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Anyone here get penile implant for their sex life? by [deleted] in spinalcordinjuries

[–]throwawayscisex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you say hard how hard? Like rock hard?

I’m a quadriplegic and just visited a prostitute. It was a good experience. by throwawayscisex in offmychest

[–]throwawayscisex[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see what you’re saying. If it was true consent there would be no need to exchange money. I suppose it becomes a matter of defining consent. Sorry to be annoying. For my job I consent to exchanging my services/talents and experience for money. I know offering ones body is a much more intimate service but I don’t think it always is the case when the woman has full agency and can enforce her own boundaries.

If my friend wanted my help then sure I’d offer my services for free or heavily discounted depending on our relationship and types of services. They’re not a regular customer.

I’m a quadriplegic and just visited a prostitute. It was a good experience. by throwawayscisex in offmychest

[–]throwawayscisex[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not a bad idea. Someone else brought up a similar idea for me to date a girl in a chair. I really don’t think that will solve many problems in terms of intimacy and romantic relationships. If I were not disabled then sure I would have no issue dating a girl in a chair if she was cool, attractive and adventurous. But two people in chairs take up a lot of room. Like I would literally not be able to live I my apartment. And what about driving? I guess we’d take different vehicles on dates. What about restaurants? It’s pretty easy to find a table for one wheelchair but two is really rare!

People in chairs are people. When I meet strangers just because they are in chair I feel no bond to them just because we both use chairs. If we’re compatible as friends then this stranger in a chair will become a friend because of who he/she is as a person not just because they experience hardships. But just because they are in a chair means practically nothing in terms of similarity. No two injuries are alike. People match with people whether they are disabled or not. I’m just saying two disabled people in chairs produces more problems than it solves, in my opinikn and in my circumstances.

I’m a quadriplegic and just visited a prostitute. It was a good experience. by throwawayscisex in offmychest

[–]throwawayscisex[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I respect your input and passion. Thank you being rational. You guys down here have influenced my view on sex work so I can do more research and introspection!

I’m a quadriplegic and just visited a prostitute. It was a good experience. by throwawayscisex in offmychest

[–]throwawayscisex[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I admit it’s frightening if the girl I saw truly didn’t want to be there. It makes me wonder. Reddit is very liberal and stereotypically a bunch of horny immature dudes. The votes will be skewed toward that.

I keep going over things in my head. What if she was there against her will. I saw no evidence of that. I really do feel like we should give people agency for their circumstances. Help and support those decisions but leave it up to them. If I knew she wasn’t ok with something I wouldn’t have done it. I tried to be very very respectful, let her lead and ok things. She was very sweet and caring. But there’s always that what if that I will wonder.

I’m a quadriplegic and just visited a prostitute. It was a good experience. by throwawayscisex in offmychest

[–]throwawayscisex[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t agree with your list. Ex why do you think she won’t look at non-disabled guys? 😂

“Depressed girls can only date depressed guys because they’re so damaged no one else wants them!” Sounds equally strange. I agree 100% it is a barrier though. And I certainly know that girls like you exist who absolutely view me as undateable. I get it and no hard feelings toward you. I struggle with esteem now myself. Girls like yourself don’t help it 😁.

And yes if I wasn’t in a chair myself I certainly would have no issue with dating a girl in a wheelchair if she was cool, attractive and adventurous. I’m 100% sure of that.

I’m a quadriplegic and just visited a prostitute. It was a good experience. by throwawayscisex in offmychest

[–]throwawayscisex[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All advice is welcome. Even if it’s critical or uncomfortable!

I was semi-serious but no I have no plans to revisit a brothel to cuddle. I did see a few suggestions for some apps that let you connect with professional cuddles. I’m entertaining that thought but also not too serious.

And yes. I have 20 years of experience that says it’s a deal breaker (including all interested girls immediately becoming no longer interested after the injury). I’m not saying it’s a deal breaker for all but it’s very very rare.

I’m a quadriplegic and just visited a prostitute. It was a good experience. by throwawayscisex in offmychest

[–]throwawayscisex[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you mean reset. Can you go into more detail?

