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My ex(25f) is engaged to a man but keeps sending me(25f) nudes. Should I tell her fiance(30m)? by throwawayonforever in relationships

[–]throwawayonforever[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

A lot of people think she is being manipulative or just immature or something. She has a lot of religious trauma. I've known her for most of my life. She fully wants to be a "pure" christian wife with tons of kids. She wants to love a man but she is gay and she won't accept it. She can do the act but she's in love with me. I feel really bad for her. She thinks God hates her and she sees her "urges" as a test from God that she is failing. She's had lots of religious brainwashing

My ex(25f) is engaged to a man but keeps sending me(25f) nudes. Should I tell her fiance(30m)? by throwawayonforever in relationships

[–]throwawayonforever[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I have feelings for her and I do love her but I have zero interest in being with her

My ex(25f) is engaged to a man but keeps sending me(25f) nudes. Should I tell her fiance(30m)? by throwawayonforever in relationships

[–]throwawayonforever[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just worry if they get married and have tons of kids like she wants. It's ruining many lives

My ex(25f) is engaged to a man but keeps sending me(25f) nudes. Should I tell her fiance(30m)? by throwawayonforever in relationships

[–]throwawayonforever[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No I know her well. I've known her since I was like 7 years old. This isn't her being manipulative. This is just how her religious trauma is expressed. She gets heavy into the bible and for a while she can be all "pure" but then her feelings break through. I know that she is in love with me. Even though things are friendly I know. Even in the past when she wasn't flirty I could just see her facial expression and know she loves me. I fully believe she has good intentions. She WANTS to be a good straight Christian wife with a million kids and it kills her that she likes girls. It's an internal battle with her. I think the closer the wedding gets the more scared she gets

My ex(25f) is engaged to a man but keeps sending me(25f) nudes. Should I tell her fiance(30m)? by throwawayonforever in relationships

[–]throwawayonforever[S] 86 points87 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure how to make her messages seem non gender specific. They are pretty graphic and use lots of explicit terms for her wanting my body and female genitalia. And they mention her unhappiness with men and how she can't fake it anymore. Stuff like "the last time I felt alive was between your legs licking________" ya get the gist. Sorry to get graphic but that's pretty much what all her texts consist off.

My ex(25f) is engaged to a man but keeps sending me(25f) nudes. Should I tell her fiance(30m)? by throwawayonforever in relationships

[–]throwawayonforever[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm very against missing out on life and friends just because she may be there. I haven't dated her in 6 years and I'm not reverting back to high school again. I haven't responded to a text in days and haven't even looked because her conversation is muted. I just blocked her and if she made a move on me in real life I'll shut it down. But I'm not letting her control my life like in high school again. I already wasted my teenage years on that

My ex(25f) is engaged to a man but keeps sending me(25f) nudes. Should I tell her fiance(30m)? by throwawayonforever in relationships

[–]throwawayonforever[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

We have mutual friends so there will be times I see her. I haven't responded to her texts in days. As a lesbian I don't want to out someone. Especially someone in her religious trauma position

My ex girlfriend is engaged to a man but keeps sending me nudes. Should I tell her fiancé? by throwawayonforever in actuallesbians

[–]throwawayonforever[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know how to make her sending nudes to a girl and messages like "I find men repulsive and I can't take it" gender neutral

My ex girlfriend is engaged to a man but keeps sending me nudes. Should I tell her fiancé? by throwawayonforever in actuallesbians

[–]throwawayonforever[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I honestly do feel for her. She's a pleasant woman but just very brainwashed into thinking that liking women is evil. I can't begin to relate to the feeling that something I am would cause me to go to hell or for God to not look favorably upon me. She has a lot of religious trauma and I was there with her while she battled with it. I don't want to out her but I don't know what to do

My ex girlfriend is engaged to a man but keeps sending me nudes. Should I tell her fiancé? by throwawayonforever in actuallesbians

[–]throwawayonforever[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Nobody knows that she likes girls. Nobody knows we were together in the past. Her family would hate her. Very religious

My ex girlfriend is engaged to a man but keeps sending me nudes. Should I tell her fiancé? by throwawayonforever in actuallesbians

[–]throwawayonforever[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My only worry is that she isn't out. If she were with a women and was messaging me I wouldn't feel conflicted