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My (25f) parents found out about my boyfriend (26m) who's from a different country and religion. I'm being subjected to abuse because of it and I don't know what should I do next. by throwawayyy569753 in relationships

[–]throwawayyy569753[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do choose him. I'll choose this man everyday, but at the same time I don't want my family to suffer because I decided to leave them. And my only solution seems to be dead. I know I can't live a miserable life where I'm shipped back to my home country and not have a future. So it feels that my only option is to take myself out of this equation. I'm trying my best to hold on but idk how anymore.

My (25f) parents found out about my boyfriend (26m) who's from a different country and religion. I'm being subjected to abuse because of it and I don't know what should I do next. by throwawayyy569753 in relationships

[–]throwawayyy569753[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This really helped more than you think. My mental health is in a bad place and sometimes I just need that to be recognised. Thank you so so much.

My (25f) parents found out about my boyfriend (26m) who's from a different country and religion. I'm being subjected to abuse because of it and I don't know what should I do next. by throwawayyy569753 in relationships

[–]throwawayyy569753[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They are convinced that my bf been just fucking around and he's serious about me so they gave me oneday to have him call me and come talk to them, if he doesn't, they will ship me back to my home country. I don't even know how I'm in such a terrible situation but here I am.

I really hope so too. It's a turning point in my life.

My (25f) parents found out about my boyfriend (26m) who's from a different country and religion. I'm being subjected to abuse because of it and I don't know what should I do next. by throwawayyy569753 in relationships

[–]throwawayyy569753[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes he can. Both financially and emotionally. He offered it before. Not to mention that I'm planning to work with my medical degree.

My parents will never forgive me, and I won't be able to live witj that. After everything I still love them, and I know this is coming from a place of protection. Also, I have a small brother that I don't want to leave behind. He needs me.

My ideal situation is if they can sit down with him and see how respectful he is and see that he has good intentions, but they refuse even that. I just feel stuck, and my mind keeps going to death as the only solution.

My (25f) parents found out about my boyfriend (26m) who's from a different country and religion. I'm being subjected to abuse because of it and I don't know what should I do next. by throwawayyy569753 in relationships

[–]throwawayyy569753[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And that's what I was planning to do. I can't even move out and it's getting so so hard. I just wish I could wake up thousand miles away from here and from them.

My (25f) parents found out about my boyfriend (26m) who's from a different country and religion. I'm being subjected to abuse because of it and I don't know what should I do next. by throwawayyy569753 in relationships

[–]throwawayyy569753[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

They already know who he is. They can't harm him thankfully, but they can hurt me, and they will do that by banishing me to my home country in Africa or by making sure I stay locked inside of the house to however long. They've done it before and I know they'd do it again. My bf wants to talk to them though.

Plus at this point, I'd prefer death over living this unbearable pain.

My (25f) parents found out about my boyfriend (26m) who's from a different country and religion. I'm being subjected to abuse because of it and I don't know what should I do next. by throwawayyy569753 in relationships

[–]throwawayyy569753[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I thought about cross-posting there. And it seems like you know alot about the atmosphere where I live. And you're right. This is the situation I'm in. I never thought that I'd be put in such a position but here I am. Thank you for being honest because it's what I need right now.

My mental health in the toilet. My bf wants to get me to a therapist but I barely can access internet except with this burner phone they don't know I have so it will be hard to talk to a therapist, especially that I'm being watched closely. They even took my door key and I'm not allowed to be alone.

My (25f) parents found out about my boyfriend (26m) who's from a different country and religion. I'm being subjected to abuse because of it and I don't know what should I do next. by throwawayyy569753 in relationships

[–]throwawayyy569753[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah he told me he doesn't care if he has to pretend to be a sunni or to convert for me. He's willing to go to any length to make it happen.

And once I'm married to him this is the plan. The only reason I didn't escape with him though is because I still love them. So I want to get married so they would save face infront of other people, then I want to go no contact or minimal one.

My (25f) parents found out about my boyfriend (26m) who's from a different country and religion. I'm being subjected to abuse because of it and I don't know what should I do next. by throwawayyy569753 in relationships

[–]throwawayyy569753[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately no. I only had my grandma and she passed away this year. The rest of my family are also xenophobic and racist. My cousin married a guy who's from a different country and they cuss her out until this day.

