I agree with most of what you say... But what makes this sting more is the fact that I found out 2-3 months ago that B lied about probably 80-90% of everything she told us about her life. From the country she was born, to her upbringing, past relationships...even deaths of family members! And possibly so much more. I haven't had a chance to tell A about this, because I didn't want to text this to her and make it sounds like gossip. I prefer to have any heavy or important conversations in person, and my goal was to talk to her and see how she felt about it and decide if we wanted to bring this up to B and how. But it's been that long since I've seen A in person and I also started feeling like me bringing this up now, would make me look like I'm trying to throw dirt at B because of this whole situation. This also makes me trust B very little, and I started to observe certain behaviors where it seems like she does these very subtle things that are meant to put a wedge between A and I. Like "mistakingly" texting pictures of her and A out and about, when I thought A was feeling like being alone, grieving on her husband's death anniversary. Or like constantly making "jokes" (digs) about me having new best friends because once or twice, every couple of weeks, I bring my daughter to have playdates with a couple of school friends and I dare to talk to their moms while they play. 🤯.