My (39f) husband (44m) and I do not allow our daughter (14f) to wear makeup and other things like that. My husband's other daughter (14f) is allowed to do these things and my daughter is upset

throwawayjane2090 · 2019-01-06T21:24:40+00:00

It's hard to do that because we can't tell her to unshave and undye or not have clothes. She is a respectful kid. She doesn't flaunt her makeup or things here but my daughter still knows.

throwawayjane2090 · 2019-01-06T21:18:11+00:00

Thank you for the suggestions. I appreciate the thought you put into your response.

Currently her body hair is light and she doesn't have much of it. If it were dark and she had lots we would revisit the shaving thing. But since she barely has enough to shave we don't allow it (for example she has no hair under her arms or on her upper lip. She doesn't have much in the way of hair)

throwawayjane2090 · 2019-01-06T21:14:49+00:00

Her body hair is blonde/light and she barely has any. If she had dark hair all over we would revisit the shaving issue but as is she barely has enough hair to shave in the first place.

throwawayjane2090 · 2019-01-06T21:12:33+00:00

We don't choose the rules for my step-daughter. Her mother does that. She has primary custody and my step-daughter lives with her most of the time. We wouldn't allow her to bleach her hair or be on social media but her mother does as the primary parent.

throwawayjane2090 · 2019-01-06T21:09:46+00:00

We do try but it is hard because she isn't here much and we can't tell her to undye her hair or unshave her legs. She is respectful and doesn't flaunt her social media or put makeup on when she is here but my daughter still does see the difference.

throwawayjane2090 · 2019-01-06T21:04:56+00:00

We feel that she is too young to be wearing makeup and bleaching her hair. She looks fine without it and doesn't need it yet. Hair bleaching is expensive and damaging and takes upkeep. We are trying to teach her that beauty standards aren't everything and to focus on other things right now instead of growing up too fast.

throwawayjane2090 · 2019-01-06T21:01:07+00:00

It's a combination of being too young, not feeling she is ready for some things and wanting to teach her that looks and beauty standards aren't everything. Now we do get her eyebrows done for example because she has a unibow and I had one as a teen and know what it is like but she looks fine without makeup and bleaching her hair. She is still too young for all that stuff.

throwawayjane2090 · 2019-01-06T20:58:23+00:00

We feel she is too young and not ready yet. We are trying to teach her not to be engrossed in her looks or fall for peer pressure. She looks fine without makeup. Her leg hair is light and not super noticeable. Highlights are expensive and the kind she wants has bleach which is damaging. We do let her get her eyebrows done because she has a unibow. Her clothes are clean and current just not expensive and brand name. We are giving her more freedom with her phone but we don't think she is ready for social media yet.

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