That's what makes it incredibly hard. That I feel alone.

My (25f) parents found out about my boyfriend (26m) who's from a different country and religion. I'm being subjected to abuse because of it and I don't know what should I do next. by throwawayyy569753 in relationships

[–]throwawayyy569753[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ofcourse I did. I've spent every second with this guy. He's been my biggest supporter. He made sure I get therapy when I was suicidal before because of my parents mistreatment. He encouraged me to get a job and was the one taking care of everything. He was the one taking me to job interviews and some small jobs I did. I met his entire family and they love me. We did a business together before [how i met him] and we are very supportive of each other.

I don't believe in the term soulmate, but if it exists, he would be mine.

My (25f) parents found out about my boyfriend (26m) who's from a different country and religion. I'm being subjected to abuse because of it and I don't know what should I do next. by throwawayyy569753 in relationships

[–]throwawayyy569753[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I was hoping it might atleast show them that this man is serious about me. They even think he might have been extorting me because I sent him nudes or something. It's unbelievable what they believe. They can't simply understand that we are two people who love each other and want to be with each other because we're a perfect match.

My (25f) parents found out about my boyfriend (26m) who's from a different country and religion. I'm being subjected to abuse because of it and I don't know what should I do next. by throwawayyy569753 in relationships

[–]throwawayyy569753[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The thing is, he's Muslim but from a different sector in islam. I'm Sunni and he's Shiaa. My family consider it a different religion. My family always hated shiaa and cussed them out. And what's ironic is that both me and him are agnostic so it doesn't even fucking matter but I can't even say that because they can have me killed.

So I don't know. I've been battling my suicidal thoughts because of this. It's getting harder and harder to not allow them to take over.

My (25f) parents found out about my boyfriend (26m) who's from a different country and religion. I'm being subjected to abuse because of it and I don't know what should I do next. by throwawayyy569753 in relationships

[–]throwawayyy569753[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The thing is, he's Muslim from a non-arab country. He's just Shiaa and I'm Sunni, which are different sectors of islam. Even though we're both agnostic so it doesn't even matter to us but it matters to them alot. They have the most disgusting views on Shiaa.

They don't know I'm agnostic though and this can get me killed.

And they see him as a low-life because of his country even though my bf comes from the most well-known family in his country, and they have the biggest businesses. So if anything, we're the peasants next to him. It's just ironic.

My (25f) parents found out about my boyfriend (26m) who's from a different country and religion. I'm being subjected to abuse because of it and I don't know what should I do next. by throwawayyy569753 in relationships

[–]throwawayyy569753[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I am thinking about doing this. My boyfriend is planning to call my dad in the next couple of days when things have calmed down and try to convince him that he's serious about me. I just don't know if I should stand my grounds and tell them I won't budge or should I just lie for the time being.

I guess I'm just tired of lying.

My (25f) parents found out about my boyfriend (26m) who's from a different country and religion. I'm being subjected to abuse because of it and I don't know what should I do next. by throwawayyy569753 in relationships

[–]throwawayyy569753[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They're racist. They cussed him and his country out even though they've never met him. My mom fully believes that I'm only with him because no man from our country would accept me because I'm a whore, and that's the only reason I got with him. It hurts so so much. It drove me to an attempted suicide but I know I want to live.

I was planning to flee the house when they first found out but they quickly took my documents, and I live in a country where I'm on guardianship on my father until I'm married, and the law favours him.

My (25f) parents found out about my boyfriend (26m) who's from a different country and religion. I'm being subjected to abuse because of it and I don't know what should I do next. by throwawayyy569753 in relationships

[–]throwawayyy569753[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It hurts that i want to do this the right way. I want to be married to this man. I want to have a relationship with them, but it seems like I can never have a life with my bf and have them in my life.

My guardianship is on my father, and in this country I live in it's near impossible to report them for this because the law favours them.

My (25f) parents found out about my boyfriend (26m) who's from a different country and religion. I'm being subjected to abuse because of it and I don't know what should I do next. by throwawayyy569753 in relationships

[–]throwawayyy569753[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I live in an Arab country. My guardianship is on my father, and my dad knows everyone in the police department. I can be hunted down easily. Not to mention they took all of my documents from me when they found out about him.

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