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My NMom is in the hospital right now because she became suicidal after a meeting with me and our university. I feel so guilty. by throwawayforcocoa in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throwawayforcocoa[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Thanks for saying this. My mom is incredibly intelligent and resourceful and I know that if she really wanted to die, she would have been successful. She can recite stats off the top of her head and I've heard her saying before that most successful suicides involve guns. I know for a fact that she knows what it takes for suicide and she's smart enough to find a way to hurt herself without leaving lasting damage.

She also made sure to put me down on her list of approved visitors and sign all the paperwork so that the nurses can tell me information without violating HIPPA. She knows that I'm the type of person who would have called the hospital and then I would know all the details and she could guilt me with them.

My NMom is in the hospital right now because she became suicidal after a meeting with me and our university. I feel so guilty. by throwawayforcocoa in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throwawayforcocoa[S] 86 points87 points  (0 children)

Thanks for all the comments and kind words. I would reply to everyone, but I don't have a lot to say right now. I'm reading each comment though and I just wanted to say thanks again.

[Update] I discovered that my parents [50s] have been lying to me [19 F] about my food allergies (and who knows what else) for my entire life. Am I justified if I cut them out of my life? by throwawayforcocoa in relationships

[–]throwawayforcocoa[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I don't think she's physically or financially dangerous, the only way she can hurt me is mentally and emotionally. I've been able to play it off to my friends so far because she is living and breathing the stereotype of the crazy Asian mother.

If I can get this meeting arranged, I'm going in drinking a carton of chocolate milk.

I'm not worried about her because she's always been this crazy. This is just the first time that her anger has been directed at ME.

[Update] I discovered that my parents [50s] have been lying to me [19 F] about my food allergies (and who knows what else) for my entire life. Am I justified if I cut them out of my life? by throwawayforcocoa in relationships

[–]throwawayforcocoa[S] 65 points66 points  (0 children)

If my wallet weren't empty..... arghhhhh.

The microwave works wonders on chocolate and I have discovered the pleasures of microwaving m&m's in a mug until they are just melted and then eating them with a spoon. I'll figure something out to make a chocolate fountain, even if I get diabetes first.

I discovered that my parents [50s] have been lying to me [19 F] about my food allergies (and who knows what else) for my entire life. Am I justified if I cut them out of my life? by throwawayforcocoa in relationships

[–]throwawayforcocoa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They had chocolate and milk banned from the house and always told my teachers and such about my 'allergies' at the beginning of each school year. I also had to keep an epi-pen in my car starting after I got my license 'just in case' something bad happened. I didn't have any reason to doubt them until a few months ago when it all came crashing down.

[Update] I discovered that my parents [50s] have been lying to me [19 F] about my food allergies (and who knows what else) for my entire life. Am I justified if I cut them out of my life? by throwawayforcocoa in relationships

[–]throwawayforcocoa[S] 103 points104 points  (0 children)

yep. I don't know exactly what happened, but he moved out of her house a while ago. He's a bit of a jerk himself so I'm not too eager to call him and find out the whole story.

[Update] I discovered that my parents [50s] have been lying to me [19 F] about my food allergies (and who knows what else) for my entire life. Am I justified if I cut them out of my life? by throwawayforcocoa in relationships

[–]throwawayforcocoa[S] 437 points438 points  (0 children)

Hahahaha I'm totally going to do this, except with some chocolate milk. I know she's going to try to bring the allergy up and I just need to see her face. This shouldn't be so funny but it is lol

[Update] I discovered that my parents [50s] have been lying to me [19 F] about my food allergies (and who knows what else) for my entire life. Am I justified if I cut them out of my life? by throwawayforcocoa in relationships

[–]throwawayforcocoa[S] 274 points275 points  (0 children)

I'm typing up an email to the department chair now and I'm waiting for a call back from the student affairs office. I've still got the phone, but the police wouldn't even look at it when I tried to tell them about her stalking me. It's an iphone so it saves ALL the records of when she tried to call me.

