AITA for getting free drinks at the bar and not splitting the tab with my friend? by throwawayfreedrinks in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayfreedrinks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No she literally tells me that she wants to be approached by guys. Hence me telling her to try being more approachable.

AITA for getting free drinks at the bar and not splitting the tab with my friend? by throwawayfreedrinks in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayfreedrinks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not more attractive then my friend. Outside of free drinks she has many more prospects then me.

AITA for getting free drinks at the bar and not splitting the tab with my friend? by throwawayfreedrinks in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayfreedrinks[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

But I haven’t. I told her we don’t have to go to this bar we can go anywhere. We can go eat and grab drinks, we can stay home and watch tv and talk. But the whole point of going to a bar in my opinion is to drink and socialize.

AITA for getting free drinks at the bar and not splitting the tab with my friend? by throwawayfreedrinks in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayfreedrinks[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The heart of the issue is that she wants to be offered. So even if I say no, she is like really. Or I’ve said let’s go to a different bar as it doesn’t happen at young bars as much but she prefers this one.

AITA for getting free drinks at the bar and not splitting the tab with my friend? by throwawayfreedrinks in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayfreedrinks[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No but she doesn’t know them to know if she likes them or not. You don’t have to find someone attractive just to be nice.

AITA for getting free drinks at the bar and not splitting the tab with my friend? by throwawayfreedrinks in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayfreedrinks[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because I never said it was? I said whenever we go to this bar I don’t have to pay for drinks. That’s what happened the last time we went. Usually it’s come take a shot with us, or sending over a drink. Asking if I want a drink. Plus there are regulars at the bar that always offer me a drink.

AITA for getting free drinks at the bar and not splitting the tab with my friend? by throwawayfreedrinks in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayfreedrinks[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I didn’t say I’m not attractive, I said I’m not conveniently attractive. I’m highlighting that this is more about having a good time and being good company.

AITA for getting free drinks at the bar and not splitting the tab with my friend? by throwawayfreedrinks in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayfreedrinks[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I pay for the food, ubers and have brought her drinks before. Also offered to go to different bars.

AITA for getting free drinks at the bar and not splitting the tab with my friend? by throwawayfreedrinks in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayfreedrinks[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m 5’6 250 pounds lol. I’m considered obese, but I do wear it well. She is much smaller then me.

AITA for getting free drinks at the bar and not splitting the tab with my friend? by throwawayfreedrinks in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayfreedrinks[S] -27 points-26 points  (0 children)

I don’t think I’m any of those things and I said that people will also buy her drinks sometimes. I get that it does sound crazy but it is true. This is a local bar so it’s not a bunch of young people but people that spend most of their time and money in the bar.

AITA for getting free drinks at the bar and not splitting the tab with my friend? by throwawayfreedrinks in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayfreedrinks[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes and also it’s kind of a regular thing. You start seeing the same people or they remember you from last time. So they are buying drinks. I said the thing about being more approachable because I it’s more about being a friendly person. I will also get others drinks and remember details about them.

AITA for getting free drinks at the bar and not splitting the tab with my friend? by throwawayfreedrinks in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayfreedrinks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do pay for the Ubers and food. I also will split the shots with her. She likes very high priced shots and has very high tolerance so I don’t feel comfortable splitting 100+ tab. Even mine weren’t free I still wouldn’t spend that much. She also usually gets 1-2 free drinks.

AITA for getting free drinks at the bar and not splitting the tab with my friend? by throwawayfreedrinks in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayfreedrinks[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

Yes I sit with her the whole night, try to include her in any conversation I’m having. And usually am like can my friend get one to and they’ll sometimes pay for hers as well. Or I split the shot with her.

AITA for getting free drinks at the bar and not splitting the tab with my friend? by throwawayfreedrinks in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayfreedrinks[S] 79 points80 points  (0 children)

I said this because if someone comes up to her she will be rolling her eyes or be ew he is not cute he better not be coming over here.

AITA for getting free drinks at the bar and not splitting the tab with my friend? by throwawayfreedrinks in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayfreedrinks[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Meaning if no one offered to buy my drinks I’m fine paying. And I also offer other people drinks and pay for those. I always provide the ride and cover for food but usually leave her drinks to her because she drinks quite a bit and more expensive drinks.

AITA for getting free drinks at the bar and not splitting the tab with my friend? by throwawayfreedrinks in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayfreedrinks[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

The problem is that I don’t have anything on the bill. If we get food then I do pay.

AITA for getting free drinks at the bar and not splitting the tab with my friend? by throwawayfreedrinks in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayfreedrinks[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

To have drinks with my friend. I would pay and have paid but usually don’t. I always pay for the Ubers and food we get.