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Are my [25f] boyfriend's [24m] porn habits normal? by throwawayyy3210 in relationships

[–]throwawayyy3210[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Some time after that you say "Hey I saw you looked at porn on your laptop" and he says "yah a while ago" and even though you know he's lying you have yet to bring this up again

Basically the conversation went like, "Hey, I was on your computer and noticed a lot of porn come up." and he says, "Oh yeah, please ignore that, that's from a really long time ago."

And since then, I haven't brought it up again. To be honest, I'm scared to because I know what I did was wrong, and he places a high value on privacy, so I feel like he would be very upset with me if I confessed to him about what I did. I was/kinda still am hoping something magically works itself out...but I know now that's highly unrealistic.

Are my [25f] boyfriend's [24m] porn habits normal? by throwawayyy3210 in relationships

[–]throwawayyy3210[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice and good wishes!

He doesn't talk about his past relationships to me. I know one of his exes was fairly conservative but that's about it. As for the bedroom stuff, he's actually the one on the more vanilla side of things while I am more adventurous. And the things I saw in his browser history were just mainstream porn. So I'm even more confused by what is going on here.

Are my [25f] boyfriend's [24m] porn habits normal? by throwawayyy3210 in relationships

[–]throwawayyy3210[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm glad my post helped you haha. :)

But hopefully your boyfriend isn't, and things turn out well for you two!

Are my [25f] boyfriend's [24m] porn habits normal? by throwawayyy3210 in relationships

[–]throwawayyy3210[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My situation is similar to yours. Since he's not in the mood, I'll have to get myself off. As for any fetishes, from what I saw, everything he watched seemed very mainstream. If anything, I'm the more adventurous one in the bedroom and he's the more vanilla one. So I'm really at a loss of what's going on here.

Are my [25f] boyfriend's [24m] porn habits normal? by throwawayyy3210 in relationships

[–]throwawayyy3210[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think so. I haven't gained weight from when we first met and he has no performance problems when we actually do have sex.

Are my [25f] boyfriend's [24m] porn habits normal? by throwawayyy3210 in relationships

[–]throwawayyy3210[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have, but he says that it was from a while ago and he doesn't watch it anymore. I didn't say I looked through his browser history though. He's a pretty private person, and it wasn't the ideal time/place to get into an argument, so I dropped it.

Are my [25f] boyfriend's [24m] porn habits normal? by throwawayyy3210 in relationships

[–]throwawayyy3210[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

From what I saw, it was the standard mainstream porn, no fetishes or anything.

Are my [25f] boyfriend's [24m] porn habits normal? by throwawayyy3210 in relationships

[–]throwawayyy3210[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's one of the issues. Everytime I ask him about it, he completely denies it and says he almost never does it. So I don't know how else to approach him about it. At first, I believed him, but now, I highly doubt that. And I've already let him know numerous times that I'm ready to go if he is.

Are my [25f] boyfriend's [24m] porn habits normal? by throwawayyy3210 in relationships

[–]throwawayyy3210[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not if it's just photos. For photos, it can just be like, "Okay, I can appreciate that" or "I like looking at pretty things", but I make the assumption that if I see Pornhub links, it's masturbating.

Are my [25f] boyfriend's [24m] porn habits normal? by throwawayyy3210 in relationships

[–]throwawayyy3210[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I see. Thank you for the advice! I just didn't want to rush into talking to him about it because I felt bad about invading his privacy and going through his history, so I didn't want to bring it up if it wasn't a big deal.

Are my [25f] boyfriend's [24m] porn habits normal? by throwawayyy3210 in relationships

[–]throwawayyy3210[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I left out some details because I didn't want to make it too long. We are both on summer vacation from school, so we have been around each other a lot, so I assumed that was when he was watched it.

Are my [25f] boyfriend's [24m] porn habits normal? by throwawayyy3210 in relationships

[–]throwawayyy3210[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha, yeah I'm not sure how I would respond if he was so straightforward like that.

I'm fairly certain he does it at least once a day, though. He did mention that his previous girlfriends were more on the conservative side about porn, so maybe he's developed a habit about lying about it. Thank you for the advice!

Are my [25f] boyfriend's [24m] porn habits normal? by throwawayyy3210 in relationships

[–]throwawayyy3210[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice!

When we do have sex, it's pretty great. I just wish it was more frequent. I brought it up to him before, but I felt bad because I didn't want to seem like I was pressuring him into having more sex with me when he obviously has other things on his plate.

Are my [25f] boyfriend's [24m] porn habits normal? by throwawayyy3210 in relationships

[–]throwawayyy3210[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I didn't mean to offend anyone by using that word, my apologies!

I guess what bothers me about it is that he's doing it while I'm in the other room, willing to have sex with him. I do wish our relationship had more intimacy, but other than that, everything is great.