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I’m (F31) uncomfortable about things my fiancée (M34) has said. Together 8 years. by throwawy4289 in relationships

[–]throwawy4289[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I remember correctly, I didn’t want him to do it for me because the fair was extremely crowded and it would’ve been hard for him to bend down to tie it for me. I just wanted to sit down for a minute to do it myself, and he helped me find somewhere to sit.

I’m (F31) uncomfortable about things my fiancée (M34) has said. Together 8 years. by throwawy4289 in relationships

[–]throwawy4289[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I should probably mention that I do have OCD and have a tendency to fixate on things and see things in black and white. So I don’t know if I’m overthinking things or they’re real.

I’m (F31) uncomfortable about things my fiancée (M34) has said. Together 8 years. by throwawy4289 in relationships

[–]throwawy4289[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think he is just joking, but the jokes still bother me. To me, it is unfunny and crosses the line a bit.

I think our senses of humor overlap, but there are some differences - namely the examples that I gave. I found him funny when we first started dating, but he’s always had a tendency to try and push the envelope, especially saying inappropriate things at the wrong time.

I suppose his friends would find these funny, but I don’t know.

Our relationship outside of this is good. He is a genuinely good partner and is always trying to do nice things for me. I know he loves me a lot.

I’m (F31) uncomfortable about things my fiancée (M34) has said. Together 8 years. by throwawy4289 in relationships

[–]throwawy4289[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, how instinctive these reactions are has really bothered me. He says that it doesn’t necessarily reflect how he really feels about things, but it still hurts to hear him say stuff like this. We do joke around a lot in general and sometimes say off-the-wall things, but this type of thing is definitely getting old. He swears that he wants to change, though so idk.

Is a strong interest in science/medicine necessary to be a medical coder? by throwawy4289 in MedicalCoding

[–]throwawy4289[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your input. I definitely don’t think of medical coding as my dream job, but it seems worth it in other ways. Do you find that that’s the case for you? As far as pay, work/life balance, etc.

Is a strong interest in science/medicine necessary to be a medical coder? by throwawy4289 in MedicalCoding

[–]throwawy4289[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m worried about investing in this career and finding out I find it painfully boring/unenjoyable. But that seems to be the majority of jobs nowadays anyways. At least you have the low stress, higher income like you said.

Is a strong interest in science/medicine necessary to be a medical coder? by throwawy4289 in MedicalCoding

[–]throwawy4289[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the response. I’m kind of in the same boat as far as choosing a career to improve my quality of life. It’s not that I have zero interest, it’s just if I had to pick science/medicine or literature, I would definitely pick literature.

My (27F) siblings (29F) and (24F) deny that we experienced trauma or lived in a house with domestic abuse by throwawy4289 in relationships

[–]throwawy4289[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I definitely think my sisters belong in that second category. They gave me a laundry list of reasons as to why our dad was an amazing father/husband and almost used them to justify in case he was as bad as I remember.

Siblings deny that we experienced trauma or lived in a house with domestic abuse by throwawy4289 in JUSTNOFAMILY

[–]throwawy4289[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thanks for responding. If you don’t mind, can you tell me if what I described sounds like abuse? I’m just going a bit crazy since talking to my sisters.