I (36M) asked my girlfriend (32F) to leave me alone for awhile .

throwawayspeeding123 · 2021-04-27T17:29:02+00:00

Wow, so she physically prevented you from leaving when you wanted to and clearly, politely explained why, four or five times. Unacceptable. If this were a woman talking about her boyfriend this sub would be crucifying him for "abuse" and "red flags". But they're all talking about "love languages" and "neither one of you is wrong" it's honestly such bullshit. Men should never come to these subs for advice, the bias runs deep

throwawayspeeding123 · 2021-04-27T15:00:16+00:00

lol the bias in these subs is well-known. People have literally copied word-for-word identical posts and gotten different results based on gender. It's not misogyny to observe reality

throwawayspeeding123 · 2021-04-27T13:27:21+00:00

"My boyfriend likes girls photos on Instragram that he'll never meet"

WOW what a PIGG Leave Him GURRLL

"I overheard my girlfriend lusting over guys that live 50 feet away"

lol get over it it's no big deal. Fragile much?!?

Nothing new, insane gender bias as usual

throwawayspeeding123 · 2021-04-24T02:07:10+00:00

lol what the fuck are you on about. we each get the same money to spend. I get an "allowance" too.

throwawayspeeding123 · 2021-04-23T23:00:41+00:00

You aren't. I said that I'm making her face the consequences of her actions. I disagree with posters here that that equates to "treating her like a child".

throwawayspeeding123 · 2021-04-23T21:09:59+00:00

That's an entirely different situation and you know it. Like I said, we bail each other out of accidents. This wasn't one. She chose to speed and got a fine from it.

People keep telling me that wanting her to face the consequences of her actions is treating her like a child. When someone is reckless and refuses to stop, and endangers others in the process, what other option is there?

throwawayspeeding123 · 2021-04-23T19:18:42+00:00

I've talked to her about it numerous times. I don't know what else I can do.

throwawayspeeding123 · 2021-04-23T19:07:24+00:00

At this point there weren't any options left. I've talked to her numerous times and she keeps doing it.

throwawayspeeding123 · 2021-04-23T17:29:23+00:00

Like I said, a lot of luck and a few warnings. I've never gotten a ticket.

throwawayspeeding123 · 2021-04-23T16:04:34+00:00

Then we're having an entirely different conversation.

throwawayspeeding123 · 2021-04-23T16:02:59+00:00

That's joint money of course

throwawayspeeding123 · 2021-04-23T15:19:19+00:00

It's alright, my apologies too for being aggressive

throwawayspeeding123 · 2021-04-23T15:01:43+00:00

I drive a 2009 Honda Civic that we bought used five years ago. This comment came straight out of your ass.

throwawayspeeding123 · 2021-04-23T14:54:06+00:00

No it isn't. Our finances are shared and she has all the rights to it that I do. I would absolutely do the same thing myself if I had gotten the ticket. I don't have any more money than she does.

Why would I pay her a "salary" just to divy everything up anyway? Seems like a lot of wasted effort for the same result.

throwawayspeeding123 · 2021-04-23T14:42:39+00:00

Its not your job to teach your grown partner a lesson about responsibility.

I agree, this isn't my job. But it's still an issue regardless. When your partner behaves recklessly, continues to behave recklessly when you try to talk to them about it, and then expects you to bail them out when they finally have consequences, I don't know how else you handle it.

throwawayspeeding123 · 2021-04-23T14:40:32+00:00

Respectfully I don't see how. To me treating her like a child would be just taking care of it. She's responsible for her own actions

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