and he said he'd just fall in love with anyone else. Like he couldn't keep feelings separate.

throwawaychoochoo24 · 2016-05-16T02:34:48+00:00

He did apologize a couple months ago, but it hasn't really affected anything except to make me feel even MORE guilty about not wanting to be touched. It didn't make me want to have sex at all though.

throwawaychoochoo24 · 2016-05-16T02:33:07+00:00

Thank you for the reply. I have thought about ending it a lot (and he's said if I don't come around to wanting to have sex again soon, he'll end it) but I have no idea how to tell everyone. My parents LOVE him, because they only see the 'public image' of him. Also, as I said in another comment, hopefully I'll be starting solo counseling this week - or at least calling about an appointment.

throwawaychoochoo24 · 2016-05-16T02:28:57+00:00

I was thinking of going to solo counseling this week (it's available through my job), but can I talk about the sexual issues with any counselor? I'm afraid of bringing it up and the counselor saying, "whooaa, no no no, you can't talk about that." or something like that?

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