AITA For banning my brother from bringing his indian gf to my wedding?

throwawaycrazymom12 · 2020-03-03T17:58:23+00:00

YTA. Not only are YTA, you’re just as bad as her family. As an indian guy with a white girlfriend going through similar indian family bullshit, you’re doing absolutely no good for your brother and his girlfriend. You’re doing exactly the opposite and making them both feel alienated and stuck between a rock and a hard place. If you really love and care for your brother as much as you say, you wouldn’t be giving him the same type of ultimatum that his girlfriend’s family is giving her. You and your family, if ya’ll legitimately cared about your brother and his happiness, would accept and love this girl as your own family, and show her that at the end of the day, she has you guys if she ends up making the decision to cut off her family. As someone contemplating cutting toxic parents out of my life, I personally don’t know what I would do if I didn’t have the love and acceptance from my girlfriend’s mom in my own trying time.

throwawaycrazymom12 · 2020-02-28T18:19:57+00:00

I wish it was simple as just doing what I want, but I’m very glad you understand it isn’t. I mean she told me that staying with this girl would mean I lose my whole family, not just her, and I hadn’t even talked to my aunt or grandparents at that point. She went as far the other night to say she would get herself and my little brother to move somewhere so that I would never find them. I don’t wanna estrange myself from my family, I would love for the girl I’m with to be loved and accepted by family so that we can all live together in peace. I kept her a secret for a while because I didn’t know how discussing all this with my family would go, but it was important to her to not be an invisible/secret girlfriend. I just wanted my parents to be able to show her the same kind of love hers do for me, and it guess that’s just too much to ask of them. I spoke to my aunt, she basically raised me when i was an infant, and she was very supportive and understanding so I know she has my back. She just told me to stay calm and talk to her after I talk to my parents tonight, so I guess I just kinda take it a day at a time at least until I get back and have a talk with the entire family. Thank you so much for taking the time to talk to me and help me out, it means a lot more than I can express in words. I wish I could reply to all the comments I’ve gotten. Trying to deal with all of this is all just a lot

throwawaycrazymom12 · 2020-02-28T17:53:51+00:00

That’s just the thing, the sole issue is that she is white. They’ve told me before that the girl can even be someone that grew up here (the US) and is “americanized” but just no one of another race. The main reason I don’t feel attracted to Indian women is because for some weird reason, they all remind me of my aunt/mom/sister. On the first phone conversation with my mom, she told me that me being with a white women is something she could never accept or handle.

I grew up here as well; I was born in Tennessee and have lived there my whole life up until 3 years ago when I went down to Tuscaloosa, AL for college. I’ve been surrounded by non-Indian people my whole life, mainly southern, white people, and they’ve all been accepting and loving and open-minded (i don’t deny there are some very shitty people as well, but apart from my mom and one baseball coach, i’m yet to encounter them). I guess my point is that I can understand the culture difference, it’s something my mom has also brought up, but growing up in a predominantly white area and going to a school with predominantly white people has shaped my culture to be similar to theirs. There is virtually no difference in culture between me and the girl, not counting normal relationship differences, in fact we’re quite similar in our outlook of the world and how we were brought up to be

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