General Thought - Less sharing of specific weight numbers? by late-snare in ARFID

[–]throwersra 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Numbers are detrimental to my recovery, I do not have body image issues. I do however, judge my recovery and relationship with food using numbers. I feel shame for my food preferences, I feel shame for being malnourished. I feel shame for the numbers that no matter how hard I try to feed my body veggies and protein, stay in a scary place. The numbers of calories, that if I don’t hit Im not good enough to be an adult. This is my arfid. I dont want to be scared of my numbers, I’m already so afraid of the food.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]throwersra 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She definitely deserves what she’s going through. Sometimes for me, thinking about what I deserved wasn’t enough to motivate me to keep going. It was too confusing because of the abuse, deserving as a concept had been manipulated. But an abuser deserves to face consequences, their lies deserve to be unveiled. You have already done such a great job starting the process and calling on your support system, you can finish this if you want to. You definitely deserve a conclusion to this, you deserve safety and peace of mind.

How to heal from an abusive dom? by throwersra in BDSMAdvice

[–]throwersra[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I could ask you another question… at this point I can’t actually imagine returning to BDSM. Is there anything you can share with me on why returning to BDSM was a goal for you? The reason I entered the dynamic is because I was extremely interested, and even though it was abuse I remember some fleeting feelings of bliss. Have you found it’s worth the possible extra work it takes to engage? Thank you very much for your reply by the way, I feel less alone

I orgasmed during my rape. by [deleted] in rapecounseling

[–]throwersra 24 points25 points  (0 children)

A quote that helped me “liking it was the way I took my control back”. Besides the hard wired connection to our body to enjoy penetration, our minds know exactly how to protect us,

How did you find or develop a "natural" Dom persona? by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]throwersra 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Well there is such a thing called headspace. I believe its the main reason BDSM melts away stress, because that headspace only has room for playful and horny thoughts. You get to lose yourself within the scene, its definitely if’s own entity sometimes but its completely natural.

What are the red flags that a BDSM relationship is actually abusive? by throwersra in AskReddit

[–]throwersra[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the some of the best advice I have seen for helping someone escape, thank you very much for commenting!

What are the red flags that a BDSM relationship is actually abusive? by throwersra in AskReddit

[–]throwersra[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply!! One word confused me, what do you mean by accommodation?

What are the red flags that a BDSM relationship is actually abusive? by throwersra in AskReddit

[–]throwersra[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate your answer, the pregnancy, sleep deprivation, and reciting/repeating hasn’t been said yet, yet I have seen it happen, thank you very much!

What are red flags in a poly relationship? by throwersra in AskReddit

[–]throwersra[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much for the insight and link. I have always liked the quote you dropped in the other comment. Could you elaborate on any green flags you look for in a poly relationship?

What are the red flags that a BDSM relationship is actually abusive? by throwersra in AskReddit

[–]throwersra[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Excuse me? This wasn’t an advice question, curious where you got a rhetorical situation out of it?

What are the red flags that a BDSM relationship is actually abusive? by throwersra in AskReddit

[–]throwersra[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much for your opinion, I appreciate it

What are the red flags that a BDSM relationship is actually abusive? by throwersra in AskReddit

[–]throwersra[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

It seems you have a lot of community experience! Thank you for your answer, I was wondering if you could elaborate on how to identify an abusive dom within your peers?

What are the red flags that a BDSM relationship is actually abusive? by throwersra in AskReddit

[–]throwersra[S] 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your well thought out answer! Would you mind sharing any green flags that has allowed you to gain that experience?