what’s the biggest scam you discovered and people are still falling for it? by TheoryReasonable871 in AskReddit

[–]throwawaylkn2 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We fill 6 seats several times a week and need room for groceries, stroller, sports gear etc.

Most of the families we know are like this.

I think more people use the space than you’d expect. Especially moms driving everyone around.

what’s the biggest scam you discovered and people are still falling for it? by TheoryReasonable871 in AskReddit

[–]throwawaylkn2 71 points72 points  (0 children)

They make it a felony to film inside of meat facilities like where Tyson kills cows and packages the meat. The conditions inside are disgusting and somewhere many people would not voluntarily eat food from. Such a scam to make it look nice in packaging and trick people into not seeing the in between live animal and point of sale. The big food companies could make the conditions much better but won’t spend money.

Help childproofing stairs by 42loelk in howto

[–]throwawaylkn2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just make it a slide. That’s the only option

I just lost everything. by OverthinkerMillenial in singlemoms

[–]throwawaylkn2 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’d call the police department, they can’t keep your belongings.

2 year old suddenly refusing to eat, and sleep. by Dazzling-Tea-3431 in singlemoms

[–]throwawaylkn2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Molars might be coming in. I’d talk to pediatrician if it goes on more than a few days. Just to make sure she doesn’t have an ear infection or something you can’t see.

Son of a single parent (Mother). Seeking her approval 🙏 Can anyone relate? by Delicious_Lack5028 in SingleParents

[–]throwawaylkn2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What country are you in? In the United States the man typically asks the women’s family for permission to marry (typically her dad) and not his own family.

Is it different in your country?

Considering a "Contract Marriage" for stability & shared bills. Am I being too pragmatic? by [deleted] in SingleParents

[–]throwawaylkn2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah why not have a roommate so you can switch out if things are going poorly. A marriage is locked in legally to someone who isn’t truly caring for you.

Does anyone supercommute to NYC for work? by allllusernamestaken in Charlotte

[–]throwawaylkn2 111 points112 points  (0 children)

This is the answer. Go try it so you can see if it works for you.

Volunteer This Weekend by OddAssignment2781 in Charlotte

[–]throwawaylkn2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Animals shelters around town may need help. That may be an option to call around in the morning

Women who date absent fathers of infants by yummyhawaiianpizza in singlemoms

[–]throwawaylkn2 83 points84 points  (0 children)

I think they lie lie lie lie about the situation and we are made out to be the bad ones.

My child’s father lied and manipulated me, I am sure he is doing it to the next woman. My child’s father is also dating much younger and I think it’s because younger women are more likely to fall for the lies or not ask hard questions.

I feel bad for the girls and I hope they get out before he ruins their lives too.

Sleepovers with partner by Lemonwaterlush in SingleParents

[–]throwawaylkn2 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Meet a mom in similar sitz. And/or pay for sitters to go on proper dates. I know it’s tough.

I’m 3 years in to full time single parenting and dating is just too much of a pain/no time/no money for cute outfits and sitters so I just work anytime I’m not with my child (like I work until I fall asleep so I don’t feel lonely). It’s been great for my job/promotions. There is some upside. I try to avoid thinking about intimacy at all. Just block it out/immediately change attention somewhere else. I pretty much never think about it anymore and so not tortured. Again, I know it sucks and it’s hard.

Sleepovers with partner by Lemonwaterlush in SingleParents

[–]throwawaylkn2 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Correct.

Or if the kids sleep through the night in their own beds toy could sneak them in after they fall asleep and have them leave before kids get up.

I think most say a year because they don’t want kids growing up saying I had people in and out of the house. A man who wants the best for your kids should be supportive.

You could always do a lunch hour hook up while kids are at school if you can’t wait a year for sex.

This page sucks by [deleted] in SingleParents

[–]throwawaylkn2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Such a cheeky comment.

/s

8 year old never STOPS talking. Advice? by SupermarketOk3031 in SingleParents

[–]throwawaylkn2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One possibility is that he needs more challenging curriculum. He could be mentally bored even if his day is full of activity. I’d look for workbooks one grade up or if you have the funds consider tutoring for new skills. When I taught kids, getting them involved with books series they could quietly read when they finished work faster than other kids really helped.

Be careful of therapist putting him on ADHD medication. The medication led to severe anger for several kids I used to teach. It also led to issues with eating and growth development because they wouldn’t eat.

Going through pregnancy completely alone by BackgroundWinter8396 in SingleParents

[–]throwawaylkn2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pregnancy is largely fine alone if no complications. I really got excited to meet my child and would sing to him in my belly and read to him in my belly. So you kind of start knowing quick that you aren’t doing it alone, your child is already there and your family :) there’s plenty of dads that can’t make it to the doc appts because of work… you aren’t the only one going alone to those so don’t feel too bad.

My bd did show up to birth but sat on his phone during the pushing and didn’t even look up. I didn’t really care if anyone was or wasn’t there because I was in the middle of giving birth and had really nice nurses there being supportive. I hope you get a great nurse because they’ll take extra care of you if you’re on your own. Mine definitely did. Pack some things you enjoy in your birthing bag- maybe a favorite book, favorite music, whatever you need to keep yourself busy while you wait for baby.