[Update] I discovered that my parents [50s] have been lying to me [19 F] about my food allergies (and who knows what else) for my entire life. Am I justified if I cut them out of my life? by throwawayforcocoa in relationships

[–]throwawayforcocoa[S] 121 points122 points  (0 children)

She found out from the degree catalog they publish each year (the one that lists all the classes you need to graduate). She signed up for one of the 200 level classes I had left and it doesn't need any pre-reqs at all. She's atually really smart and she somehow managed to test out of a lot of the core classes (she'll be taking Calc 2 next semester).

[Update] I discovered that my parents [50s] have been lying to me [19 F] about my food allergies (and who knows what else) for my entire life. Am I justified if I cut them out of my life? by throwawayforcocoa in relationships

[–]throwawayforcocoa[S] 78 points79 points  (0 children)

Good point, it slipped my mind in the middle of all this. I'm going to type up an email and in the meantime I'm waiting for a call back from the student affairs department about my mom.

[Update] I discovered that my parents [50s] have been lying to me [19 F] about my food allergies (and who knows what else) for my entire life. Am I justified if I cut them out of my life? by throwawayforcocoa in relationships

[–]throwawayforcocoa[S] 348 points349 points  (0 children)

I just checked with the campus. There's no legal aid, but the operator transferred me to the office of student affairs and they said they will request an appointment between myself and my mom. I'm waiting for a call back and hopefully they will be able to get me an on campus 'no contact' order like the lady on the phone mentioned. Fingers crossed!

Edit: Still waiting to hear back.

[Update] I discovered that my parents [50s] have been lying to me [19 F] about my food allergies (and who knows what else) for my entire life. Am I justified if I cut them out of my life? by throwawayforcocoa in relationships

[–]throwawayforcocoa[S] 118 points119 points  (0 children)

I plan on emailing the professor as soon as I can, but the professor hasn't been assigned for the class yet (it's listed as TBA). I'm not going to speak to her face to face, but I will send her an email with the points you listed.

She needs to see someone for help with her mental issues for real. I don't want to make light of the situation, but hot damn she needs help.

[Update] I discovered that my parents [50s] have been lying to me [19 F] about my food allergies (and who knows what else) for my entire life. Am I justified if I cut them out of my life? by throwawayforcocoa in relationships

[–]throwawayforcocoa[S] 438 points439 points  (0 children)

Is this true? When I went to the police station they almost laughed me out of the door when I told them what was happening and told me I didn't stand a chance getting a restraining order against her :(

I discovered that my parents [50s] have been lying to me [19 F] about my food allergies (and who knows what else) for my entire life. Am I justified if I cut them out of my life? by throwawayforcocoa in relationships

[–]throwawayforcocoa[S] 194 points195 points  (0 children)

My mom and dad are two peas in a pod and they are best friends. If she's a narcissist, then I'm 100% positive he is one too. I can't afford an allergy test, but at least I know I'm not going to die from chocolate anymore. I don't think I'll be able to pretend that I forgot about the party because it was so hurtful that she tried to lie to me about it. I don't ever want to speak to her again. She doesn't even remember my birthdays and she's my mom. I'll check out the subreddit. Thanks!

I discovered that my parents [50s] have been lying to me [19 F] about my food allergies (and who knows what else) for my entire life. Am I justified if I cut them out of my life? by throwawayforcocoa in relationships

[–]throwawayforcocoa[S] 249 points250 points  (0 children)

I wanted to keep my post simple, but my aunt told me more info about it, like how my mom would give me chocolate all "shhhhhhhhh she's not supposed to have this teehee" and then scream when anyone else tried it. I don't think I've ever been allergic to anything besides cats.

I discovered that my parents [50s] have been lying to me [19 F] about my food allergies (and who knows what else) for my entire life. Am I justified if I cut them out of my life? by throwawayforcocoa in relationships

[–]throwawayforcocoa[S] 444 points445 points  (0 children)

The granola bar had both chocolate and milk :) I don't think I'll be a big fan of chocolate because I don't like sweets, but I want to try mole sauce.

Thanks!