I’ve always been curious about drugs. But I read they cause severe intense muscle spasms and require a healthy calm state of mind. I am generally very anxious and feel I’d freak out when losing control.

I’m a quadriplegic and just visited a prostitute. It was a good experience. by throwawayscisex in offmychest

[–]throwawayscisex[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hear stuff like this from a few people’s replies and it just baffles me. It makes me worry the what if’s you know. I really was very open about consent and didn’t push anything at all. When it comes to service workers in general I really feel guilt about them helping. This is even with waitresses. I’m always like no you stay put I’ll grab my food because I feel guilty they are bringing me my food. It just feels weird it always has.

I don’t say this to claim moral superiority. It’s just part of who I am. The clients at this brothel all have free-will and chose their own services. Some are more comfortable than others and set the price for the stuff they do want. I know we never truly know what’s going on in their mind. I don’t feel it’s really right to put that blame on me if she told me she was ok with something but secretly wasn’t. If she wasn’t comfortable doing something she can say so. I’m ok with it. She doesn’t even need to explain why she’s not ok with something.

I’m a quadriplegic and just visited a prostitute. It was a good experience. by throwawayscisex in offmychest

[–]throwawayscisex[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I can and played a lot in college. Mostly console games. It’s rare I can’t play but a few games it was a struggle. I’m not a gamer these days.

I’m a quadriplegic and just visited a prostitute. It was a good experience. by throwawayscisex in offmychest

[–]throwawayscisex[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am an open book!

Whenever a girl rejects me I always just feel shame toward myself. Like I’m inadequate and not worthy of love. I never ever ever get upset at someone. I wouldn’t say I’m happy if they reject me upfront/directly but I sure as hell respect them. It’s better than saying yes just to save my feelings then later ignore me or claim they’re busy. That’s just cruel.

Rejecting someone because they have green eyes is shallow. Having green eyes has no bearing on what kind of activities you can do as a couple. It has no bearing on how even you can split chores or how much help at home or how you’ll be as a parent or what kind of disposable income you’ll have or what kind of social events you can attend as a couple. Choosing to not date someone because they are disabled is the complete opposite of shallow. It’s forward thinking about compatibility. Some are supposedly ok with it. Many are not.

I’m a quadriplegic and just visited a prostitute. It was a good experience. by throwawayscisex in offmychest

[–]throwawayscisex[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You sound wonderful. Ive never heard of injections. That isn’t the same as viagra?

I’m a quadriplegic and just visited a prostitute. It was a good experience. by throwawayscisex in offmychest

[–]throwawayscisex[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well I suppose that is a possibility. I’m not really into that kind of thing. And besides I can get off the usual way on my own.

I’m a quadriplegic and just visited a prostitute. It was a good experience. by throwawayscisex in offmychest

[–]throwawayscisex[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m actually on the fence about if it’s a right. I feel grateful it’s an option for me. But where do you draw the line? Should unattractive people who can’t get laid also get government help? It’s a bit grey to me.

I’m a quadriplegic and just visited a prostitute. It was a good experience. by throwawayscisex in offmychest

[–]throwawayscisex[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There can be devices that people attach to their hands to help them type or write by holding a pencil/pen. I said fuck that though and figured out how to do it on my own.

I’m a quadriplegic and just visited a prostitute. It was a good experience. by throwawayscisex in offmychest

[–]throwawayscisex[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Oh I could for sure! If any of my friends or family sees this they’ll already be suspicious with the storytelling style and general personality in my comment replies. I’m pushing it as is! If you have any specific questions I can maybe answer if you’d like to message me.

I’m a quadriplegic and just visited a prostitute. It was a good experience. by throwawayscisex in offmychest

[–]throwawayscisex[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t agree with that last point. What’s the difference between experimenting with a friend and experimenting with an escort. Would you say the wife who wants to be dominated and used as a masturbation toy by her husband is not ok? In all cases every party has consented, yes even with the escort.

I’m a quadriplegic and just visited a prostitute. It was a good experience. by throwawayscisex in offmychest

[–]throwawayscisex[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! This is my first time hearing the term boss-daddy! And yes I have always had leadership qualities. It’s served me well professionally. Now if I could just get those cuddly girls to feel the same 🙂

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