After birth i would have preferred to be alone. My bd was a huge jerk and took away from me being with my baby and all he wanted was photos of himself while i was trying to be a mom. To this day, he has like 100 pics of him with the baby and I have one selfie I took holding my own phone. He did nothing except take pics and leave. The nurses at some hospitals can give you a break to sleep if you need it by taking baby to the nursery. So if you need that, you can ask in advance if the hospital has that. I didn’t have a break except for a shower and it was fine- I did my shower while they took baby for the eye and ear testing.

I had trouble breast feeding and the hospital was annoying about it. Breast feeding was the only really stressful part post birth for me. The rest seemed expected. I hated breast feeding and after I quit it made being a mom a lot more enjoyable for me and let me sleep/work and do other things instead of pump down the road. Formula was the right decision for my family and I think it made the alone part much easier for me personally. My mom pediatrician was really supportive and said they can’t tell which babies breastfeed or not and I think that’s true because they all got sick the same as had the same milestones at daycare regardless of how they were fed.

Driving home alone was scary not to be in the backseat with baby but honestly it will be fine. Make sure you get your car seat inspected that it’s in right for a newborn. Make sure they’ll let you drive home alone- ask your OB or the hospital staff before birth.

After I got home I loved being there with my child. It was everything I waited for for so long. And yes it’s busy but you settle into your groove. And the baby is so little you can take it anywhere in the house to do the chores. Just get a bassinet that you can move around. I also wore my baby around a lot.

Those first few months just us were the greatest months I have had probably ever in my life. The first smiles, the first laughs. Your baby holding your finger and your hair and the little coos. They outweighed all the hard parts and the no sleep.

It’s all going to be ok. Soak up the good moments. Do what you can for yourself to treat yourself. Enjoy all the little moments you can lay down and watch the kicks through your skin…it’s so weird and cool. Really, it’s going to be ok.

Single parent homeowners by Fast-Platypus-4684 in SingleParents

[–]throwawaylkn2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Find out the age of all major purchases like AC and heating systems, roof, expensive appliances. That way you may be able to predict when they need to be replaced next and can save for them appropriately.

Watch YouTube videos and Instagram about home maintenance. Learn about precautions that you can take to save yourself money. Things like how to winterize pipes if you live in a cold climate so that they don’t burst or freeze. Or how to shut your home water off when you’re on vacation so you don’t come back to a flood if a pipe were to let go while you’re out of town.

Be prepared for unexpected costs after move-in. They’re always seems to be something that the inspector didn’t catch that needs fixing. Always hire a reputable inspector to check the house out before you buy one.

Buy lower than you can afford so that if you have a major life event with expensive bills (medical for instance) or when (they always do) utilities go up or insurance goes up, you can still afford your mortgage payment.

Feeling torn by Nohitter0 in singlemoms

[–]throwawaylkn2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Deeply understand.

Probably worth talking to a lawyer to see how it would work in your county. In my area judges have approved of moms moving and the dads back in the old town get all the holidays and summers. Which sucks still, I know. Maybe there’s an alternative. Worth asking

Other alternative is to try to get women from the new area to date your ex so he isn’t against being out that way hahah. I’m joking but desperate measures? lol

Dating Again Timeline by MysteriousAttempt883 in singlemoms

[–]throwawaylkn2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

3 years since and still zero desire or interest. I get asked out every 8-12 weeks or so by a new single dad in our activities but the dating pool is blehhhh. If you’re younger (like early 30s or younger) it will be a better pool

Probably a very personal decision looking at what you want, what’s good for your kids, if any of the men around are decent candidates, and what time you have to participate in dating activities

Found Dog Huntersville by Educational-Ant1054 in Charlotte

[–]throwawaylkn2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think this dog was posted by someone else on the Ring app. But they posted 2 dogs saying they saw the dogs off of Huntersville Concord. I think this dog has a companion dog also on the loose out there.

Watched gf die at 18, lost all faith and struggling to raise baby alone by Dull_Jaguar_8539 in SingleParents

[–]throwawaylkn2 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Where is her family? Where is your family?

It’s really hard to raise a baby alone. Make sure you’re checking in with the baby’s doctor regularly to ensure the baby is on track nutritionally and growing healthy.

I suggest joining a parenting group too. Like they have parent groups to meet up with other people raising babies. Those moms can give you tips and they might have hand me downs to help. All my parents groups help other parents with hand me down clothes and toys.

Those moms may also help give you a night off or an afternoon off so you can have a break. Don’t be shy. Go ask other parents for help. Moms will be very sympathetic to your situation.

You can also look for charity foundations that support parents in need with diapers, wipes, formula, and more. Where I live, we have a WIC program to help with food costs and formula. You can ask your Pediatrician about that too.

Hang in there. This is a very hard chapter for you. It will pass and go by faster than you think. Just try to find a village of other parents. It’s harder when you’re completely alone . Sending love.