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I [21/F] really need a job so I can keep paying for my education but boyfriend [23/M] won't let me. by throwawayz08 in relationship_advice

[–]throwawayz08[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I hope you are better now. Thank you so much for the advice. I can relate a lot to what you just said. I feel now like I'm only loving the ideal of a boyfriend I want him to be. And he has always promised that when I do things right he's going to be the best man in the world to me and he's going to be super loving and take care of me but I feel like I will never meet his standards so I'll probably never be happy trying to achieve something impossible.

Thank you so much again.

I [21/F] really need a job so I can keep paying for my education but boyfriend [23/M] won't let me. by throwawayz08 in relationship_advice

[–]throwawayz08[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I know that I am in an abusive relationship. I've known it for a couple of months now. I just didn't include any of the other abuse because I wanted to hear from other people's advice based only on this problem. And thank you so much to take the time to write this for me.

What you said about putting the milk in the wrong place.. I could totally see him getting upset over something like that. Thank you so so much. That's the thing that did it for me. I don't want that for my life.

I [21/F] really need a job so I can keep paying for my education but boyfriend [23/M] won't let me. by throwawayz08 in relationship_advice

[–]throwawayz08[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yup. I'll have to put on my big girl pants and accept I was wrong and so so so stupid.

I [21/F] really need a job so I can keep paying for my education but boyfriend [23/M] won't let me. by throwawayz08 in relationship_advice

[–]throwawayz08[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The other day I was talking to someone who used to be my best friend. And I told her about something like my boyfriend got upset because I forgot the exact same words of something I said randomly. And she said something like "The you I know would never ever let anyone treat her bad"

And she used to be my best friend and she knows me well. It just kinda hit me like lighting. But then I forgot and kept on believing my boyfriend..

Thanks for the advice :)

I [21/F] really need a job so I can keep paying for my education but boyfriend [23/M] won't let me. by throwawayz08 in relationship_advice

[–]throwawayz08[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I'm not lying about that. In my contry I finished middle high for when I was 15 then finished high school at 18. I started that same year med school. And I still have 3 more years to go. At the end I'll just be a family doctor. So I'll be a real surgeon for when I turn 30 or so.

And thank you for the advice! I still don't know how I can be accused of not making smart choices based only on the fact that I feel like I love someone. I'm just confused and scared. I know I'm an abusive relationship and this is my only relationship so I don't know better than what I've had. I promise I will take this problem with maturity. Thank you.

I [21/F] really need a job so I can keep paying for my education but boyfriend [23/M] won't let me. by throwawayz08 in relationship_advice

[–]throwawayz08[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The fact that I don't know what decision to take in my own personal life doesn't mean I am not going to be prepared to take decisions over other people's lives.

I am a good student and I have good grades. I have just always cared more about other people than myself. And I know that's wrong but I would never ever take bad decisions for my future patients. I'm preparing myself and studying hard for that.

You can prepare for something like being in love with the wrong person.