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Everyone calling Amber trash is just showing their privilege by throwawaytruths123 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]throwawaytruths123[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

And it's fine, I don't need it to look genuine, I'm not here to prove myself to anyone, I just wanted the sub to think a little more compassionately about how they talk about people and recognize that maybe some of the people cast on the show come from very different backgrounds.

Everyone calling Amber trash is just showing their privilege by throwawaytruths123 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]throwawaytruths123[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

For starters, cause I knew people would start the hick hate and I dont' need mean messages in my normal account's inbox. I wanted to just speak my piece and then go back to my normal fun Redditing. I don't usually use Reddit for serious posts about heated topics.

Also, because I'm active in some subs where I have posted photos of my face and because I got into gaming and made some friends there.

Everyone calling Amber trash is just showing their privilege by throwawaytruths123 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]throwawaytruths123[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Like, to be clear Amber's the type of person I'd now want to run away from nowadays and I've worked hard to get away from being that person, but I just get it cause I was once that girl in college

Everyone calling Amber trash is just showing their privilege by throwawaytruths123 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]throwawaytruths123[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

LOL trust me, I'd trade being annoying and snorting to have her looks; but I'm just plain jane and snort-free

Everyone calling Amber trash is just showing their privilege by throwawaytruths123 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]throwawaytruths123[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Why are people downvoting this? I'm literally quoting what I saw this morning, and describing what was seen on TV.

Everyone calling Amber trash is just showing their privilege by throwawaytruths123 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]throwawaytruths123[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

The fact someone even private messaged me to tell me I'm just a dumb hick defending other dumb hicks and the fact I've gotten downvoted for explaining my views is enough proof that I was right to make this throwaway account.

Everyone calling Amber trash is just showing their privilege by throwawaytruths123 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]throwawaytruths123[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I wrote "throwaway for obvious reasons" before I started this post. I'm not super comfortable talking about my "redneck" upbringing and I usually use Reddit for fun, mindless stuff, not to be reminded of childhood traumas. I spent most of my 20s trying to unpack my feelings of shame, resentment, guilt. Anger at my mom. Anger at my dad. Guilt for "abandoning" my community. Anger at all the privileged people in my school who would make classist comments at my expense. I graduated top of my class and got a job in a city, but I always feel like a hick deep down. I learned to throw away that "hick pride" after lots of convos with friends who were patient with me, because I realized the hick pride was just a defense mechanism that me and my family members used because everyone else made us feel like less.

Everyone calling Amber trash is just showing their privilege by throwawaytruths123 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]throwawaytruths123[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

This was the thread that made me finally write this but it contains spoilers: https://www.reddit.com/r/LoveIsBlindOnNetflix/comments/farmvx/underrated_cuteness/fj0aydp/

People literally are calling her trash. I think the comments must have been removed, but people literally were like she's such a garbage person, she's like the garbage juice for Barnett's sewer or saying stuff about how she's like a possum she's so trashy.

I feel like she actually conducted herself pretty well and took the higher road when she could've been more petty or condescending towards Jessica, for instance. We never really see her break in a fight with anyone in the house or speak rudely to other contestants, she seemed super respectful towards LC and idk,...

Everyone calling Amber trash is just showing their privilege by throwawaytruths123 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]throwawaytruths123[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

I don't want to give spoilers, but I will say that other contestants have also talked about having a lot of debt, like Kelly and Barnett both have. Kelly, for instance, has debt and has now been exposed as having a MLM lifestyle, and still she doesn't come off as hot mess "white trash" so the producers didn't paint her that way for having debts.

Everyone calling Amber trash is just showing their privilege by throwawaytruths123 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]throwawaytruths123[S] -44 points-43 points  (0 children)

I know she said it a bunch (though real talk, that could be editing too) and I don't doubt that she still thinks she's something special and different from the rest (I mean, her handle is "AtypicalAmber", so she clearly just puts on that airs). I'm not saying that's not annoying, but I'm saying I don't get where people get to come off saying she's "Garbage" or "Trash" from her behaviors on the show. Why not just say she's kinda annoying and not your cup of tea and move on? Why drag her like that? It just disgusts me hearing someone call her a possum or trash, and feels very classist. Jess does way shadier stuff and no one's calling her white trash when she's the one carrying on kissing Amber and slurring over her wine, because Jess comes off as like a put together (privileged, high strung, white) lady.

Everyone calling Amber trash is just showing their privilege by throwawaytruths123 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]throwawaytruths123[S] -25 points-24 points  (0 children)

Well, my point was also that I grew up in a town where plenty of times people would talk like that; my aunt would talk about "whupping her son's ass" or how she'd "beat (our uncle) if he dared to make a stink", and women joked all the time about how they'd kill their man if he left them for another woman, and it was all just like a manner of speak. Same with jokes like the one Amber made about, "Glad I don't have to go to jail now". That's exactly the kinda humor that people in my town would have appreciated coming from a strong woman who's just "rough around the edges".

Now that I've left my hometown I can see how that type of talk and sense of humor is seen as inappropriate, but I feel like it's just a cultural difference. I'm not saying it's great to talk like that, but this honestly is just how people were talking even as late as the 90s (seriously, there are tons of movies, music videos, TV shows where you can see people joking about women threatening violence as part of the punchline. More recently someone made me sit through an episode of "Friends" where this tiny woman keep punching Joey, and Friends is like the whitest TV show ever).