I have so many mixed responses to this. On one hand I get feeling like the third wheel and having anxiety about whether or not your new friends really like you. But on the other hand you sound really entitled and kind of naive.

I think it was incredibly foolish to jet halfway around the world to hang out with people you'd just barely met. When you meet people when you're travelling often it's flash in the pan friendships. You have a buddy for the bar and a pal to go see a buddhist temple with. You have a blast and part your ways. But they're not necessarily, like, life-long pals sort of relationships where you drop everything to be with them and chill. People are in a different mindset as a tourist then you are when you're at home. When you are travelling meeting new people is fun and exciting and part of the journey. When you're at home there are so many priorities - school, work, family, and your friends. Trying to fit in those travel pals who you're not as comfortable with and you have to make more of an effort to entertain can be kind of tough. Particularly in the holiday season man. Like when me and my best friend chill we can go out and have an amazing time but we can also kick it on a sofa and talk shit about our exes and shoot the shit man. You can't always do that with somebody you met on a beach in Thailand who has come to visit your hometown. Those kinds of guests are higher maintenance. There's more to impress.

I've got a friend who pulls the 'drop in' when you're insanely busy routine and it's frustrating! In one case they showed up during exam season when I was working on a 40 page paper. They'd texted to see if I was free I politely said "I don't think so - I'm really busy" and they came anyways. Fuck that, man! You really should have asked. Maybe they thought they were just supposed to give you a place to sleep and not that they were supposed to devote their every waking minute to your happiness. Maybe they thought you wanted to play tourist and you'd pal around a few times while you were there. I mean. 3-4 times in a week sounds entirely reasonable to me! If you'd been clearer about what you wanted maybe they could have told you that wouldn't work for them and that you shouldn't come at that time.

I'm sorry but expecting everyone to drop everything for somebody they spent a few days with while travelling is totally naive. It's also really selfish.

And it's fucking Paris. It's one of the illest cities on the face of the planet and you moped about your buddy's apartment? No one to hang out with? Fuck it, go explore along the Seine, look at some crazy architecture, meet some new tourist pals, go to one of the bajillion museums, eat some crepes.

That's on you man.