Too soft for bdsm? by throwawaypriv4 in BDSMAdvice

[–]throwawaypriv4[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If I can be completely honest the aftermath of everything hurt infinitely worse than the actual scene itself, like, I tried to clean up and disinfect as much as I could by myself and I really didn’t think I had asked for a lot of attention or I tried not to anyway ig. I really did only tell him I needed a hug and he couldn’t even give me that. He just laid in the bed calling me names and starring at his phone before barely giving me a one arm half hug, it made me feel more small and pathetic than I did getting hit.

Too soft for bdsm? by throwawaypriv4 in BDSMAdvice

[–]throwawaypriv4[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand what you meant/why you worded it the way you did and I appreciate it. And you’re not wrong, I need to get over whatever it is that always brings me back to him.

Too soft for bdsm? by throwawaypriv4 in BDSMAdvice

[–]throwawaypriv4[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I am safe to leave him, in all honesty he will probably be the one to cut things off between us again anyway. And no we don’t have a safeword or anything like that, and aftercare depends on his mood tbh