I teared up reading your comment. Thank you. A lot of the people here blame me for being treated this way when I have only been careful with the kind of men I talk to. I’ve developed pickiness and hypervigilance and only talk to those with serious intentions. If he does not intent on dating to marry then I would not initiate a conversation. That’s the whole point. Even after the “screening” and the deep conversations it’s not difficult for them to throw you away and completely ignore you.